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I know you have said that you were accused of killing that man, and I feel terrible asking this, but do you have any idea on what made you do it? I had a family member who had, in the past, killed someone, I never got the guts to ask why he did it, mainly because he did not know the man, I feel like you said you didn't know this man. So, if I may ask, what do you think made you do it?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Chris has never admited to killing anyone. He can not talk about the specifics of the case because his appeal is still pending.

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Hello! I\'m 24 years old. I\'m from a very small town and very interested in art and jewelry. I was wondering your pricing on your Indian jewelry. I\'d love to buy a piece. Hope to hear from you soon.Please send information on prices of wards Indian jewelry. As stated above I have an interest in art and jewelry. Thank you! Reply soon please!!

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By: Ward Weaver

Contact ward directly

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hi.what happened?did u really do it?did u plan it?jst curious.gow do u cope-jst waiting for the day?any chance of being out?who was the victim?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

I can not talk about the specifics of my case because I still have appeals

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I have many questions for you

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By: Ward Weaver

Well, go ahead and ask..

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A good freind of mine says brother little man got in some trouble , And he is serving time in jail.The question I have to ask is why are the ceos treating her brother so bad.See he went down to the lunch room which he tries to stay away from to have lunch 1 day.And 1 of the ceos there started acting like a jerk , he told my freinds brother to sit over there so my freinds brother did.Then the ceo said no over there whats do you know something I must be an ass hole do you think am an ass hole to each other ?. Then the same ceo said to my freinds brother lets go as they started walking he asked him where they were going to take him?. They told him they where going to walk him back to his cell.So he walked with them.As he was walking with them he noticed that they took another route around instead of taking to where his cell was.Thern the officer asked him we will say officer a the 1 st officer that acted like a wise guy with him said have you ever been in trouble before?. My freinds brother said no sir?. then the officer asked him do you have any thing on you?. My freinds brother said no sir. So the officers threw him down and started checking him and the same officer said you lied .Why did you lie?.So my freinds brother said I did not lie officer.What they saw on hime was his cigarrets in his gigarret case. Then he said he felt them jerk on his pants see he had a jogging suit on and they were pulling at the strings of his pants.then the said we found a knife.they planted that kife on my freinds brother.then they kicked him and stomped him, then hit him in his ear.then choked him til he passed out.what am trying to do is find my freind a lawyer because those same people are trying to ad on extra time to some thing he did not do.then that same officer spoke to my freinds brother and told him just this week when myself , my freind and his mom came up to see him I hope your not going to worry your mom while she is up here?.Help us please some kind of way with some advice of what to do?.

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By: Timothy Baker

Thanks Kitty. I'm on the road visiting some of the inmates. I'll send this off as soon as I can. It sounds very familiar. I hear stories like this all the time. Jon- creator of ask a convict

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would you like a penn pal

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By: Andre Lewis

Kiki. I appreciate your interest in wanting to be a pen pal. I would like very much to correspond with someone inside or outside the USA. If you are serious please write me at Andre M Lewis #0558819 MCI Po box 506 Maury NC 28554

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i am currently studying how being trapped behind jail cells affects the state of mind, my question to you is do you think if you were free to go out in public you would have an irrational fear of the outside world? and also do you now feel safe when your jail cell is locked?

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By: Andre Lewis

EMMA, Personally, I know I wouldn’t have an irrational fear of the outside world upon being released. Why? Because through the years of my incarceration, my state of mind has elevated past the irrational thinking to a state of awareness. I have no fear of the things of the world outside these prison walls because I have kept up with the world and I know what to expect. I may not be able to change the things that go on around me, but I can change the way I handle the situations& the circumstance I encounter. The only thing I have to fear is fear its self. Meaning what I do and what kind of mind state would I have if I was faced with an adverse circumstance of survival? Would the irrational self take over providing the fear to keep me from making an rational choice that would put me back in prison; or would the irrational self suppress that fear causing me to do something unproductive. I have never felt safe being locked in a cell. Id rather be able to lock and unlock my cell door at will. I have known and seen many people who have died while locked in their cell. They couldn’t get the door open to get help, they pushed the call button& the officers wouldn’t respond to the call, they kicked the door& the officers wouldn’t respond. I feel safer knowing I can get out of my cell if I need medical help, then to be locked in my cell and can’t get out Mecca

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Are you gay?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

No, I’ve never been gay. Even in prison I still have maintained my desire for women. I would like to have a female Japanese pen pal.

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How much money does an inmate need each week to get by? what are the types of things you can buy and what is life like when no one on the outside is there to supply money.

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By: Andre Lewis

To Gary Because every prison is run differently, state and federal, I can only tell you how much money is needed to. get by for N. Carolina prisons. The prisoners in N C Are allotted 40$ a week. Depending on the individual and how they manage their money, and if they spend all or only a portion of it all at once 40$ should be enough for an inmate to get by. Most people can live off 20$ a week comfortably. There is such a variety of things that we can buy out of the canteen( commissary. There are hygiene products such as deodorant, soap toothpaste etc. You can also buy radios shoes food such as cakes cookies ships, candy gum soda, juice soup crackers sandwiches, ice cream, tuna fish and a variety of other foods. You can also buy notebook paper ,pens, pens, envelops and stamps. Every prison has something different, some more some less. From experience I can say life s hard when you have no financial help from the outside! It forces you to do things you wouldn’t normally do if you had some financial support. For example Some people who hustled drugs in the streets and robbed drug dealers to support them selves and their families do the same thing in here. They rob other inmates gotten drugs from the guards sell drugs , Gamble ,extort other inmates, sell stolen food items out of the kitchen, and a few other things. One thing I have never done and will never do is anything sexual for money, or anything involving some form of sex for money. I honestly don’t want to do all the things I do to support myself cause I always end up getting in trouble in the end and that sets me back from getting out of prison early. BUT it is the only way myself and others who are in the same position can support ourselves. I know what I do can’t be justified as good but I don’t do it just to have a lot of this and that. Its not about getting what I want its about getting what I need. So life is pretty hard when you have no outside support. An individual can get what every they need in here but the hard part is dealing with the negative consequences that come with those negative actions.

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Should I be afraid of writing to serial killers and giving them my home address? ive been searching on the internet for ways to write without releasing such vital information but it seems almost impossible. Another question, do you know of any sites where I could just via email prisoners?

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By: Timothy Baker

I'm curious what would make someone write a serial killer? But yes I'd be very cautious… not necessarily afraid, but cautious. Get a PO Box if you really want to write a serial killer, never give your fill name, use your first name and last initial only. Never give your birthday or other info like that and don't send them anything where you use a credit card etc because on the receipt they put your full name and address. You can email inmates on www.jpay.com. Thanks for your question

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How do i #%$@ up and get with you? Love to %$&$ your ass

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By: Timothy Baker

Bert? Hey I know you!! Yeah I remember you! Man it's been a few years. Bert ,are you still wearing your mommies panties Bert? Man I hope you kicked that habit. I mean it was bad enough that you wore womens panties any way but man when you started stealing your moms that was really scarey HAHAHA Hey remember when you got your dogs name tattooed on your ass HAHAHA. Man that was funny. Hey man thanks for the question. You take care!

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Do you regret what you did?

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By: Timothy Baker

Yes I do. I regret a lot of choices I've made in my life. But I regret the most the emotional pain I caused by committing my crime… If I could take it back I would.

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I'm a female in my 20s, living in Australia and have recently started writing to an inmate in Anamosa, Iowa. I'm currently single but have told him that I'm in a serious relationship for 2 years now. Still, even though he answers all my questions in every reply that I have gotten from him, all HIS questions happen to be intimate and quite personal ie what do you think of love, what you think of men, when was the first time you've had sex, how do you like it etc I'm thinking about maybe ending the penpalship already. What do you think? And how would I do it? What would I say to him? The only problem is, I used my real home address to correspond with him. On his online penpal profile it says he's due for release in 2021. I thought that was a fairly safe prison term for me to start writing to him. But in his latest letter it seems like he might have a chance to win his appeal for release next year! If I just stop writing to him, do you think theres a likely chance he'll fly over and track me down? At any time in the future? P.S. I love your poems. It makes me feelthat prisoners are really overlooked and deserve more attention.

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By: Timothy Baker

I'm very sorry that your pen pal isn't being a good pen pal. I'll be the first to say that not every inmate is a 'Good Guy'. We do have some bad ones and that makes it so much harder for those who are looking for honest friends and nothing more¡K.. Now as far as your pen pal and his personal questions. If you've told him that you're in a serious relationship and let him know not to ask you these types of questions¡K then I'd stop writing to him period. Once you make this decision stick to it¡K write him a short letter. Tell him you are ending your correspondence. Tell him why you are ending it. Ask him not to give your address to another inmate and tell him Good Bye. More than likely he'll write you and tell you some story. But ignore it, once a idiot goes that far give him the boot. Now as far as him getting out and tracking you down I wouldn't worry about it. Most countries won't ever give Visa's to felons. If you call your local government office they'll tell you. But please I wouldn't worry or even think about it. 5 minutes after most guys get out they forget all about the stuff in prison or friends or pen pals¡K If after you tell him not to write you and he does or he gives your address to other inmates¡K I'd write the prison warden and request that he not be allowed to write you and ignore all the rest¡K.. I am happy that you like my poems¡K a lot of inmates do have talent and yes as a whole prisoners are over looked¡K I hope that you find a good pen pal again. I'm sorry for this ƒ¼ Thank you for your question

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Hi... Ward, i was wondering, what crime did you committ? i know there was another ward weaver but i know that is not you.

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I see that you use one of the Hupa Basket designs on your blankets.You mention Hoopa,Ca.Isn't it true Sir that you never really lived on the Hoopa Reservation,but rather one of the small towns possibly close by....What is the name of that town you say you grew up in Humboldt County????

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By: Ward Weaver

Dear Sir: Your name brings up an interesting question along with answering your, your last name sounds familiar to me, I remember my father talking to his friends about having a girlfriend by that last name there on the reservation. Could this be why you know some about me? As to your question, you only have your facts a little mixed up, so let me clarify my position on this as to your lack in this area. First off you didn't say how old you were, so I don't know if your information is self knowledge or second hand knowledge. But my answer won't matter to this fact. Facts: My father was the first and to my knowledge the only white man to ever be allowed to build a business on a California Reservation and he built a saw mill there on the Hoopa Reservation called the BIG FOUR LUMBER COMPAY and it was so called due to my father having three other partners. They also built a shack there at the mill to live in, for the three of them worked the mill along with hiring one or two people on the reservation to work it, I believe this was built in 1953 when I was nine years old and at that time, my mother, one sister and I lived in a area in the mountains of Humboldt county called WAREN CREEN, where my sister and I went to the last of the one room schools in California where one teacher taught all eight grades at the same time. My father on some, not all, but some weekends would come home, but most of the time he as the other partners lived there at the mill. During every summers that my father had the mill, I would live there with them in the shack. When I turned eleven 1955, my father put me to work at the mill, not for wages, but for room and board and the first place I started was working on the pond, a few days after starting, I fell in the pond seven times and my father pulled me off the pond and put me on pulling green chair with him. In 1956, my father moved us from Warren Creek to Sayler where I went through the seventh grade there in Willow Creek and we lived at Sayler for eighteen months, at which time during all that time, during the summers, I still lived at the mill working. In 1958, my father gave up his partnership of the mill to the other partners and we moved back to the coast to an area called Moonstone Heights where I went through the eigth grade at Trinidad and high school in Arcata. One of the guys from the reservation was on the tribal counsel and had a son my age who he and I played together and his father took me under his wing and along with his.

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Where do you get your insperation for your poems? I really love them. You are so talented.

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By: Timothy Baker

Well Elisa I get my inspiration from my life and the experiences that I've been through. 90 % of my poems deal with that. Just within the last year I've been writing about other issues that I feel need to be expressed ƒº I am gonna have to change the poems on my page because 'those' poems are my first efforts I've come so far since then. I've write some amazing stuff lately that I'm sure you will like as well as others who read them. I am happy that you love your job. I am sure that it's very rewarding¡K It's sad, I never learned the joy you get from helping others until I needed help myself and no one was there. If with my writing I can help someone then I give back to those I took from¡K Thank you for your question.

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Just wanted to say that my prayers are with you , that one day we will have a world without the need for prisons or death in it . I am quite the political activist .

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By: Timothy Baker

Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. I think that our criminal justice and rehabilitation systems are non existent. There is more money in punishment than rehabilitation and money makes the world go round… I applaud your activism and I wish you the Best of Luck….. Our country, The Governments, The Courts and a lot of society is controlled by money… until you the citizen effects some sort of change weprisoners are lost… we are the last to feel change… The abuse and corruption in our country starts in the prisons. But the change will end with us. There is so much that you a single person can do and I hope you have the courage to do it. Thank you for your question

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1. Can you tell me about yourself? 2. Do you feel you were wrongly persecuted? 3. How is life being an inmate? Hello, Am Gabriel from Ghana seeking new friends, and deem not place best than seek new friends where i find myself writing to you now. I read through a thousands of profile but i found out i \'d stick with you, and I hope within the time it takes you to read this, I will accomplish two things. The first being, bringing a smile to your face and the second, sparking an interest in you that will make it irresistible to pick up a pen and say hello... Honestly looks don’t really matter to me because I’ve learned that it’s the stem that creates the rose. I am very open minded, have a great personality and love making people smile. I understand that life is hard and we all need something in our lives that will bring us pleasure. It is my hope that our friendship will become that pleasure and my letters will give you something to look forward to I have many hobbies, drawing reading, working out and writing being a few. Poetry is the most genuine.At the moment I am awaiting college enrollment,My only Intention is finding friends who I can share my experience and thoughts with. There are so many things in this world that I have not seen but I hope within time I will see through your eyes. I look forward to your company and hope that you’ve enjoyed mine. My only Intention is finding friends who I can share my experience and thoughts with. There are so many things in this world that I have not seen but I hope within time I will see through your eyes. I look forward to your company and hope that you’ve enjoyed mine.. Hope to hear from you soon.

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By: Timothy Baker

Well Gabby my profile tells a lot about me. I am 34 now and I will probably spend the rest of my life in prison. I write poetry and I do a lot of reading and I enjoy listening to the radio. No I don't feel I was wrongly prosecuted. The original crime I am in prison for I am guilty of. I think 60 years is pretty harsh and I feel that if I had been given a chance at a job that would support me. If I would not have been shot out of society that I never would have committed my crime….. Thank you for your question.

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do you love me???

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By: Timothy Baker

I love everybody Babe… Hug and Kisses HA HA!

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Simply state (in detail) what happened to get you to where you are now. please!

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By: Timothy Baker

I broke into a house, tied up a couple and took their ATM card to the bank and attempted to withdraw money from their account

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Do you think its fair to say that there are more white male serial killers than black? If so, why do you think this is?

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By: Timothy Baker

Yes I think it's clear that more serial killers are white males 'as to black males'. And I would say that it's because of the way they are raised and the white culture. If you look at most serial killer profiles. They had issues with their mothers or other women in their family 'not every case', but most. I can not tell you what this does to a person psychologically, but it does have an effect on some people…. That has been proved The Black Culture is different in a lot of ways… especially in the way they raise their children….. I could name a hundred things. But that's the reason I think it's. So I bet if you look at the black serial killers you will see a similar upbringing as of most white serial killers

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How hard is it in prison???

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By: Timothy Baker

It depends on who you are… some live a life of Hell and some have no problem… In Texas a small young white dude had to fight his heart out or be someones girl… prison is really racial and whites are the minority so they get a lot of trouble… as far as Guard. If you can come in here and take what ever abuse they give you with out a word of protest you won't have trouble. But if you protest you're in a world of hurt. Most prisons are violent and the system uses this violence as a means to control the prison population. As long as inmates are fighting and killing and raping each other they are not standing against the cruelty of the Guards. The luck of rehabilitation and the corruption of the criminal justice system.

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My boyfriend is incarcerated. I do send him money for commissary, shoes, etc. Usually around $100. to $120. a month. Does this sound reasonable? He's usually broke by the end of the month. I love him and don't want him to have to hustle to get the things he needs/wants, but at the same time I work hard for my money and have a lot of people depending on me. I don't want to be taken advantage of. Do you understand what I'm saying?

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Read Andres answer to Gary

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Hi hope all is good as it gets on your end! My question is, reference to the question about sex in prison. I am a woman and I know that masturbation can do so much so I cant imagine being a man. Anyways, What do men do that are in prison for years and years? I mean dont they typically give in to another man? Because I know I would need something more than my hand. Take care sweetie :)

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Elizabeth, Well self pleasure is things of prison, that and having a good imagination cause we know that for the most part inmates cannot have sex on a frequent basis. I myself am a sex fiend, so it brings me good vibes when I see females in the environment. Homosexuality does exist in some prisons, but not all prisons condone such behaviour. Now what happens behind closed doors is another matter. There are things you can do to get mind working whether it be pornographic material (some prisons) or the reading sex books. It would be nice to have some naked blow up dolls. I myself have too much time to be allowed family visits. We sometimes don’t even know what we can do, I’m sure you probably think one would get bored, “but would you get bored with too much sex”??? That’s the $50.00 dollar question, it depends on what goes on with the way one sees the world. I have a healthy sex life even if i am in prison. Not your typical type of sex, but it’s sex nonetheless. It releases the frustration. I feel a whole lot better, I can lay there and watch programs and let mind wonder. I do like big butt girls so that usually gets the body working. The rest is all mental reason being that we don’t even realize just how things really are, I’m not saying that will replace the feeling of being with a woman or trying to be with another man, even if it is you doing the fucking. I want to see a pussy when I lick anywhere. I do hope I have enlightened you some about what we need to be doing for ourselves. Have a good day... Write me Faustino

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Hi ,I would like to know what made you join Ask A Convict. I can imagen that you get some strange and insulting questions, so why did you do it ? .I think it´s cool that you do it. Wish you the best for the furture.

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By: Timothy Baker

I join ask a convict to help people understand what it's really like in prison to show society that we are just like them. Most of us just made a mistake, and I joined in hopes of meeting a few good friends. So write me.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

A- My adopted brother Jon contacted me and gave me a good pitch for his new website, and maybe it would give me a voice to help other people. I was attracted to wanting to help people. Yes, sometimes I get some offensive questions or comments, and sometimes I get angry and frustrated with them. But I'm only human. Overall, I try to focus on helping people.

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i hope this is not too personal too ask you but did takeing a life change you and in what way

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I was never convicted or even accused of taking anyones life. I was convicted of masterminding the death of someone. Someone else Killed the person, they plead out and got a life sentance and acused me of plotting everything and I got the death penalty.

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I am a 39 year old single female who writes to a Pen Pal who is LWOP. I took a special interest in this inmate after reading a news article from 10 years ago.. Out of curiosity I decided to write him. I have been writing a LWOP prisoner for almost a year now. He seems to be hinting that he wants to be in a relationship. I don't understand this. How can you be in a relationship with someone who never has a chance at getting out of prison? Sometimes I don't know if this is him just trying to hustle me up for money or not. I have occasionally sent him $20.00 every other month or so. He has never really come right out and asked me for money but he defiantly hints that he is having a hard time.. I have told him that I did not want to be hustled and he has told me that he isn't and that he would still write even if I never sent a dime. I do not make much money at all and he knows this.. What is the money situation like in prison? He says he has a small job. I want to help but I also don't want to be used. Thank you!

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By: Christopher Lee Price

well, I think is normal, if someone doesn't like to write in fact. My mom hated the right in 18 years since I was first incarcerated. I probably receive no more than 10 to 15 letters. Sure I receive cards with little notes in them here and there a mom just hated to write for a while. When I would write letters in wait to hear back from mom. I would get angry when I didn't receive answers to those letters, but I did hear back from her on those particular letters. I thought it was damn right rated, and I resented her for a while. As time went by, and I thought about it and kept creeping back into my mind I finally realized that I was being selfish for expecting her to write and not being sympathetic or sensitive to her situation. Even though I can call anytime I wanted, but hated to run up anyone's phone bills. I was being insensitive for expecting mom to answer every letter. You see my mom was a very busy woman, very hard worker and a restaurant and at other jobs show is got up early in the morning. Around four at 432 cook my Pop breakfast. Then she would wash the dishes throw in a load of clothes in the washer etc. and then take off for work. She worked all day until 17 to 1800 hrs. Sometimes later, once she got home she was start cleaning then cook dinner etc.. When I was growing up my Pop was very lazy fat bastard and I very much resented him for it because my mom works so hard. And she and I did practically all of the chores on the ranch. But anyway, after my incarceration, pop, stepped it up and started helping mom more. Nevertheless, since mom was like an Energizer bunny, I finally came to the realization that she was just too tired to write to me at the end of the day. I regret not figuring that out much sooner. Mom never expressed to me that she was just too tired at the end of the day to write to me. She would just claim that she hated the right. When I didn't realize all of that, sooner than was so resentful. I got to a point where I wouldn't write to her much at all. I would just call or once every month or two, and she would just come to visit me once in a blue moon. When she recently died. I regret not writing more to my mom like or I just got busy and caught up in my own world. Now, I don't know your friends situation or where he's located in the prison. Usually a warden will put you to work if you're down the hall in population. You're going to be working all day a t the tag plants, fab shop, kitchen, work on the road crew, etc. At the end of the day your friend may be too tired, Not in the mood, or just hates writing. Even as busy as I am, there are times when I'm just not in the mood to write and would rather do something else. I have put off certain people, for one to three months or more. I've had certain family members and pen pals that weren’t very interesting participants. The rules of correspondents are, ask questions, answer questions, share something you may have learned or share something about your life and past. If someone doesn't meet most of those criteria, or they always complaing about their health problems or just were too lazy or write or crazy in their letters, then I'm not eager to write back. I want to learn something out of the interchange. I doubt that your friend wants you to stop writing male is the main things we look forward to, even though we may be too busy to write back or not in the mood to write right back. We always love to receive mail, released most of us do. Please realize while in prison year under siege by a bunch of idiots. When you have to contend with bullshit 24/7 you are going to get grumpy and sometimes you just want isolate yourself. In prison you can't do that physically, but you can mentally to some extent, therefore, you may become withdrawn and nationality. It's not you. You're not your friends problem nonetheless you talk crazy complain too much etc.. Just try to be patient with your friend whether he admits it to you or not he needs you, believe me. He needs all the sporty can get mentally etc.

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It seems pretty harsh the 60 yrs you have been given for your crimes. Is texas a hard state? What regrets do you have? If you could have one wish what would it be? keep up with your poetry. Lottie

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By: Timothy Baker

Thanks for your question lottie. Yes! Texas is a pretty hard state. They like to bury us in these prisons for as long as they can. I regret a lot…. where to start? I guess I should say I regret being born in all my other regret still matter. If I had one wish, I'd wish to talk to whatever God is running things, if there is one. I’d like to give him a big fucking black eye.

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i still cant believe that in the usa they have death row. how do you feel knowin that in the uk there is no death row? Besides being free on the outside. What do you miss doing? N how do you keep your mind busy each day? thanks lottie

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Very Pissed about it! Back in the day America forced England to abolish the death penalty which ya’ll did. In 1976 or 1977 America reinstated the death penalty. Since then, America is about to reach its 1000th execution. How fucked up is that? How fucked up as America,?(rhetorical) and the American government is hypocritical.

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What is your favorite genre of books? Fiction (horror, action, humor) or nonfiction?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Graphic Novels, Japaneese culture

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Do you get to watch tv in jail?? What do you get to eat

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By: Timothy Baker

Eddie! I'm and administrative segregation so no, I don't get to watch T.V. and I eat whatever they give us.. ha ha. Or what we can buy from the store.

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I was wondering if you need a pen pal? Are you single? Do you have any kids? Do you have any family or friends that write to you?

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By: Andre Lewis

Yes I would love a pen pal. Most people write one or two letters then don't write any more. I have a child and Iam not married.

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Oh Hi, Uhm So I've never wrote to a guy in jail before , haha im kind of excited about it, but anyway, I was just wondering what it's like chillen in jail, do you eat good food? Do you play cards all the time? I'm reading this book called the Hot House but I don't really know how accurate it is about the life in a jail. You don't get treated bad do you? :[. Can I ask you that ? hahah. Oh p.s I like your poems! Your Love in Me is my favorite. Uhm I feel like I want to ask you more but I don't really want to pry. oh well :].

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By: Timothy Baker

Well its dam sure not fun chillin’in jail ha ha, and the f keeps me alive. It could be good, but inmates cook it, and they are lazy, so they don't take the time to make it taste good. No spices , salt-and-pepper sugar etc. etc.. So is pretty bland., No I never read the book hot house, but the few prison books I've read, tell it like it is. Well if you do everything on guard tells you never break a rule and let people walk all over you like a carpet know you won't be treated bad. But the first time you do something they don't like yeah they'll treat you bad to worse your infraction, the worse they treat you. Thanks for writing, your not crying. I'm always happy to hear from people. I'm happy that you liked my poems.

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I'm 32 years old, I''m not a religious freak,i just love god and want every one to know the one and only,i love my babies,they are my life,im a stay at home mom,who has nothing to do on my spare time,but now i do,and that letting all death row inmates know that this is not the complete end of their lives. Q-i hate to be so outright,but you are on death row!what did you do? you have so many more years of life that is now being consumed by four walls,and when did they start letting inmates have internet access, i am just so curious is all, you dont have to answer any of my questons,but i know every needs a pen-pal sooner or later,i hope you respond.STOP! please dont answer any of those questons,i did'nt know they had previuos questons [below] in which you have answered over and over again.i really wanted to comment on a particular queston you answered,[it asks you about what do you do since this system is so unfair]well i'm here to tell you,f-this system[god forgive me]if you never,ever,beleive anything that you ever read again, beleive this, no matter how cruel,unfair,and unjust this system is,they fail to realize that soon one day they will be judged also,this corrupt system does-not- have the final say so over your life,they may take you life,but only god "will" give it back,when god said "thou shall not kill" who did they think his commands were going to, the birds!"only god can judge me" and what does this "corrupt"system thinks that means? but when it is all said and done no one has the right to take no ones life, but god almighty himself,this system can take that away,but what they fail to realize is that if you are innocent or guilty[only god can judge us"that DEATH is the ultimate price that we as sinners have to pay, in order for all our sins to be wiped away, in death god says your slate is wiped CLEAN,he has erased every bad,every wrong,EVERYTHING that you ever did that was wrong,so when your day does come please, dont think that you-are-no-more,you will have that option to choose to serve god and to find out who the one and only true god is,unlike these corrupt judges,etc,they better hope that when the son of man arrives[jesus christ]to destroy all the wicked and the bad,that they have also "deceased"that is the only way they will have a second chance,and when god has destroyed them all, he promises[and he never lies]that in the end,they-will-know-that-i-am-JEHOVAH!now like i said in the begining if you never ever beleive another word that you ever read, BELEIVE that!please do not think that your existance is over because it is not,repent!and i promise you god will hear every cry for help every prayer that you pray,just dont go out thinking it over forever,god loves us so much and does not wish to destroy not one of us,he knows the very number of hairs each of us has on our very heads,and there aint a bird that falls out of the ski and dies that he doesnt realize,now is'nt that a wonderful god,god giveth and god taketh away.try to get to know the one and only true god,i dont know your life,your crime,nothing,but god does, jesus is our savior,get to know them both,i can help you,this is talk coming from outside those prison walls,i love jehovah so much, and i want everyone to get to know and love him,satan is really busy now because he knows his time is coming to an end,he wants everyone to die along with him,but it does'nt have to be that way, i came across this web site for a reason,and thats to comfort a soul who does'nt know the true god,but you can e-mail me if you like, i can talk about gods wonderful works all day,and to try to ease your mind when your date of [execution]does come do not fear it,for afterwards you will neither go to heaven nor to hell,but god says you will be in a deep sleep,unconsious of all living things,no longer would you ever say, im hungry,im sick,im cold,im scared, until the son of man arrives..................i can go on and on,but i'm hoping to hear from you soon.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

All Correspondence needs to be forward to Merc. He has no internet/ computer access

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Hello lad my names Kitty i was just nosing at your letter replies on ask a convict an i`ll after say you dont seem to have lost your sense of humore witch is a good thing you`ll have to egnore the spelling i`m english an couldnt be arsed goin to school.i`ve also got a freind in prison he`s lifed off with a min of 14yrs we keep in touch by mail he calls me the pest ha ha but misses me when i dont write so i cant fuckin win just thought i`d say hi an tell ya to keep ya spirits up you will get the do gooders that preach but thats life everyone makes mistakes no-ones perfect an if they tell you they are thier liars it`s just that when we make them every cunt notices keep your head up

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By: Timothy Baker

Wow another Kitty....

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I JUST WANTED TO THANK YOU FOR THE ADVICE YOU GAVE ME ABOUT MY FATHER. FOR A LONG TIME I RESENTED HIM BECAUSE MY OLDER BROTHER AND SISTER HAD THE CHANCE TO GROW UP WITH HIM AND I NEVER DID. GROWING UP MY UNCLES WHERE MORE OF THE FATHER FIGURE AND IT WASN'T BECAUSE MY DAD WAS IN JAIL HE JUST WASN'T THERE. I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW I HAD A BROTHER AND SISTER UNTIL I WAS 9 AND I MET THE REST OF THAT SIDE OF MY FAMILY WHEN I WAS 12. I DIDN'T REALLY START TO TRY FORMING SOME TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM UNTIL I WAS 16 AND A COUPLE OF MONTHS INTO THAT I MOVED TO SOUTH CAROLINA. BUT NOW I HAVE THE TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP I'VE ALWAYS WANTED WITH HIM. HE ALLOWS ME TO SAY WHATEVER IT IS THAT I NEED TO SAY TO HIM ABOUT HOW I FELT GROWING UP AND HE NEVER MADE EXCUSES. THAT MADE IT A WHOLE LOT EASIER TO FORGIVE HIM. I DO LOVE MY DAD AND I MISS HIM LIKE CRAZY. WHEN I NEEDED ADVICE ABOUT MEN AND THINGS OF THAT NATURE I HAD NO ONE TO GO TO BECAUSE HE WASN'T AROUND EVERY GIRL NEEDS HER DADDY AND EVEN THOUGH I'M 26 I STILL NEED MINE. I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND WHEN U SAY THAT SOMETHING AS SIMPLE AS A LETTER MEANS A LOT BECAUSE MY LITTLE BROTHER IS IN JAIL AND WE WRITE HIM ONCE A WEEK HE'S ALL THE WAY IN MINNESOTA SO MY MOM MY SISTERS AND I MAKE SURE HE KNOWS THAT WE LOVE HIM AND I TRY TO DO THE SAME FROM MY DAD. HIS BIRTHDAY IS THE DAY BEFORE MINE SO I MAKE SURE I SEND HIM A CARD AND I WRITE AS MUCH AS I CAN. I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE HIM NEXT YR WHEN I GO BACK HOME TO CALI TO VISIT. BUT I JUST WANTED TO THANK U FOR YOUR WORDS OF WISDOM AND ONCE AGAIN LIKE I SAID IN THE LAST COMMENT I LEFTI APPLAUD AND COMMEND U FOR WHAT U DO. LOOKING FORWARD TO HEARING BACK FROM YOU. GOD BLESS

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By: Andre Lewis

Thank you, I hope it helped If you want you can write me directly.

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Are you the guy that murdered the little girls!

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By: Ward Weaver

No that wasn't me. That is a different Ward Weaver. My son

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Why is it that after being convicted of murder why not admit? Do u still feel there is some chance of gettn out and that why you still plead your innocense? Don't you think that by admitting why you do maybe your soul can repent? You can be saved if you admit what you did and show remorse

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By: Christopher Lee Price

A : Miss, from the way you ask questions I can tell that you’ve never experienced a corrupt court system, especially in the way that I have. Our court system is very flawed. Even as flawed as it is, we still have what is called an “appeals process.” When your case is going through that appeals process, you DO NOT admit to anything, whether you are guilty or not. Q : Do you still feel there is some chance of getting out and that why you still plead your innocence? A : Yes ma’am, there is always a chance of hope of getting out of prison some day. Nevertheless, you should always be an optimistic person, always try to be positive and try to find the good in everything. Q : Don’t you think that by admitting why you do maybe your soul can repent? You can be saved if you admit what you did and show remorse. A : Lady, There isn’t anything wrong with my soul. What is between my god and I is strictly between he and I. I don’t need some mediator or arbitrator to talk to god. I’ll tell you what, though. If you help get me from death row (Not out of prison, but off of death row-A life without parole sentence-) I’ll confess all of my sins to you. You would probably be disappointed, because I am not the monster that most of society tries to make me out to be. Let me ask you a question: If it is so wrong to kill (especially according to the bible- “thou shalt not kill”), then why does most of society allow the U.S. Government (A supposedly civilized nation” to have a death penalty and murder us out of revenge- A revenge killing? Most of society claims to be Christian or religious. For those that vote for the death penalty, wouldn’t that make you all a bunch of hypocrites? Maybe it is y’all who needs to confess your sins or admit your guilt.

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To meet another through the prison penpal systems. When looking for friends as well that special someone. What do you suggest are the cons and well do's and donts?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

A : You are in total control. It all depends on you and what you are looking for. If you get a pen-pal try to find out what all you have in common. If they are not compatible, or cross a line too quickly or whatever, you can either quit writing to them or give them a warning as to what lines not to cross. First of all, it would be great to get a p.o. box; that would help protect you from a potential stalker or some asshole that doesn’t get his way with you. If you’re really worried, you can start off by using a pseudonym. As you get to know them and feel more comfortable, then you can reveal your real name. If they were a good friend, then they would completely understand that you was just trying to protect yourself and they shouldn’t be offended. If they’re offended and get vulgar or whatever, you can easily find another pen-pal. Even though there’s a high percentage of us that can’t get a paying job and are dependent on the kind-hearted family or friends out there for gifts of money, stamps, ect., if They keep asking you for money or demands more money from you, that’s a bad pen-pal. You should get rid of them. Sure, we prisoners have needs, just like anybody, but I would never demand that someone send me money. Being an artist, when someone sends me a monetary gift ect., I always make them a greeting card or send other drawings as a token of my appreciation. For those that help me, I give them a lot of my life. I put a lot of thought and time in the gift of drawing and writing that I send in return. We cannot match the gifts, but it’s only fair to try. Like I said, it really depends on the situation and what you’re looking for. Use common sense. If something makes you uncomfortable, then don’t do it. You can easily find another pen-pal.

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have you been raped while you have been in prison

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By: Christopher Lee Price

A : Negative, I have not. I’m on death row we are locked down for 23-hours a day, except on recroom day once a week (Which is next to the captain’s office and constantly monitored). However if you are on single-walk, you don’t get to go to the recroom, or participate in group activities. In over 16 years back here on death row, U have never seen or heard about someone getting raped back here

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i think you are hot. Have you had sex with a man in or out of prison

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear Keith: Q : I think you are hot have you had sex with a man in or out of prison? A : Much obliged for the compliment, but I don’t do Brokeback mountain! I have never had sex with a man in or out of prison, nor would I ever want to. I am very much in love with women. I have always loved women, and I am an absolute freak about the little hot-and-sexy Japanese women!

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when get out can we hook up

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By: Christopher Lee Price

A : Much obliged for the offer. Unless you’re a woman named curt, I don’t see us hooking up. Besides, I couldn’t date a woman with a dude’s name. Again, Thanks for the offer, though.

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i am a 26 years old girl from germany i am born at 09-08-1982 in Nürnberg Germany and i also grow up there and still live here in my birthcity my intersts are swimming skating reading watching movies and go out with friends i have green eyes and blond short hair. can you also be a penpal with me a girl from germany can we also write letters in myspace?

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By: Timothy Baker

I would love to be your pen pal. I don't have internet access so you will have to write me and send me your address. ( Note From Jon-Although I don't suggest sending inmates money a small amount to cover postage is greatly needed, especially for over seas correspondence.)

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who did u murder?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Who am I accused of killing? That is public Knowledge ,so I have no problem answering That. His name is Bill Lynn. He was a full time Auto parts owner and a part time preacher. In his community he was respected and an admirable man. By many people he was loved. Unfortunately I did not know that man.

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Oh my gosh why did you kill that poor man? And why did u use a sword?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

It is impossible to answer that question. First off I never have said I killed anyone. I have been CHARGED with killing someone. My codefendant plead guilty to this crime. Because of ongoing legal issues I can't talk about the case. I never admitted to killing anyone. If you look at the other answers you will see that. Please read before asking the same questions over and over.)

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curious. thats me...just after so many years of reading true crime mags, and having the 1st ever dna solved murder and knowing the people involved happen where i was born and lived, i just wanted to ask you raven. how do we arrive to where we are.what are the circumstances? take good care for now...Bill. xx

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By:

Hi Bill, Thanks for the question. Because of my appeal processes I won't talk about my case except to say, many times things aren't as they appear. Write me me and we can talk more

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how long have you been in prison? what's it like being there and who did you kill and why? I like your poems.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

I was accused of killing a rival drug dealer who was going to kill me. I would love to get a letter from you.

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Hi Everyone :) I wanted to know what kind of programs you have access to in the prison you're at? Are there programs you don't have but would like to and if so what are they? Do you think it's important for inmates to have access to programs/groups/education etc? For their morale, self esteem, education etc, I think it is important. Enjoy the rest of your Sunday and hope that you all have a great week. Thanks to everyone. Cheers & regards, Maria.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Q- What kind of programs do you have on Dr? A-On death row, we don’t have any real programs. We are the bottom of the totem pole. However, once in a blue moon, a death row prisoner gets to have a Law Class. ( if he is so good at the Law ,then why is he still on death row? Curious..) Q- Are there any programs you would like? A-No Mam There aren’t any programs that I want or need, unless it can get my sentence reduced and possibly regain my freedom Q- Do you think its important inmates have access to programs etc? A-Yes Maam I think its very important for inmates to have access to programs groups and especially education and classes respect, manners and proper etiquette. Q- How have you coped mentally while in prison? A-If I do say so my self I think that I have managed to keep most of my sanity. Q- What do you do to stay strong mentally and emotionally? A-I keep my self very busy. In order to keep your mind off the bars and from your freedom being taken away, you have to keep yourself very busy.

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By: Gregory Gant

The Kind of programs that offer here in B.C. I is technology, electrical wiring, they also have A.A. and N.A., and thinking for a change. The programs that we don't have that would like is some more educational classes and trades. A lot of the people here in prison don't have a lot of education. So I think by adding more class, we will give a different outlook on life, meaning that they wont have to have to go back to the things that they are used to, such as selling drug and coming back to prison.

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By: Ward Weaver

Q-What kind of programs do we have on death row? A-There are various religious programs. I belong to the Indian Spiritual Group where I grew up my younger years on an Indian reservation in the mountains and believe in their teachings, But they have all the other ones as well. 2-They have a hobby program, but all hoby has to be done in your cell and you are restricted to doing programs that call for no tools like even child safety scissors, where we are allowed out of our cell except to go to the yard, visits, sick call, yard, or showers and you are handcuffed behind our back before taken out of your cell and not unhand cuffed until you are locked in the yard , visiting room shower, or back in your cell. Education programs are done in your cell and you are taught through your tv from a sanquentin Station here and when it is time for your tests you are taken out of your cell and put into a small cage where the teacher gives tests to all the ones enrolled at the same time. There are a row of cages ,os the teacher can deal with however many students they have. Q--Are there programs we don’t have That I would like? A-Not really, for the rules of a death row inmate are so strict, we are lucky to have what we do have. There are people on the streets and even some guards who believe inmates shouldn’t have anything, no TV, radio, letters, magazine, phone calls nothing but sitting in a empty cell looking at four walls. Q- Do I think It is important for inmates to have access to programs/ groups/education ect? A-If you take a person who is somewhat sane, just committed a crime and Isolate them for years, you end up with a real insane person that has not reason, dreams or desires and most of all you stip them of all emotion except anger. What happens if on appeal the person if found Not Guilty of their crime, that he or she didn’t get a fair trial and they are sett free. What kind of person has the isolation set free upon the uneducated public? So, Yes I feel it is important to have all these things available to inmates, death row or otherwise. I am just thankful for it is people like you that will work towards trying to keep the mental attitude of inmates as good as possible where rehabilitation is only a word in the prison system not a reality.

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What is your take on Nature vs Nurture? Do you believe people become violent because of the way they are raised and the state of their enviroment, or do you believe some people are just born wrong?

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By: Jon Hurley

Ahhh The eternal question. I think it’s both. There seems to me to be two types of criminal. One is the thief, drug dealer type. No violent, Just trying to get by but they don’t want to hurt anyone. They are doing crime because they are in a desperate situation. Many times I see this type of person as a victim of their circumstance. They often learn this type of behavior from their friends and family. I see inmates where ½ the family is in prison. Then there are the violent criminals. Many times they are part of the first group but then something goes wrong. They deal drugs but want to be a gangsta’ they like hurting people. I believe there is a fundamental lack of sympathy, caring and conscience for those who make a living out of violent crime. I know people who have had terrible upbringing and they are relatively normal, loving adults. It has to be a combination of Nature and nurture. Criminals will commit crimes related to the degree of their need and lack of empathy. Even when I’ve been down and out, I would never steal or hurt someone for money. I had a terrible child hood. I just don’t see it as an excuse. It’s like a combination lock If you have one or two numbers it won’t open You need all three and then it opens. I study Serial killers a lot also. I find it fascinating what a true sadist sociopath thinks. Killing is like making a sandwich or watching a good movie for these people. There is no feeling of remorse. It is the height of selfishness and uncaring. Some of the inmates I deal with are out for #1 and you can tell. It’s all about what can I get and how can I work it? I just smile and shut them down.

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Ok I have a question what do you think of my little " theory" for example I read that you were in an incident with another drug dealer so ur doing major time for that. I persoannly think that each circumstance should be reviewd very thureally. For example if an innocent child adult or person was. Involved that yes anyone should be punished for a long time. But in your case it was a rival drug deal doing the same business puttn themselves in the same situation of bad nature. So it was ethier you or him life or death dog eat dog catch 22 and you get major time for taking someone out that had bad intentions and that would have killed you! ? I know people are people but I'm sorry if your out doin the crime and someone murders you the sentence should be a little lighter since that person wasn't doing any good anyway. If someone came at me and its life and death I'm going to save my a$$ and do whatever . Or is the sytems theory that if you let a drug dealer off light they will go back in the street and kill more? What do u think how do u feel about this ?

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By: Andre Lewis

we go to the act of committing a crime with bad intentions. But you some like myself who committed crimes to provide for their family, which my family consisted of my kids and their mother. So my just to commit these crimes were bad, but the outcome was good for a time. It depends on the person and the mind state of the individual on how bad their intentions are with myself. I feel my mind, date and intentions were more nefarious than some because of the risk I took and what I stood to lose. I was a true to the heart stick a kid. Even though I sold drugs, I did more robberies than selling drugs and rob stores establishments etc.. I robbed only drug dealers and small time in big time by my state had to be nefarious lacking a conscious. I know how much time and effort is drug dealers put into acquiring the well. So they were ready to kill or be killed to protect it. So I had to mind state and intentions to hurt them or kill them if I had to protect myself and to come back safely to my family and provide for them. I didn't go into committing these robberies looking to kill someone. But I'd do it without a second thought. I did have intentions of hurting the individual by whatever means necessary to get them to tell me where the drugs and money was hit. I carried a gun at all times, even when I wasn't committing crimes. The life I lived you have to carry a gun at all times. You're always a target. Everyone knows what you do, and they look for ways to take you out again to save themselves. You have no friends, everyone is your enemy and my philosophy is. It's better to have enemies all around you to put your trust in friends. When you in the streets. Why does you know how your enemies are coming at you. You never know with friends.

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By: Gregory Gant

first of all with this is me the hell off just to talk about it. But I'm caught up in a similar situation, where it was me or another person. I don't regret what I've done because if I didn't do what I did, I might not have been here. There were any kids or women involved. When things might have been different. I am human, and I have a heart for kids and women. I just sold dope to survive and take care of my kids, but I refuse to be anyone's sucker. And yes, the system has it twisted everyone to sell dope is not a killer..

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By: Timothy Baker

I am a felon. I've committed crimes how you determine how much my life is worth. We have all made mistakes some mistakes that are not actual crimes. I feel are a lot worse than some actual crimes. Which is worse, a mother who neglects or abandons her child or someone selling pot. A father who doesn't stick around raises kids or woman selling her body so she can live. All of our actions that can harm someone physically or mentally can be held against us if society really cared. So please tell me how you determine the worth of someone's life. All life is important to someone. Who will set the standard of whose life is worth more than someone else's mouth its case of self-defense through self-defense. But no one should be punished for protecting his or her own life, but murder is murder, no matter if it's an old lady or a drug dealer. We are all human, we all make mistakes. If you go around putting a price or worth on someone's life over another. Some really scary shit to come about, like let's say a man who is rich is worth more than a poor homeless man, think about it.

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Your So Hot!

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I would like this question to be answered as honest as possible please. Well many are in prison for robbery, or assault or confortation gone bad well my question is did any of you have bad intentions going into the crime for example if commiting robbery was your goal to do whatever possible to get what you need including hurting the person or did things just go terribly wrong where you ended up hurting that person? Were many of you intentions to just do the crime and get out of was your intention to. Carry a knife, gun or sword knowing you wanted to hurt somone?

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By: Andre Lewis

we go to the act of committing a crime with bad intentions. But you some like myself who committed crimes to provide for their family, which my family consisted of my kids and their mother. So my just to commit these crimes were bad, but the outcome was good for a time. It depends on the person and the mind state of the individual on how bad their intentions are with myself. I feel my mind, date and intentions were more nefarious than some because of the risk I took and what I stood to lose. I was a true to the heart stick a kid. Even though I sold drugs, I did more robberies than selling drugs and rob stores establishments etc.. I robbed only drug dealers and small time in big time by my state had to be nefarious lacking a conscious. I know how much time and effort is drug dealers put into acquiring the well. So they were ready to kill or be killed to protect it. So I had to mind state and intentions to hurt them or kill them if I had to protect myself and to come back safely to my family and provide for them. I didn't go into committing these robberies looking to kill someone. But I'd do it without a second thought. I did have intentions of hurting the individual by whatever means necessary to get them to tell me where the drugs and money was hit. I carried a gun at all times, even when I wasn't committing crimes. The life I lived you have to carry a gun at all times. You're always a target. Everyone knows what you do, and they look for ways to take you out again to save themselves. You have no friends, everyone is your enemy and my philosophy is. It's better to have enemies all around you to put your trust in friends. When you in the streets. Why does you know how your enemies are coming at you. You never know with friends.

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By: Gregory Gant

well my situation I was not enter intending on robbing anyone of anything. Me being who I am and seeing the things that I have in the streets I carried a gun. I went to buy drugs from a new contact and things went wrong in both old guns, and I had to drop so I took the dough. They got upset knowing they couldn't come to my side of the city to get me back. So they called the cops and said I could cast you are in guns. When I only to go, and the guns from them me carrying a gun was for my own protection, never to hurt anyone. But I'm going to do what has to be done to keep living

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By: Timothy Baker

I don't feel I can hurt or killed innocent person without being attacked. I almost got caught because I didn't want to hurt the people I was robbing , so I didn't tie them up good. And they got out while I was gone. Now, if they would've attacked me? I can only hope I wouldn't have hurt them. It is a ”what if “ situation and I can't say how I would have handled it. I would like to say, “no I'd never heard them”. But I don't know. I'm only grateful that I didn't hurt them. That's all I can say.

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By the way you are Extremly Handsome! Very good looking guy. After a girl you were seeing turned you were seeing turned you in and she wrote to apoligize did you ever write back? How did you respond to that?

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By: Timothy Baker

No, we do not remain in touch, she wrote one time and I responded one time. I responded with an angry letter and I told her nothing she could say would change what happened. She should have thought about what would happen before she did what she did.

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Jon, I think this is an amazing site very informative and answers so many questions that I had. I always wondered about prisons for some reason its because it seemed like a whole different world that I never dare to enter ( knock on wood) lol. My question is that if I want to look up the exact scenerio on their crimes would I be able to google any of these convicts. How can I pull up articles to get both points of view ?

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By: Jon Hurley

You should look them up by Name and the town where the crime waqs committed. You can also go to the prison web page and look up their record. If you find a good story post it in a question and I'll add it.

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Wow a sword? Did you take martial arts and use that as an advantage on the outside world? Wow who carried a sword a pirate?... I may sound judgmental but wow! Did u stab a man, women or child? Did the sword go thru their whole entire body since its so long?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Q-Wow a sord? A-That’s what they say a Samurrai sord Q-Did you take martial arts and use that as an avantage on the outside world.? A- No Maam I don’t study martial arts in order to take avantage of other people . I absolutely love the traditional Japanese culture, so that is the reason why I study martial arts and other Japanese traditions, Also in relation I believe I n self defense. Q- Wow who Carries a sword are you a pirate? A-Not so long ago most men in civclization carried swords. Q- Did u stab a man, women or child? Did the sword go thru their whole entire body since its so long? A- I have never stabbed anyone. -

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Were any of you guys in relationships before you were locked up? Boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancee or married? If so what happened? Did you remain in touch, did they call things off or stand by your side?

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By: Andre Lewis

I was in a relationship prior to my incarceration by children's mother decided to separate from her husband and commit to me. So we could raise her children and families. Now I realize that was a mistake. I should've kept things the way they were between us and encouraged her to stay with her husband on the whole time I remained free our relationship was Good. We had a good family setting and my children were happy because their mother and father was together. We both held jobs . I worked and sold drugs and rob drug dealers on the side. (note) This was not the first time we had got back together to try the family thing. That ended with me getting incarcerated in her marriage, her husband, nine months after my incarceration. So this time I had that little voice in the back of my head telling me things would end up the same way as the last time. So lo and behold, I get incarcerated. She stuck me with me for a few months, telling me she would never leave my side, because I put my life on the line for her and my kids yada yada yada. After those few months, she divorced her first husband stopped communicating with me and got married again and had twins. This was in 2004, 5 years passed before I heard from her again. I spoke with her a few times back in 2008. No more after that she is like a distant thought my mind that I can barely remember. I want to communicate with my children I go to my mother. Everyone has a different ways to feel that silent void when in isolation. I like to read and write and work out. I immersed myself so deep in the things that I read study and write my time is not filled with silence of a sea of knowledge and wisdom that surpasses the sons. Whenever I want to be alone and complete solitude I locked myself in my cell and put my blind to and get lost in my studies. And if I really want to get away from everyone all do something that warrants six months in solitary confinement at favorite superhero is a halt. Dr. Xavier at favorite super villain, beyondda & venom& Dr . octopus

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By: Timothy Baker

All the relationships I had were not heavy, some were couple months old to longest was seven months. So when I received my time. They all got on with their lives.

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Hello its more of a compliment to Timothy Baker Himself to say I totally love what he typed and said in his poems and answers to questions plus as I try myself to love people and God more too plus also Timothy Baker I'll Pray for You here too .

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By: Timothy Baker

Thank you so much on to it for the compliments and prayers. It's always great to be complemented and prayers never hurt. I hope you continue to like my poems and answers. It's hard to answer honestly, sometimes. I want to tell people to mind their own business, but I signed up. And that's what this site was created for. I've learned a lot of stuff and met a lot of great people that I probably would've never met or done if I wouldn’t be locked up. It's sad to think that maybe I wouldn't be who I am today doing what I'm doing thinking how I’m thinking, if I never came back to prison. Spending the rest of your life in prison is a big price to pay. But I have to pay for my crimes at least I can do something good. Thank you again and ask me anything anytime.

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By: Jon Hurley

Thanks Andrey, you should write time a letter if you get a chance. Say hi to all in new zealand for me.

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I am interested in possibly becomeing a Penpal with someone in Prison. I really don't know what made me decide to do this but i do believe there is good in everyone and if a letter can help then why not!! I have never been in prison and don't even know anyone in prison, The last time i was even ever in jail was for a DUI and that was over 8 years ago so i am not real familure with all this. What are some of the do's and don'ts of being a Penpal?? Do the letters really help?

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By: Jon Hurley

Letters really help. Because it is the only way people can interact with others it is very important. Think about it. Lock your seld in your bathroom for a week You can leave one hour a day but you cant use the phone computer or talk to anyone who visits Just your house mates but olny through the door. Now if you are in solitary take away your tv and radio. YES Letters are a great way to give back to society and make a difference. I have never had anyone be rude or invasive. I Have become friends with several inmates in ways that I never thought possible through letters. Please write a few people and try it out If you don't like them or it is boring just tell them you don't want to write any more.

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G'Day Gregory,(and anyone else who would care to respond) I wanted to ask you how have you coped mentally since being in prison? Do you feel you have been able to stay reasonably sane, all things considered? What have you done to stay strong mentally and emotionally? Have a great week :) Cheers & regards, Maria.

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By: Gregory Gant

How have I coped, mentally since being in prison? Maria first of all, I would like to let you know that it is a job. I have to stay busy. I read the Bible and other books as well as written in my own book. I write poems and letters anything to stay busy. I've taken advantage of educational classes and picked up a couple of trades. Do I feel I've been able to stay reasonably sane all things considered. Sure, I think I've done a pretty good job. Well, I done to stay strong, mentally and emotionally ? Prayed prayed and prayed.

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Well I have a friend in delano prison. How can I get his address?

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By: Jon Hurley

Well All the people in the same prison have the same address So for instance Faustios address is Faustino Gomez h-00433 d-8-232 Kern Valley State prison PO BOX 5104 Delano, Ca 93216 SO your friends address would be My friends name His prison number cell number etc Kern Valley State prison PO BOX 5104 Delano, Ca 93216 If you don't know this information you can call this number. Keep trying They will answer. To locate an offender within the jurisdiction of the California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation you can call the Identification Unit at (916) 445-6713. You must provide the full name and the month, day and year of birth or CDC identification number for the subject of your inquiry. This unit can only provide you with the current location and CDC identification number for the offender. The Identification Unit does not have and will not provide any future release date information. This service is available only Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:45 p.m. excluding state holidays. Please note that information for offenders recently admitted into or transferred between state prisons may not be available for 7 business days.

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If You had 1 whole day to be free what would you do ? From morning till midnight? And who would you spendit with? Where would you go? What would you eat and wear? Details

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By: Gregory Gant

What would I do well when I got out that more and I'd like to visit troubled teens and talk with them about a life of gangs in crime. From there, I love to spend time with my kids and my mother. Something that took for granted before I was taken out of there life. While what Id eat man, there are so many great foods that I would like to have have to start off with some hamburger steak smothered in mushroom gravy with rice, or homemade macaroni and cheese, cabbages and cornbread What would I wear? That's a good question. I say that because I've gotten older, and when I first got locked up was into jeans and T-shirts and Tim boots. Now, I think I'd prefer a white button-down shirt and grey dress pants and a pair of black loafers, Gucci of course. And then to top the evening off, the presence of a beautiful woman and man she would be lucky.

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Is it true your girlfriend turned you in? How did u find out she turned you in and how did you feel? Do you still keep in contact with her?

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By: Timothy Baker

Yes a girl I was seeing turned me in, she wasn’t my only girl friend. I had a couple . She saw a black and white police Sketch of “a wanted person” and thought it looked like me, She confronted me and told me I had to turn myself in. We had a huge fight and she said she wasn’t gonna tell. She did that just to calm me down. I stayed the night. But when I left in the morning she called the police. No I don’t have any contact with her. She wrote me a few letters apologizing after I got all this time but that’s it. It made me feel like shit. It made it very hard for me to trust people.

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Are you in a relationship now? Have u been in any serious relationships since u have been in prison? Where they come to visit, etc? What do you look for in a female?

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By: Timothy Baker

No, I am not in a relationship now I have never had a serious relationship since I've been in prison. And I have no one who comes to visit me in that way or anyway for that matter. I like an open-minded female with a good sense of humor. Someone who isn't scared to open up and be herself. I look for honesty, I don't care if I don't like something or not. I will always respect honesty. It's every man's fantasy to have a knockout female, but unrealistic, as long as the female takes care of herself and does the best with what she was born with. I can like anyone. I find women sexy who respect themselves and try not to be something they are. I am not perfect, so I don't expect perfection. I love a woman with a big part. I like loyalty but if loyalty isn't in the cards I’ll except honesty. Hair, eyes, height, weight, all can be sexy. It just depends on the woman and how she carries herself.

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m y question to Rockwell pertains to his crime. Without me sounding judgemental of you. I would like to know if at point did you or do you feel remorse about your crime. Also do you know God with your heart and your soul? Has being in prison changed you for the better if so how? and what did you learn about yourself in there that you didnt know before

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

AJ thank you for logging on to ask a convict.com. Your question isn’t judgmental however my answer must be fully understood. The shame I feel daily is fueled by the knowledge that I wasn't strong enough not to commit the acts that led to my incarceration..The acts I committed wasn't done through ignorance. It was from not processing the strength of Rockwell instead of the person I created. The magnitude of my shame isn't measured by time . The scars I wear supersede time, Life, death, right or wrong. Yes I know God is with me. How else would I possess the strength to face being exiled from society by family and friends. Yes prison has changed me. It has given me the patients to grow the insights and learned that I couldn't see previously. Most of all, it is given me the strength to be Rockwell and accept responsibility for myself and my inequities. What I did learn about me that I didn't know before. CJ, I learn that I'm not a bad person and that I have a lot to offer the world. Once again. Thank you for taking the time to ask me a question. I look forward to more in the future.

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Hellllllo, I would like to know what u were accused of? Yeah I know murder or robery yadda yadda but what was the exact accusation? Stabbing someone to death, masterminding, chocking someione? What was the scenerio and story?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

I was accused of killing a good well-known man named Bill Lynn. He was an auto parts store owner and a part-time preacher. Unfortunately I did not know him personally. I didn't learn about him until after I was incarcerated. What happened to him and his family was a great tragedy. He was killed with a samuri sord.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

well, I personally didn't murder anyone, but the law says I'm aiding and abbetting, which basically carries the same time as if I've done it. So I carry the same time, 32 to life as codefendant. As to why, I'd have to answer stupidity, a personal matter that went bad.

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By: Gregory Gant

I was accused of robbery with a dangerous weapon. No one got hurt. It was a drug deal, things didn't happen like a work plan. Everything turned sour. The guys call the cops and live saying that we took the the money because they couldn't say drugs. So here I sit, and I can't really give you the whole story over the Internet. That's how it went.

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Masterminding the death of my husband

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Shooting another drug dealer to save my own skin.

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By: Timothy Baker

Home Invasion, Tieing someone up and escaping from Jail.

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60 years seems a long time, what other crimes have you committed?

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By: Timothy Baker

Escape, robbery, and assult of an officer.

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Hi Jon, I wonder if you could help me with address/ID number of Robert Joseph Silveria as I would like to write this guy, I just read a book written about him and find it real sad and thought I could bring a little ray of sunshine to his life, I did send a letter to Oregon State Penitentiary but it got sent back to me with the word 'gone' then on side of envelope IBRO I don't know what that means so any help from you or other inmates would be great. I have spent 3 weeks on the net looking but can't find any details where I can write him. Thanks Fiona

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By: Jon Hurley

I found his address but he is in protective Custody (I think,) It is a process to write him and letters need to be approved. If you need his address write me and I can give it to you

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Hi Gregory, I was locked up for a traffic offence for afew hours and i didn't like the experience. I came to the conclusion that someone to survive many years in jail will depend on your mental perserverance whats your opinion. In Africa a good number of people in jail are innocent while the real crimimals are free and enjoying live because money can buy freedom is it the same in America?

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By: Gregory Gant

Maria, I never had a conversation with anyone from Africa, but have a lot of questions myself about the motherland and what it's like to live there.Maria, you are right, some people are not mentally strong enough to handle being locked up. I see people break every day, rather it's because someone else put pressure on them when they break on their own. Like they say, only the strong survive.In Africa a good number of people in jail or innocent, while the real criminals are free and enjoying life, because many can buy freedom. Is it the same in America? To some extend some are innocent . Some were just at the wrong place at the wrong time. I looked at it like the Karma thing come back around and yes, money can buy you freedom here in America. I think we have the most corrupt system there is.

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Do you ever hear other inmates cry themselves to sleep? Or after their children and familes come and visit do any of them cry when they get back in their cells? Is prison really cold at night like they say? Do you only get a thin sheet? And can u go to sleep at whatever time you want or is there lights out? If so what time? And how do they wake you up? By banging on your cell or a loud morning alarm?

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By: Timothy Baker

) I've never seen or heard an inmate cry himself to sleep, not in a adult prison anyway. In juvenile yes, but not here. But I¡¦ve seen #2) Inmates cry after a visit, not many¡K But a few¡K But for the most part ¡§crying¡¨ is considered weak and unmanly and you don¡¦t do stuff in here to appear weak¡K someone will take advantage of it. It¡¦s better to be safe and hold it all in, or let it out by beating the shit out of someone ƒº Smile! And 90% of inmates who have been locked up for a number of years probably haven¡¦t cried in years. #3) Yes, on some of the units in Texas, the older ones mainly, it¡¦s freezing in the winter and boiling in the summer¡K.every thing is concrete and steel so heat doesn¡¦t last long¡K #4) Our sheets are thin because they try to make them last so long. Believe me, the prison gets its moneys worth out of anything they issue us. #5) I can go to sleep whenever I want, and as far as I know all Texas prisons are like that¡K But some inmates work so they sleep when they¡¦re able¡K. They don¡¦t wake us up personally¡K They¡¦ll come on a microphone and say first call for school, work, chow etc. etc. and if you go you go, if not, then they write you a case.

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By: Andre Lewis

Response to Tina (Married): For as long as I have been doing time within the prison system, I have been in the presence of numerous prisoners that have cried because reality set in on them. Some have cried and confined in me that they couldn’t handle doing time, they were scared of being in prison, that their families disowned them; numerous of things. I’ve had some to admit that they’ve cried themselves to sleep. I’ve also known guys to come back from visit and cry because of family problems they can’t help out with, death in the family. It’s nothing to hear about or hear someone say they’ve cried for whatever reason in prison. This is a very emotional place to be in. Guys my put up an image in front of the guys out in population, but once they get in the cell alone, or any spot where they have time to themselves, the real person comes out when reality sets in. You can hide the pain from others in public, but you can’t hide it from yourself… Prisons have heating and cooling systems just like any building or house. Usually, prisons turn the cool air on in the summer, and the heat in the winter. As far as it being cold at night, it depends on how the AC system is set up. I’ve been to prisons where it’s cold on one side of the dorm on the cells and hot on the other side. Or cold upstairs and hot downstairs. In solitary confinement, some prisons keep the cells kind of cool for control purposes (which everyone doesn’t know). Guys get kind of wild on solitary confinement, but if it’s cool, you ain’t gonna be doing too much moving. As far as bed coverings go; most prisons issue prisoners 2 sheets, 1 blanket, a mattress cover, and a pillow case. But in the winter time, you are issued an extra blanket. The only way a prisoner ends up with one sheet; if they are in solitary confinement and have tried to commit suicide or start a fire, the officer will strip your cell for whatever the allotted time. Guys on suicide watch get 1 item back at a time… Depending on what custody level prison you are at, depends on if you can sleep all day or not. Some prisons let you stay in the bed as long as you want, some have you to make your bed but you can lay back down on top of the covers until later in the day when you can get back under the covers. On lower level prison camps where they have bunks in the dorm; you may have to get up and your bed made at 8 in the morning, go outside so the janitors can clean the dorm for about 2 hours, then you can get back in the bed. Some camp required that you work or go to school. Depending on what prison you’re at depends on what time the lights go out for bed time. In N.C., most prisons lock down at 11:30 p.m. Sunday thru Thursday and 1:30 a.m. or 2:00 a.m. Friday, Saturday, and holidays. Most prisons turn the lights on (wake up time) at 5:30 a.m. or 6:00 a.m. Some prisons announce wake up call over the speaker system, some yell it out if in a dorm with bunks, or some may knock on your door if you’re in a cell… Everything depends on how a prison is run, where it’s at, and the custody level…. Dre`.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Q: Do you ever hear other inmates cry themselves to sleep? A: As far back as I can remember, I don't think so. Q: After their children and families come and visit, do any of them cry when they get back to their cells? A: Not that I know of for sure. If they do, it's in silence. Q: Is prison really cold at night like they say? A: Sometimes, yes, and sometimes no-depends on the season. Q: Do you only get a thin sheet? A: Not when you can actually get some from the laundry. They tell us we can put in an order to the laundry for one new sheet per year, but we have to turn in an old one. (HELL! For two years or more now, I've been trying to replace an old sheet, and I still haven't gotten one.) Q: Can you go to sleep at whatever time you want or is there a lights out? A: Back here on death row, we can pretty much go to bed at anytime we want to. If they need to wake you up for something, they usually just call your name.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Yes, there are inmates who cry themselves to sleep especially one's family has come and gone. Remember one is still human. Only difference is incarcerated we all do different things to help us forget By dwelling on something sad it creates feelings that can create bitterness and depression. Yes prison is cold for some reason. The air always seem to be up full blast, one always has to stay bundled up. We do get two thin sheets but also get two blankets. So one does stay warm at night. You can go to sleep and anytime you want here and you can sleep all day if you want. That is unless you have a present job assigned . The best thing for one is to get themselves a good program going. I for one am set in my ways. I have my own hours, which work for me. Everything is unlocked, at 6 a.m. and lockdown at 9 p.m. In the morning they announce breakfast, but they don't wake you up, as you don't have to go if you don't want to . NO They don't have loud morning alarms or bang on your cell. Not to say it doesn't happen in other prisons are states in all depends on where you're at cell living is better as more privacy

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I sent you the question about why do prisoners have web sites. For one thing I know that prisoners are mothers, fathers, brothers, etc. Yes I know this all to well. I have to find ways to feed my child cause his "great" father likes to stay in and out of prison. Welfare? I wish I could. My childs father always finds the great lord above and he is always saved while he is in prison but as soon as he gets out he leaves the lord where he found him. Help a prisoner... Never ever will cross my mind. There are child molesters in prison. Will they change? Never. There is people in prison that has took a life away from another person. Does the dead get a second chance? Does the child that was raped and taken away from there family get a second chance? No. So why care if theses prisoners wants a second chance? You want to make a differance than great make a differance feed a starving family. Help a elderly that can't afford meds. Make a differance with the children that there mom or dad is in prison and has noone to turn to. Everything that you have have wrote in your answer does not make me feel sorry one bit. Great if the gaurds are dishonest. What comes around goes around.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Yes, as I suspected, you are upset and bitter about the fact that your baby Daddy hasn’t lived up to your expectations. Instead he has been in and out of prison. You're letting the actions of one person (your Ex ), I'm assuming determine your feelings about everyone else who is incarcerated. I’ll be the first to admit people do seem to find God in prison. I look at that as a copout for the very reason that you yourself have experienced. In prison Christians or people into their religion are usually let alone and not bothered for the most part. So a lot of people say they turned Christian to avoid things. I've tried to understand those people as well. Some of them have something to hide (under cover child molesters,) but that's where you have a misconception of inmates. You should be mad at the politicians, court, and judges who protect these people. You wouldn't have to worry about child molesters getting out, as they wouldn't make it a place in general population with everyone else. So your anger is directed at the wrong direction. We also see them as despicable beings. If you are treated like dirt by someone you trusted, you shouldn't deny someone else a second chance. So to actually change for the better. It looks like you already made up your mind, though. Anyone can respect your decision. We are not asking that you feel sorry for us. I myself don't need any pity. I want to know someone who is for real and not doing things because of some obligation. I too have a daughter who's had to suffer my absence for the last 17 years. I can’t give her that time back. Do I feel guilty? Yes! There is nothing I can do, so, I don't get bitter about it and make the best out of life regardless of the situation I may be in. Your’e looking for revenge. You can even tolerate abusive guards, even though they violate the law that says a lot about your sense of being.You speak out of anger. That's okay, but at least directed at those who caused your ire and not by putting everyone else in the same basket. I do wish you good luck and sin sincerly I hope you're able to find something to give you peace of mind.

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By: Jon Hurley

I will post the answers from the prisoners when I get a chance. I see you point, and it is true that many people who "Find God in Prison” end up finding their old life as soon as the prison door closes on their way out. From what you wrote I would classify you as a victim of crime. You may not have been directly victimized but the fact your baby’s father is in prison not helping you makes you a victim. You wrote "Great if the guards are dishonest. What comes around goes around." So does that make it ok? Have you led a perfect life without ever breaking a law? Speeding, smoking pot, stealing something small? Cheating on your taxes? Well maybe you should be in jail with those angry guards. If you get raped or beaten "Great if the guards are dishonest. What comes around goes around." It makes me think of two things. "An eye for an eye leaves the world blind" and "He who is sinless let him cast the first stone" As far as child molesters go... Well I have to agree. The majority of them reoffend and I have NEVER heard of any of them changing their thought and desires. They just try to ignore them. Its like having a plate of cookies right in front of you can't eat. I wouldn't want one living in my house. The point you are missing is, these are people, Some should never be let out. Some will never be let out and are tring to help reverse what they have done. Most will be let out. It's especially those that I worry about. If they don't change, learn skills, find a way to avoid their old life then they could rob me, kill my mom, or rape my daughter, etc. I don't want to pay my taxes to prisons who are doing nothing to change these people. As it is prisons are a training ground for criminals. For many it's a notch on their "Gangsta'" belt. I really don't want you to feel sorry for anyone. I just ask that you and everyone else do something to help make this a better place. Find your passion. Mine is helping prisoners. It is not a popular subject or cause. I don't make any money. But I do help people. I may even help some people who don't deserve it. I wish I could help old people with their meds or prevent murders but I haven't found a way to do that. I found a way to do this. Yes it was by accident, but it does help. If I make any money it will go to helping more people. One of the Serial killers who used to kill prostitutes has set up a halfway house to help them get off the streets. Bizarre story. He can never undo the lives he has destroyed but at least he is trying to help. Does his past evil negate all his present deeds? Probably not to the women living in the 1/2 way house trying to get out of the street and off drugs. There are many people who have no idea how to live other than by committing crimes. Their mom, brothers, sisters all live by selling dope or stealing. So the question is do we lock them up and throw away the key? We can't afford to house them all. Do we execute them? Is that fair for selling dope? Or do we try to change them with education caring and a way to work and make a living? I have an idea let me decide... I will let 1/3 go, execute 1/3 and lock 1/3 up forever in a forced labor camp. What is your answer?

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You are interested in talking about many different things. I would enjoy convesations with you. One of your interests listed is philosophy. Could you talk some more about your own philosophical background and any insights you might have.

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By: Andre Lewis

Bobby; I’m glad that you’ve taken interest In wanting to conversant, and I’m pretty sure you will enjoy and grasp the things I build on. Everyone has different views and opinions about things and it’s good to converse with who can touch on many different topics. When It comes to philosophy, I am intrigued by the philosophy system by which one lives. Mostly philosophy to is obtaining a higher degree of self by following the paths laid by those great intervals who has obtained that higher degree. That higher degree is called “Knowledge of self”. Having knowledge of self is know the trust and self and that truth is is the ledge, but you must be willing to climb out on that ledge to gain the truth about self. I use the philosophy that other great philosophers use to rise to greatness to investigate the nature of self, the causes of life and the principles of the reality that I live in. And being that I have knowledge of self, I like to share the light of truth on other so they can obtain knowledge of self. My own philosophical background came about through wanting to know the science behind the beginning of time starting with the original Asiatic man to present day. Add being that I am an Asiatic man, my life falls in line with everything that I seek to know. My insight to you is; if you want to know the reality of life, you must first know self… on an ending note; if you would like to engage in conversation on whatever topic you find interesting, I encourage you to write to me personally. I am pretty sure we can learn a lot from one another. My addresses is Andre M. Lewise #0558819 S.C.I P.O. Bx 1808, Lautinburg N.C 28353 “Mecca”

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Hi Faustino, My question to you is: if you have a complaint (about anything) are there avenues open to you in which your complaints can be heard, addressed and dealt with? Today is the first cool day we've had in 2 weeks of 42 degree C+ temperatures! :) Have a nice day and a great week! :)

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Answer to Maria, you ask me if there are avenues to file complaints about anything. Yes, there is it's called an inmate appeals form, commonly referred to as a 602. You can file complaints against staff correctional officers, lack of medical attention, and cold food. If not properly addressed, there are a lot of issues, one can raise. Inmates are issued a title 15 (prisoners rules and regulations) that states what we are entitled to. So it's not hard to file a complaint and have it addressed. There is information on fist second and third level. So you can pursue it to the director if need be, or even the courts once you've exhausted your ministry of remedies, everything has its own set of guidelines, though. We do have rights, though. Yes about the weather it is been cold here as well as cloudy and rainy. It is cleared up for the most part, When a rain has come and gone it actually gets colder in the cell. One day I went out to the yard, and my hands got all non-playing football in the frigid cold rain. Took me back years, sometimes I still think I am a teenager. I do hope I answered your question, I also hope you have yourself a nice day and a great week. Thanks for asking a question anytime you wish dropped at all even look on the calendar when you log on to the site

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For those people in prison who has family that left them, shunned them away and disowned them what happens to them when they are released? Where do they live at? How do they eat? When they have no family to turn to? Do you think this causes them to fall back into the life of crime in order to survive again since they have no choice?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear Taylor: Q: For those people in prison who has family that left them, shunned them away and disowned them, what happens to them when they are released? Where do they live at? How do they eat? When they have no family to return to? A: Honestly, I'm not 100% sure, because I haven't been released and I have friends and family. (Although, I wouldn't want to burden them.) The scuttlebutt is in the situation you describe, former prisoners are supposed to go to half-way houses for awhile- to learn how to re-cope with society- a place to live, eat, get a job (most likely temporary work), etc. Those type prisoners are supposed to be directed to places like that. Very few E.O.S. [End of sentence (no parole or probation)] Prisoners are given a suit, $10.00, and a bus ticket to wherever they want to go. They are not obligated like the others. I presume that they get some type of counseling before being released like that. Q: Do you think this causes them to fall back into the life of crime in order to survive again, since they have no choice? A: There's no such thing as "No choice." You always have a choice. You can choose to do better or you can choose to do worse. When you choose to do better, there is ALWAYS, someone out there willing to help you.. Even when you start making mistakes, there is always someone out there willing to help you; but, you have to help them help you. You have to be open to ask for help - A peer group, a preacher, pastor, priest, nun, etc. Someone will know someone who can help you. All you have to do is ask. For the weak, yes, that can cause them to fall back into their old life of crime, for the strong no. The frontal lobe of the brain does not fully develop until your mid-20's. Unless you re 25-years-old, and not mentally impaired, then there's no excuse as to why you can't stay out of trouble. (crime/prison). Rather, as long as you are 25-years-old or older, and not mentally impaired, then there's no reason as to why you can't keep yourself from out of trouble, because you're old enough to learn from your mistakes.

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By: Andre Lewis

Response to Taylor (Hard working mother): It’s sad that there are so many people who are incarcerated that have had family to have left them, shunned them away, or disowned them. Some guys brought it on themselves by doing something disrespectful to their family that caused the family to disown them; and some families just can’t deal with their loved one being incarcerated and just shun away. Whatever the case may be, it does have an effect on the prisoner upon their release.. But these individuals who have no family or friends to turn to upon their release, do have a choice and resources they can take advantage of. Six months or 90 days before their release, they can have their prison counselor help them set up a rehabilitation plan with a halfway house. Upon their release, the halfway house will provide them with a place to stay, clothes, food, job training/placement, and whatever they need to readjust back into society. There is a small percentage of prisoners who take advantage of these resources. And I know for a fact that a high percentage of prisoners who’s family have disowned them, do resort back to a life of crime. They feel like they’ve lost everything when they lost their family. So they turn to what they feel is the next best thing which is the streets. Some of them feel like that’s the only way they can survive in society cause they have no communication or job skills and they are afraid to ask for help. Making that transition back into society requires effort from the released prisoner and family support. If the individual doesn’t have that family support, they need to have a strong mental and have that inner drive to want to make it and prosper in society. So it’s no such thing as they don’t have no choice; they have a choice. It just depends on what choice they choose… Dre`.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Yes, it's very hard to be able to succeed. Once released with no type of support. I think being rejected by one's family is even worse is that creates resentment, making it more likely he will return as he may think the only type of camaraderie is in prison. Their people probably treat him better than his own family, so feeling, alone with no place to go, he may see no other way but to commit another crime, and he'll be returned to prison, It is sad, but that's reality. One does what one needs be done to survive and if that means committing another crime then so be it. Life is cruel like that . sometimes though, I don't see it as no excuse, though. It is using, that is a copout. People sometimes find it easier to blame all on the hand they were dealt in life. One needs to be able to pick one's self-up, one can succeed if one wishes by having a support network, it makes a big difference. It can be the difference between succeeding or failing. Once released from prison, if you have more of an incentive to succeed, and I think that will help a whole lot. I hope I've answered your question, one doesn't starve once released, though the parole agent is required to provide housing and allow its food stamps. A lot of the time though, the housing that is provided in a seedy part of town. So that won't tell people need to understand you don't want to angry individual being released from prison. The thing is to give him and show him the support he needs.

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Taylor The people who maxed out prison that have nowhere to go can go to a halfway house in a lot of these places will help you get on their feet .. A parole out must have an address where they can go, and the address will be verified before they can be released by the parole board. They don't just throw people out on the street when they are released

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By: Timothy Baker

If an inmate has no one to turn to: He is released, It all depends on how long he’s been in, what kind of work skills he has… how old he is… But for your average inmate getting out with no family, he will be allowed in a shelter or halfway house for a short time but then he’s on his own…He either makes it or he doesn’t. Most of society could care less what he has to do to survive… But if he breaks a law then he’ll go back to prison.. and its been known to happen. Some inmates get out, no where to live, no family, nothing… and commit a crime just to come back… The recidivism rate in America right now is like 68%... It may go up with all the economic trouble we are in… That is sad, because one of the main reasons they come back is there are not a lot of people, jobs, housing and programs willing to accept a convict… So he goes back to crime… some do it because its all they know… some do it cause its cool…

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IF you had a wife holding you during this bid, writting several times a day, paying for calls and putting money on your books weekly plus holding home down. When you got out of you went back in would you cinsider her a bad wife for not doing another bid?? Thanks in advance!

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Some guys would because they were so attached, in love? Dependent, and being used to counting on their wife when he got out of jail. The other time, and before he went back in again. Did you warn him that if he went to prison again that you wouldn't be there for him again. If you gave him a warning, but I wouldn't consider you a bad wife because he knew ahead of time what to expect. Me, personally, if at that time, I was attached, in love with my wife, and a new state counting on her, at first , even though I went back to prison. I would be upset and disappointed, but after contemplation, I would understand and adapt, improvise and overcome, if my wife didn't want to be there for me. In the end if she didn't want to be there for me , I have no choice but to adapt and improvise and overcome. All these things considered, It really just depends on the situation, what if his second time in prison was only for a year to or just a few months. You think that warrants abandonment? There are many factors that only you know, and should consider because if it's your own personal situation in the very and you have to do what feels right to you. We all have certain needs, if we don't get those needs met in one place than we must take them elsewhere. You just have to do what's right for you. Your gut instinct will tell you. That's what it is there for.

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Jon thanks for answering my question about my husband and stress it really helped me understand. Its funny you mentioned animals My hubby hates cats, he hates them but let me have one and that was HARD for him, he said yes but didnt meant it. Its very frustrating like being a mind reader but im glad you answered! It makes me think of two things. "An eye for an eye leaves the world blind" and "He who is sinless let him cast the first stone" WOW!!!! I applaude you for this and you are so right!!! Thanks for a safe place to vent to real people and ask questions. You should be very proud of yourself im sure you are helping so many people!!! Happy Valentines Day!!!

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By: Jon Hurley

Sure, Thats why we are here! Humm are you sure you are not my ex wife. He he, just kidding. Don't get me wrong I don't abuse animals but I get so frustrated with them ESPECIALLY CATS AHHHHHHGGGGG. I tell everyone I hate cats but when I see one hanging around the garage I might stop to pet it. Life is rough for people who are stressed out. If you can stick with the old boy without doing your self harm I would suggest doing it. But I always say a captain who goes down with his ship is a stupid captain.

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Do you regret not staying in the kitchen making sandwiches for your man now, instead of running around on an endless massacre? Silly girls...

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I love it! This guy thinks he is funny. Well his question tells us more about him than his name or e-mail would have. What I think its funny is, people who have nothing positive to say and basically make statements that have no foundation in truth tend to not leave a email address. I am not going to send this question off because, for one, Raven was never even accused of killing anyone. She is on DR because her boy friend cut a deal to avoid the death penalty for a crime he committed. He is the one who did the killing and she got the death penalty. He will be eligible for parole. She will be put to death. If you know about or plan a murder you are just as guilty as the person doing it. Maybe if she had made her boyfriend a sandwich he wouldn't have gone out and killed someone.

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Did u really get sentenced to 60 years? What did you do?

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By: Timothy Baker

I broke into a house tied at the owners took their money into their debit cards to the ATM machine. (Note from Jon) Tim wrote and told me the story about being recommitted to prison after being released on parole. Tim was trying to get a job go to school etc. but one night in desperation broke in to a house. After that he tried to go straight and promised himself he would never break the law again. It was too late. His girlfriend saw a drawing of him on a news program and turned him in.

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Do your kids still speak to you? How do u try and set examples for your kids while your in prison? Since your in prison who takes care of your kids? Do they visit often??

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By: Andre Lewis

Response to “Curious”: Posted 2009-02-01 I have an excellent relationship with my children. Even though I’m incarcerated, there’s no love lost. They understand my situation of being incarcerated; which, I did the things I did to provide for them. Every chance I get I speak to them on the phone, I write them letters all the time. I don’t see them very often on visits; maybe 3 or 4 times a year. Me and my children’s mother don’t have a good relationship so I have to rely on my mother to bring my children to visit when she gets around to it. My children are well taken care of; “Spoiled!” Their mother, grandmothers, grandfathers, etc. takes very good care of them so I don’t ever have to worry about them wanting for anything.. I talk to my children about the right and wrongs of life every time I write, call, or get a visit from them. They know the lifestyle I use to live isn’t right and will either put you in the grave or in prison. When I was home, I let my kids know what I was doing in the streets. I showed them the negative and positive side of life. So I was an example to them of what could/can happen when you live negative. My children have a vast understanding of life and assure me that they will never take the same path I took.. Dre`.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Answered to curious. I have one daughter, and although I haven't heard from her in a while she does write me from time to time. It's been a while since I last heard from her shall be 18 this year is not old enough to come see me alone. It is hard to be or set an example from a situation I'm in that I do try to give her advice says she doesn't make the same mistakes as me and the end. It'll be up to her, though just how much of it she accepts. She's been a foster home for time I've been incarcerated because there hasn't been no one there to take care of her mother had them taken away and never return. I never received no visit from her though. She's on her own things. I do hope it will eventually change though. Thank you for your time.

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Who are you accused of killing? And if u didn't do it who was the person that was murdered? Who's murder were you involved in?

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I am not accused of actualy killing anyone. I am accused of masterminding the death of my husband. The person who killed my husband got life with the possibility of parole. I am on death row.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

I was accused of killing a good well-known man named Bill Lynn. He was an auto parts store owner and a part-time preacher. Unfortunately I did not know him personally. I didn't learn about him until after I was incarcerated. What happened to him and his family was a great tragedy

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Who did u murder? Or what did you do to get life in prison? If u did murder someone than wht?

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Jasmin, well, I personally didn't murder anyone, but the law says I'm aiding and abbetting, which basically carries the same time as if I've done it. So I carry the same time, 32 to life as codefendant. As to why, I'd have to answer stupidity, a personal matter that went bad.

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I didn't kill anyone, my co defendant committed the murder.

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I just read about sexual activity and women gettn pregnant in prisons? What happens to them? And what happens to the babies?

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By: Timothy Baker

Well I am not exactly sure but a guard told me that the mother of the Baby is allowed to spend a few weeks with the new born but then the baby is either given to family or put in foster care. The woman get in trouble and so does the guard who got her pregnant…

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By: Andre Lewis

Response to “Jennifer”: Posted 2009-01-30 It’s an ongoing thing to hear about inmates and officers having sex in prison. It goes on throughout the prisons nation wide. In the case of a male officer getting a female inmate pregnant. If the administration find out who the officer is, he’ll lose his job, the female inmate will go to the hole for however long; then once the baby is born, one of the family members from the officer’s side or the female’s will take the baby. If no one will take the baby, it will be placed in foster care. In the male prisons, if a male inmate gets a female officer pregnant, they can

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Yes, some women do get pregnant in prison, which means they’ve had sex with an employee of the prison, and in most states that’s against the law. Even though it still happens. Usually they’ll make the woman get rid of the baby to cover up what’s been done.

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You are so handsome timothy Anyway my question is what did you do exactly to end up in prison? With or without parole? Do u still keep in contact with your family?

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By: Timothy Baker

I broke into a house tied at the owners took their money into their debit cards to the ATM machine. Plus I escaped from county jail. The only family that I'm in real contact with is my mom, and sometimes my brother. My brother and mom just reestablished contact with me this past Christmas in 2007 by other family doesn't really have time to write me. They ignore my letters and act like I'm being in asshole when I write them and ask why they don't write. (Note from Jon) Tim wrote and told me the story about being recommitted to prison after being released on parole. Tim was trying to get a job go to school etc. but one night in desperation broke in to a house. After that he tried to go straight and promised himself he would never break the law again. It was too late. His girlfriend saw a drawing of him on a news program and turned him in.

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May I ask who you are accused of killing? And how did it feel when you were sentenced was your family there? How was that person murdered? Was anyone else involved?

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How it feels to be sentenced to death is not a good feeling. But at the same time, I've learned to make the most of every day. When I heard the words. I went into shock and felt like I was about to pass out and throw up at the same time. I didn't kill anyone, my co defendant committed the murder.I was in shock when I was sentenced because I had lawyers who told me I’d never get the sentence I got. Yes, my family was there. I also have a co-defendant who committed the murder and got a lighter sentence than I did.

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Raven, Have you ever hooked up with a girl in prison? If so what was it like and how did it make you feel? Was it your 1st time with women? Where do girls hook up if they share cells with other inmates? Have you seen girls " doing it" ? Do people just temp. Turn out? What happens if u get approached by a female and your not interested? Is there gonna be consequences? And is it true that women us pads as strap ons?

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Veronica, yes I’ve hooked up with a couple of females in prison, and the sex is intense because you have to sneak to do it, and the sex was better with a female then it’s ever been with a man. A female knows where and how to touch another female because she knows where and how she likes to be touched. Being with a female after I got locked up was my first time with a female. If you share cells with others you either get everyone in your room or her room to leave, so you can hook-up. Most of the time your roomies will give you that respect. I’ve not seen other girls “doing it” and some females are just “Gay For The State”, which means they are only gay while they are locked up. If you get approached by another female and you aren’t into her she’ll go find someone else – there aren’t any “consequences”. Yes some women make strap-on’s with pads. They’ll take a pencil, put two pads on it long ways, put a rubber glove over that, and tie that to a bra, and that’s their strap-on. Learn something new every day, huh?

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Hello, Happpppy Holidays and happy new year! Let's be positive Are you in a high max. Supervised security cell? Are you alone in a cell?

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By: Timothy Baker

Yes, I am in Administrative Segregation. I in my cell 23 hours a day I only come out for one hour, a recreation and a shower. Any time I leave my cell, I am placed in handcuffs with two guards to escort me. I am in a single cell. So no. I don't have a cellmate!

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By: Christopher Lee Price

I live on block six with 27 the other death row prisoners. Each man lives in a one-man cell. There's 14 cell downstairs and 14 cells upstairs. Each cell is about 5 x 8. 3 walls are concrete and the fourth wall with an electronic sliding door is made out of open faced bars. In other words, it doesn't have a security screen mounted on the bars. Given that, I still live with 27 other roommates. You can all hear all of the manly noises unfortunately; the noise factor is horrible. The only way you can block out the noise is to put on your headphones for radio and/or TV, but sometimes even that can't completely block out the noise. At times I have to make improvised earplugs and put the headphones over that. This place is like Chinese torture . You have to be a strong-willed man not come out of this as crazy as a loon. Generally when prison bullshit builds up. I take my aggression out on playing basketball and volleyball running, lifting weights, practicing karate or meditating. Sometimes it's actually quiet for a few minutes. As for my daily life, when I am not playing basketball, volleyball, running, lifting weights, practicing karate or meditating, I either write and correspond with friends and family or work for ask a convict.com (via writing), make cards (I’m a cartoon card humor illustrator), draw pictures (like photo-realism) for people ,Write from my graphic novel (a work in progress), read and study certain books, read newspapers and magazines, hand wash clothing, (because the Institute don't wash cloths enough and they do a piss poor job and they steal certain items), clean wolverines den, (My cell), watch a little TV, call someone on the phone every once in awhile, converse with a neighbor and other little tidbits of a very busy life. Life is too short, just to lay there and not do anything.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Jasmine, happy holidays to you, and that you have a hop happy and positive new year. No. I'm not in high max, but I'm in general pop highest level. Yes, we are in a cell with partners. There is a high degree of supervision in this prison setting.

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Dear Jasmine, I am not in “high max”, nor a supervised security cell. I am in a cell by myself, which I have no problem with. Women can be really nasty and I don’t do nasty, plus I don’t have to share anything in my cell. There are other people on my range, so if I decide to talk to someone I can. Otherwise I stay to myself.

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What do you think you took for granted before and if you could would make sure noone else takes for granted ever again?

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By: Timothy Baker

Family and friends. When we were free we take a lot of family for granted. You really don't know most of our family, not the way you know a close friend. I know some of my pen pals more than I know most of my family. Nothing that I lost hurts me more than family and friends I’ll never see again. And now that I'm gone, locked away in a cell, I realize what I've lost a try to reach out to them. But they don't care, are mad at me , or don't have the time. I fear it’s too late, but I keep trying.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

My freedom and freedom to work and fully take care of my responsibilities. The freedom to love, touch, smell, romance, and take care of a woman; The freedom of choice and freedom of a venture; The freedom of travel, the freedom to go to a restaurant and choose a different food of interest in a country full of too many rules and laws. I took for granted, what little freedoms I did have. And I took for granted, the only life I have. I am not sure there's exactly 1 thing I would say that would prevent people from taking something for granted. We all take something for granted because we get so caught up with certain things around us. A lot of the time we get tunnel vision and generally focus on one or two things at a time when your very focused on one thing you don't think about the consequences. Not generally anyway, the bottom line. Life is way too short. Don't waste it on unnecessary things.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

I took my family for granted. I can't even count the amount of times my mother told me to straighten out and get my life together. Where are your friends when you're in jail and though all that she's still there. I was really an unappreciative son. I couldn't seem to settle down, even when the opportunity was there. Even my father tried to get me started and job but that never lasted. You don't want to take your mother and father for granted as later on in life, one does regret it. One really has to think about the consequences. Sometimes it's not exactly what we're trying to hear what it is the truth. At least that's how it come at to be . Had I listened I'd be in a different light now, so listen to your parents.

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Well Diedra. I can't stop anyone else from taking things for granted. We all have our own minds. So we do what we want when we are out in the free world ( not locked up.) We all take a lot of things for granted and most of the time, we don't even realize that we're taking things for granted. Life in general used to be one big old joke. I toyed with people’s motions, caused havoc by breaking hearts and destroying my family and riding high on an ego trip coming down was no option. Again life was a big old joke. There is a lesson to learned, as a matter of fact, there are always going to be lessons to learn. That lesson is ,never take life or granted. Not today and not tomorrow, not ever. Daily, I sit here in this little cell with my headphones on staring at the TV and see the small taken for granted. The sweetness of your favorite drink, the laughter of children, the bark of a dog, a horn honking from a car. These things used to mean nada, absolutely nothing, when my life rode upon the back of a monster whose objective was to manipulate, degrade, and twist humanity. I can't change my past as a matter of fact, no one can. In my opinion we learn from the past. Wrong choices made in our lives can be used as an example to those who are living like we once lived. We need to cut loose the ties that push for something positive. Just because I am condemned does not mean that I am oppressed. Though my flesh may be in chains my spirit is free. Don't take life for granted.If we don’t do something today, we take for granted that we’ll have tomorrow, when tomorrow is not promised. We need to learn to let those we love know we love them today, because we may not get another chance. Live each day like it’s your last and never put off telling someone just how much you love them.

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Hello I am married to a great man that just cant handle stress. I knew when I met hm that hes been to prison 4 times arrested numerous times. Well its been 8 years since he was in prison we got married had a child. He was told he couldnt have kids I gave him a son, we had a nice house, he was driving a brand new truck and had a VERY good job. Like was perfect! Then he just started going downhill and decided prison was the place for him? I mean it all happened so fast? We got him a good lawyer and hes not doing hard time like everyone thought he should. He had multiple felonies and all but most of everything was dropped hell be home in a year. My question to you is prison "safer" than real life. I mean I know in prison you have no bills, no responsibility, no real job. Maybe I dont know what im trying to ask you! Im just scared that when he gets out does good for a few years things get hard he goes right back in? Is their a way as his wife that I can prevent it?

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By: Andre Lewis

Answer to marry wife who asked of prisons safer than real life. My answer would have to be yes. There is also less responsibility, though it is easier. Yes, stress can be a strong factor in why we would revert back to his old ways. When things get difficult for whatever reason, because he is a different operating than others in mainstream society. You may handle a different, in an unconventional way. Probably the only other way he may know in which to act out after so many years doing good. He could have just got bored living in family life. He needed a change, not necessarily prison. Even though that's where he ended up. You can help him by being supportive, don't nag or put too much pressure on them as if he feels trapped. You feel the need to escape at the same time letting them know that you need him to be there for you for support. When things go bad. I don't want to sounds chauvinistic, but the man is supposed to be the stronger one in times of difficulty running things. When things get tough is not the answer is, life is hard and one has to be up to meeting those challenges every day. Just like you are there for him while he's going through his tough times. He also needs to be there for you, he needs to start now, while he's in there something you need to bring up the him now. So, everything is on the table. You need to give him space though when he needs it stretches legs if you will. So he doesn't get uncomfortable you yourself realize he is an great man. Being here, I'm really stressed by exercising. It relaxes me and calms me down. Having much time on one's hands leads to mischief. I don't mind is not good, but it's mental you do have a positive attitude. What may seem like the end of the world is in reality minor. Everyone goes through about the stress is how you deal with it. That will ultimately determine his sense of inner peace. You need to get help, while in their take advantage of the mental services they provide as meager as they may seem. I personally don't think medication is the answer, but if it works for him. And maybe that's the answer. I do wish you much success in your marriage and life don't be discouraged. One does have to fight for those one loves no one said it was done and be easy. You knew about his past before you hooked up with them. So you knew what you were getting yourself into, you are lucky that you didn't need to wait that long. Next time they made not work out that well.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Scared Q-After 8 years from being in prison, my husband just started going downhill and decided prison was the place for him. A --believe me, no man in his right mind would decide that prison was the place for him. Anyone who says that prison is for him is obviously chemically unbalanced. Q-I mean, it all happened so fast. A- Didn't he make each just fine out there with you for eight years, and he started going downhill meaning and he started going downhill. That means it happened over a period of time. Not just suddenly, you left out the evidence of what he was doing that made him start going downhill. In his actions could be a result of multiple factors. A perfect life or you may not be a perfect life for your mate is he an adventure and your boring or vice versa. Are you a habitual nag or did the two of you argue, if so what about and may not be your fault at all and may not be his fault at all. Some men are chemically wired to do something crazy, compulsive. Some men have the TG thrill seekers, J. and are compelled to do abnormal things you didn't give me all of the details. So I can't give you a thorough or complete answer. Sorry. Q- Is prisons safer than real life.? A-For some people, the answer is, unfortunately, Yes, but that's a delusion hence a chemical imbalance. Maybe not in the context that your thinking and what we can have stress in prison like if you run up a bill with a "storeman", (We have responsibilities for our actions), keeping our area squared away, etc.. And depending on your location. You can have a real job in prison, Tag plant, textile plant, etc.. I'm a professional cartoon humor illustrator. It doesn't panythe high scale, like the free world, but that's how I can support myself ,and I work for ask a convict.com. Lady, work is a job, no matter which scale or point of view you take . Q- He gets out, does good for a few years. Things get hard, does he go back in? A-Who Knows? We can't truly predict the future. What a man does today doesn't mean that is what he'll be doing in a year from now or 10 years now. Q-Is there a way his wife prevent it? A-Yes and no- YES, BE supportive of him, love him, try to keep open communication, be sympathetic, nonjudgmental be understanding, be forgiving, etc. Open communication is the key to any relationship. Some men are insecure and bottle of all of their problems. If your husband is that way, be patient. Keep convincing him that you're not judging him. No-In the end no matter what you do, you just can't prevent a man from doing something crazy that puts him in prison. You just have to do all of the above and hope he doesn't wind up back in prison. Usually there are signs. When your husband gets out of jail if he starts going downhill again, look for the signs. Pull him aside and explaine his responsibility to his son and to you. Explain about respect to you and your son and that if he truly loved you he wouldn't continue to do crazy things. Do not speak down to him as if he was a child, that will provoke him to be hardheaded and push you away emotionally. Speak to him as an equal and in an intellectual manner. Those are the best results.

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Do you have friends in prison? Are any of them like family?

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No, I don't have friends in prison, I have associates and know they are like family, everybody looks out for number one and will lie, steal, and stab you in the back.

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By: Timothy Baker

do I have friends in prison? I have associates, and maybe one or two friends, but not on this unit I'm on now. Never have been any like family. In general population, you see groups that appear close, but that's just for mutual survival. You got to watch everywhere in here. Even the people you feel you can trust. It’s sad you have to do that, but it only takes one bad apple to put a knife in your back.

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Do the police treat you nice?

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By: Timothy Baker

Do the police treat us nice? no they don't treat us bad or just the opposite they treat us like SHIT. The guards there was so many inmates that they treat us like cattle. They come to do their job and they go home. Most officers are good people, but they're trained not to trust us period.

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My question is: Is there any attention/counselling etc offered to inmates on death row particularly after an execution? Are they in anyway 'prepared' for what lays before them? I'm curious to know how inmates on death row deal with executions where they know and are friends with the inmate facing execution. Thankyou for the opportunity provided by a site such as this.

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By: Timothy Baker

HA Ha Ha, That’s a good one! The state of Texas Isn’t going to waste time and money to make sure we are mentally stable, or sound especially if an inmate is on death row… I am in a control Unit administrative segregation, 23 hour lock down. The mental stress is unbelievable. I cope by writing reading and exercising. But a lot of people can't. All around me are men whose minds have snapped. My neighbor never talks to anyone. Three cells down a guy never leaves his cell, he never showers and the smell will make your toes curl. But he talks to everyone even people who aren't there. The only answer Texas has for this is to dope them up with SHIT I wouldn't give a dog. To be honest, It only makes them worse. Right now Texas is cutting a lot of spending, and they're taking non- nonviolent mental patients off their medication . What’s sad is that there are studies done by prison specialists, Doctors , professors etc., that show that when you put men in a closed environment like I'm in, that mental illness skyrockets in the inmate population. But do you think they care? If we lose our minds, then that's one less person they really need to deal with…..

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Q: Is there any Attention /counseling, etc. offered to inmates on death row, particularly after an execution? A: Yes and No. Yes, there is a small bit of attention /counseling offered, but only if you want it. Personally, I've never had to or wanted to see a counselor; that's what friends and family are for. Q: Are they in anyway "prepared" for what lays before them? A: I don't think that we can ever be truly prepared for the executions- we hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. [My buddy, Sarge has been around that corner to the death cell on three separate occasions, and he's as crazy as a shit-house mouse! (well, he also served three tours in Vietnam, but I'm just saying)] Q: I'm curious to know how inmates on death row deal with executions where they know and are friends with the inmate facing execution? A: On those three separate occasions, when my buddy, Sarge, went around that corner to the death cell to await execution, I was quite a bit stressed out and worried for him. Each time, he gave me all of his things (to hold for him in case he came back, or to keep if he didn't make it back). I wrote him letters, expressing how much our friendship meant to me, and tried to give him encouraging words of the ways of the warrior. I gave him a huge and told him that I loved him like a brother. With tears in his eyes, it broke my heart. I prayed for him to return. I shed tears for him. When you've known someone for 16 years and they are that close, it's very tough to lose them or even think about losing them. In a sense, it's like we're on the battlefield together - through the good days and bad days; either way, we're ankle-deep in shit! Unless you've been there, you just wouldn't understand.

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you ask if there is any counseling etc. offered to the inmates on death row. There is counseling for inmates on death row. In each state, the counseling is varied in the state. I see a counselor every week. I'm sure if I was ever executed there would be a lot of counseling for other inmates. As far as being prepared for what lies ahead. Is there any way to really prepare for your death. I really don't think there is. I do think, when a death row inmate reaches that point they just accept it, instead of preparing for it. Execution touches anyone who sits on that death row. It doesn't matter if you know that person or not it hits us because we all sit in the same place and could face the same fate.

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My question to you is if you were in my shoes how would you handle this situation? For as long as I can remember my father has been in jail and for a long time i had no contact with him. I guess I felt that since he wasn't here for me why be there for him but now once I got older I started writing him. I just recently found out that I was the only one writing him in the whole family but I haven't written him latley.

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By: Andre Lewis

Response to the 26-year-old female in South Carolina. Remember you only have one mother and one father, whatever direction life took them, and you are still their child and they are still your parents, and once they are gone, you don't get any more. It's only right that you connect with your father and show him love. I'm not just saying this because I am incarcerated. I'm saying this because I know how it is to go through life without a father. My father wasn’t incarcerated, but it might as well have been because he was never around. I don't know him. I used to resent and hate the man I never knew. But as I got older, I forgave his absence. You may not be able to forget that your father has been absent all these years. But you can forgive him. Life as dictated by society does not give those of us who are incarcerated a second chance. But you can give your father a second chance to be part of your life. It doesn't matter what happened that led your father to be absent in life all these years. That was the past, what matters is building a loving and supporting bond with your father in the present or the future. Yes it does get lonely and here, very lonely. We are in the bottom of the pit trying to climb out. And when you don't have that family support and love ,you have nothing except whatever higher power you put your faith in . To many, a higher power, is his family. It is important to know that regardless of what you've been through with your father not being around ,there always will be a connection between the two of you, with love and a desired to have a parent-child relationship. I am a father, and if you understood and could experience the pain of not having your children and your life, you would know what us parents who are incarcerated go through. I don't hear from my children all the time. When I do hear from them, It's a feeling I can explain. When I get a chance to talk or see them, I can see the pain in their faces , fear that’s in her voice, because I'm not there with them and that helps to strengthen me to be a better father and man, when I get out. It means the world to receive a card or letter from a loved one. Letting us know that someone out there cares. Even though your father's incarcerated, you still have a chance to connect and get to know your father many of us can't say that is we don't know our fathers. The streets, were our fathers! Don't allow the chance to connect with your father pass by. Because when he's gone, you'll be wishing you had writen your father and given him the love and support that he needed. If possible go visit him, show that you care about his well-being. I can tell that you care about connecting with your father. He didn't, you would have never written him and you would've never asked for advice about the situation. All your heart and give your father the love he needs. Note to Jon, this woman says that she is here to be a friend to talk to. Note to JON( I'm not sure if she would like a penpal, but if you have her e-mail contact her, give her my info , so that she can write me at the prison)

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear 26-year old female from Bennettsville, south Carolina: Q: (In regards to her father being in jail, and her not having had contact with him for a long time.) If you were in my shoes, how would you handle this situation? A: You feel that, since your father was not there for you why should you be there for him? First of all, "two wrongs don't make a right." Just because one person acts a certain way, doesn't mean you have to, too. What kind of relationship do you want to have with your father? Close? Friendly? Not at all? Either way, why not just give him a chance? Correspond with him for a bit and see where that leads. "A man never knows unless he tests himself." (in your case, a woman.) Ask him those burning questions you have. Ask him why he got into trouble and couldn't be there for you. (other then the obvious reason as to what he's locked up for.) Ask him about your heritage. There are so many questions you could be asking him, so don't be afraid to ask. If possible, it would be best to visit him and ask him those questions face to face. You see, when I was five-years old, My father was murdered. He had been an abusive alcoholic. Nevertheless, I have a thousand-and-one burning questions that I wish that I could ask him. Unlike you, I'll never have that opportunity. Life is WAY to short. You really should ask your father all the questions you need answers to. Be prepared-there will be a few questions that he just won't have answers for. Good luck with your father.

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By: Timothy Baker

Write your father! Be a part of his life! You said, no one else in your family has contact with him right? So how do you think he feels? I did 10 years my family virtually abandoned me never wrote. It was very lonely. It was 10 Years and when I got out. I didn't like my family much after that. I'll never understand how people can say,”I love you” but not write a letter or years at a time. Prison is a very lonely place, and without friends and family to love and support you, You’ll lose yourself up in here. Do you love your father? Hell do you even know your father? The greatest gift you can ever give him is to let him be part of your life, because without that ,he won't have one.

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30 yr old female from newcastle,indiana looking for pen pals i believe in second chances..I have been disabled since i was 15 yrs old i like to meet new ppl but if the fact of me being in a wheelchair stops you from wanting to get to know me then ok just give me the heads up i am a cool kind hearted person i have a big heart been through alot.,wanna know more just ask. Do you want to be friends with me lets write each other?

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By: Jon Hurley

Angel, Thanks for the letter. I want to tell you I could care less about your disability. Meaning it doesn’t bother me. Everyone has something that makes them unique. I was injured at work and have not worked for almost 3 years. My L& I was cut off because they say I can do sedentary work like work on a computer or answer phones. I have worked construction my whole life, now I am supposed to be a secretary? I have been living on my savings. Thank god I saved my money. I would enjoy occasionally exchanging letters but to be honest I write about 15 people already. The guys on my site however are very interesting and making contact with them could turn into a lasting friendship. Because the Nature of your question is more of a persona one ( would you like to be my pen pal ?) I will forward your request if you wish. But I would suggest rather that you send the people you would like to write, a letter. Andre and Rockwell are both great letter writers and interesting as people. I also know they would like mail. That is partly why they are here. There also is group of inmates below them all of which would like letters. If you are worried about your safety you can get a post office Box. I Am not worried about these people on my site and I do try to weed out the scammers and anyone who is a sexual predator. There are some rules that should be followed when you write any one, convict or not. Set the rules with the first or second letter. If you want to be friends state that. If you would like to have more of a romantic relationship you should write that. Also most inmates are very respectful and won’t talk about sex or use foul language unless you start first. Do not send them money, drugs or nude photos. Many people send money and letter feel like they were used. The people on my site have never asked me for money but I have given them some to pay for their writing supplies. It was the agreement I made when I started my site. I have also sent books as gifts and on occasion I will try to help their families if they have an emergency. But it is all because I want to not because they ask. I am in the middle of starting a web site called ask a Serialkiller.com I wouldn’t suggest writing any of those people. It has inspired me to write my memoirs called “Journey into darkness.” Believe me it truly is a journey into darkness. I will forward your request to all and then e mail you their responses and post them here, but it will take about 10 days. It would shorten the time if you wrote them yourself. Let me know what you want to do. Jon

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By: Andre Lewis

I would love to get letters and write you

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

I don't care if you are in a wheel chair. I like to meet new people . Write me and I'll write you back.

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By: Timothy Baker

I would like mail. I am in solitary so Mail is what I live for

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How does it feel being sentenced to death? As you heard those words how did it make you feel? And how do you expect to meet anyone if you are sentenced to death? Since you already have been convicted may I ask who did you kill and why? What keeps you motivated in prison knowing that's all you have? Have your friends abandon you? How does your family feel? Do you have any kids? Does anyone come and visit you? What is your last meal going to be? Does the person you killed haunt your mind at night?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Q-how does it feel being sentenced to death? A-It feels like SHIT. I can't go where I want to do new things I really want to help my family like I want to eat what I want to etc.. Knowing you're going to die around a specific date stocks big green donkey decks being sentenced to death in waiting on death row to be put to death is like Chinese torture. Not to belittle the victims who died from any attack out there from someone else. But if I was in the free world, and I was to die, but only I had two choices die by surprise in the fast brutal death or spend years on death row under siege by idiots waiting for that day to die. As long as I was in the free world and actually had a chance to defend myself. I'd rather be surprised in diet fast brutal death. This type of torture for years is far worse than any death of a crime.... .... Q-How do you expect to meet anyone if you are sentenced to death? A-In what context? well they make pens and papers for writing. Phones for calling in cars for transportation to meet in the visitation room. Q-Since you are already have been convicted may I ask, who did you kill and why? A-That's incriminating question. Just because I've been convicted of a crime, doesn't mean I actually committed due to the ongoing appeals process. I'm not at liberty to give you answers to certain questions. I was accused of killing a good well-known man named Bill Lynn. You as an auto parts store owner and a part-time preacher. Unfortunately I did not know him personally, I'd didn't learn about him until after I was incarcerated. What happened to him and his family was a great tragedy. Q-What keeps you motivated in prison knowing that it's all you have? A-The love of life to help those that I can, the drive to leave things behind for my family and friends, so they will have something to remember me by, the desire to create and because there is a window of hope for a chance to keep on living hence the reason for the appeals process Q- Have your friends abandon you? A- Lots have because they just understand. Q-How does your family feel? A- Disappointed, because I'm a multi-talented and could have been more successful, more productive more helpful to family etc., but they still love me. Q- do you have any kids? A- Not anymore my ex girlfriend murdered my son. Kai Lee Price Q-Does anyone come to visit you? A_ Affirimitive. for a couple of times a year. Generally it's my mom,ma ma, grandma price, and my aunt Mildred and once in a blue moon, My uncle Mark and aunt Betty that situation is because of this piece is SHIT Warden Colliver. He has intentionally fucked up our whole visitation system to discourage people from coming to visit us. He hates death row. If not for that piece of SHIT, we would get more visits the old Worden Charles Jones. When he was here rented house and prisoners didn't have near as many problems, call her talking idiot. Under the old rule, I would definitely receive more visits from family and friends. Even though most of them lived way up in North Alabama. .. Q-What is your last meal going to be? A-If it was my absolute choice, it would be a Japanese meal teriyaki, sashimi, sushi ,soba or udon ,Tashi Amanatto, fugu, ame, and sake to drink it all down with an afterwards, A Kochado. Unfortunately, this Pice of SHIT Worden Colliver won't let us have what we really want for our last meal. The scuttlebutt is that they'll fix you, what ever down there in their prison gallery. I mean, your choice of the prison food. if I can, I think I'll get them to get a bunch of straight tuna, which only diabetics usually get, mix it with mayonnaise, which they never give us back here on death row. I’ll get crackers and is SHIT load of french fries half with ketchup and the other half with mayonnaise.I’ll probably have southern sweet tea made with real sugar, Unlike how they make it with artificial sweetener like they usually do for death row.

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Wow, well, I could write a book about most of your questions, but I won't because I don't have time, because I have other questions to answer song try to keep this short and sweet as I can how it feels to be sentenced to death is not a good feeling. But at the same time, I've learned to make the most of every day. When I heard the words. I went into shock and felt like I was about to pass out and throw up at the same time. I didn't kill anyone, my codefendant committed the murder. I keep me motivated, if I go do what no one else will and life is over until it's over, My so-called friends abandoned me. But now I have some really great friends through friends made for me and don't judge me one way or another. Some of my family has stayed by me and some haven't. But that's like anything in life. You always have those who will stick by you and those who don't I guess. I have three children, who I love very much. And yes I have visits. I don't think about my last mail and won't unless that time comes. No one keeps me up at night, I sleep very peaceful

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What does snail mail mean? What does snail mean exactly? Why do u like convicts so much r u really curious or do u really want to help them? How did u get in contact with them in the beggining? Did they send u their info and phot by mail or have u met them? How did u get them all to join ur site?

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By: Jon Hurley

Hey Joe! Thanks for the questions. First off, snail Mail is the us postal service. It is slow so Its sometimes called snail mail. Second Its not that I like convicts so much. I see them as people. Some people I like Others I don’t. Convicts are interesting to me because they are in the worst imaginable place possible. They truly are second class citizens and are set up to fail. If they fail that means more crime and more taxes to house them. I would like to see them become a part of society and start paying Taxes. I originally found the people on my site on pen pal sites or articles I read. Then I sent letters asking them to join me in my little adventure. Some said yeas some didn’t respond and some passed the letters on to others who might be interested. I got them to join by sharing a dream and telling them it was one way they could give back to society. In other words Yes it is a way to help. In addition to that it gives them something to do. I haven't met any of the people on this site but I plan on visiting them this summer. We write about twice a week. I will be starting another site called askaserialkiller.com I have two people who want to write for it and two that are thinking about it. AND YES they are all well known serial killers.

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Is it true that they give male prisoners pills to control their sex drive? If so do all male prisoners get them and are they madnatory? What else do you guys do to control your urge? Since you have no privacy even at night since you share cells how do you deal with no sex

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By: Andre Lewis

Response to Samantha (Student): I have been coming to prison and been in and out of prison for a long time, and I have never known or heard of male prisoners having to take pills to control their sex drive. And I keep up with all the happenings of prisons in the U.S. Whoever you are getting this crazy info from don’t know what they’re talking about. If the prisons are giving out anything to control male sex drive in prison, I don’t know about it and it ain’t working! I’m gonna give you a complete run down of what guys do to deal with their sexual urge… You have some guys who’s swag and talk game is up to par, or maybe their money is right, and can get a female officer to give them oral or penetrative sex. That happens all the time. Then you have guys that are labeled “jackers” or “gun-slinger”. Gun-slingging or jacking is when a prisoner masturbates while looking at a female officer. The female officer may or may not know the guy is masturbating off of her. Some guys wait tilla female officer stands or sits somewhere where they can see her face or ass, and masturbate. Then you have some female officers who like to see guys masturbate and post up somewhere or come to the guys cell so they can watch him masturbate… Then you have the homosexual and bi-sexual men. There are plenty of homosexuals in prison and plenty of guys who have sex with them. You have guys who everyone knows has sex with homosexuals, and you have guys on the DL who sneak around and have sex with homosexuals… As far as privacy goes, you have prisons that have two men to a cell, some with one man to a cell, and some that have open dorms with bunk beds. So if you are a “gun-slinger” or like homosexuals, guys will find a way to get some privacy… Also, you have guys like myself, who release out urge by pictures, sex novels, or magazines. In N.C. we can’t have totally nude pictures or magazines with nude pictures. But if you know the right people you can get them… Then there are the guys who have mastered their sexual urge and don’t need a release. I don’t think it’s too many of them… Within the prison system, every man has his own way of controlling his sexual urge; it just depends on what you like to do… Dre`.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear Samantha: Q: Is it true that they give male prisoners pills to control their sex drive? A: That's a negative, No pills are mandatory. Q: What else do you guys do to control your urge? A: The only way to stop an urge is to take care of it. Personally, I masturbate in private. Some masturbate openly. (they are called, "Gunslingers," but they get disciplinary for that) Some go and rent them a "She-Man," but that can only happen down the hall in population. However, one fool cut off his own testicular to try and stop thinking about women-to stop his urges-but the body doesn't work that way. Whether or not a man has testicles, he will still get an erection. (that boy was religious freak- totally screwed up in the head. He dropped his appeals soon after he cut his testicles off, and they executed him. I saw his mother and felt bad for her.) Some religious guys back here claim that they only watch religious programs to help curb their urges but I can't honestly say how effective that tactic is. Q: Since you have no privacy, even at night, since you share cells, how do you deal with no sex? A: I'm on death row. We don't share cells. We have a little bit of privacy, but not much. Therefore, I masturbate in private.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Answer to Samantha –NO they don't give male prisoners pills for the libido unless they’re requested. For legal reasons medication is only administered by choice. Medication cannot be forced on anyone. As for how prisoners relieve sexual drives the most common thing is masturbation. If one has a good imagination, one can fantasize. Some prisons have homosexuals so if you're into that then that's another way. There is privacy at night, especially in cell living. One has his times, but in a dorm setting it would be more of a process, but it's common nothing to be ashamed about. Some inmates are married and have conjugal visits every three months for about three days. So the possibilities are there for those who wish to indulge in such behavior

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I have this friend who has been locked up for sometime now, he has a birthday coming up and I wanted to know what things are you allowed to send or not send to inmates when receving mail?

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By: Andre Lewis

Being that I don¡¦t know the state you are located in, I can¡¦t really say what items your friend can receive in the mail. Every prison has different mail policies. But I do know that most prisons have some of the same mail policies for sending certain items. The info I¡¦m about to give you, I know for a fact that every prison will allow. You can send your friend birthday cards, friendship cards, etc., pictures (no poloriods) if you decide to send your friend some ¡§revealing¡¨ pictures, they can¡¦t be nude, if you are a female, panties, bra, thongs, etc. Male, boxers and briefs. Your friend would probably like to see you in a thong set for his Birthday!! ƒº You can order books or magazines for him. You can¡¦t buy them and send them directly; you have the publisher send it to him from the company. I don¡¦t know if your friend has a certain religion or culture he studies, but you can send certain religion items. Well, you have to order them and have the company send it to him. For example, I study Rastafarian and Moorish Science, so my people can order me a crown which has to have the colors Red, Black, Gold, or Green in it for my dreads. It can have all 4 colors in it or just 3 of the colors.. And the universal gift that¡¦s good for anytime of the year; Money! If you decide to send your friend some money, it has to be in a money order made out to your friend. If it¡¦s anything extra he can have, you may have to contact him and ask him¡K. Let me add, that it¡¦s a good thing that you¡¦re thinking about your friend like that, I¡¦m pretty sure he¡¦s thankful and grateful to have a friend like you in his life. He needs that type of moral support. If he respects and looks at you in such a good way, he¡¦d be thankful to just receive a card and letter on his birthday letting him know he¡¦s being thought about. Oh, and don¡¦t forget to put some good smelling perfume on that card and letter¡K Dre`.

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I don't have a nasty question because I respect all of you as people.. Although I may not agree ... I am not the one to judge. i would just like to know are u being treated like wise... God Bless :) i want to get to know you I'm am 26 yr old young woman. I'm very dependent on my self not looking for a man dependent on me. I am used to meeting men that are attracted by the appearance, but I think a man outta site ....outta mind would be good for me. On a mental level maybe more.. I just need the mental stimulation more than anything. I have a minor record as well.. including dui and DWLS.. What the fk!!!!! ever...lol Anyhow You are a georgous man and I wanna get to know you.. Take care of your self and stay positive...Ya Girl Heather from AK :)

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By: Andre Lewis

Response to 26 yr. old young woman Heather from AK: Heather; first off, I would like to thank you for the comment on my looks. That’s one of my main priorities to keep myself up. I came in here health and as you say georgous, and I plan on leaving out the same way. I see that you have an interest in wanting to get to know me on a personal level. I have no problem with that. You say that you are use to meeting men that are attracted by the appearance; well maybe its time that you try something new.. A child is attracted to appearance, a man is attracted to whats on the inside! When I deal with a person, I’m attracted to the mental stimulation more than anything, You can find my Name and Address on the site. I hope to hear from you. Dre’

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It is harder to work 40,50 or even 60 hours a week to make ends meet is take the easy path of stealing aor dealing drugs You think that if you got out. You'd be up for a challenge?

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By: Andre Lewis

I know I'm up for the challenge work 40,50, or 60 hours a week. My eye and I work 60 hours a week as I've never had a problem finding a job and working. I kept a job. I just chose to sell drugs and rob drug dealers on the side.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Answer, absolutely I'm always been a hard worker, even in prison. From the time I wake up until the time I go to sleep. I'm always working on something writing, making humor cards drying physical training for my health karate for self-defense meditation for peace in line reading, studying learning to better educate myself, cleaning, washing my clothes ,making cloths when needed. Etc.. Life is too short to be wasted. For the things I want and need to do there isn't enough time each day. If I was released right now, I would have a job before the day was over. I may not like that job, but I would have one until I found a better one. I love the work.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

I definitely will and I shall work that 60 hours weekly and with a smile.

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By: Timothy Baker

If I found a job that paid enough to give me a healthy productive life. Sure I'd be up for the challenge for working in a Burger King Macon 725 an hour with no medical. No health insurance, living in an apartment with another family just to afford rent any Democratic is a few quotes of my own for you smile, 1) let your life be a counter friction to stop the machine (Thoreau) 2) the ancient commission of the writer has not changed. He is charged with exposing our many griefs, faults and failures, with dredging up to the light our dark and dangerous dreams for the purpose of improvement(Steinbeck) 3) writers are forged in injustice as a sword is forged (Hemingway)

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I have lived my life within the legal limits, so why shouldn't I get some sort of reward for that?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

You do, your freedom. You must not take your freedom for granted. You also have the choice to find a better job. Sometimes no matter how hard we work, we just can't get a break. That is the way of life, but you have to be persistent. If one method isn't working for you try another. You can always research and find a better way.

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If you were released today and were given the opportunity to carry on your life without being labeled or discriminated upon due to your past, do you honestly think you would live your life without crime being part of it, or would you revert back to the way you did before?

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

In the event that I was released today, and given such an opportunity I can honestly say. I can live without crime, and I would never transgress.

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By: Andre Lewis

I know without a doubt I would not revert back to my crime and I've had time to do some soul-searching and too many dramatic bangs have happened to my children or mutate a chance to end up back here. Once the release, this time has honestly broke me. I finally received bottom of the barrel, and it didn't feel good. So, if and when given a chance I will be a positive productive person in society. .

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Yes, if I was released today. I would live my life without crime being a part of it. I was 19 years old when I was incarcerated. Now I'm 36 years old. For almost 17 years have been incarcerated in 19 years I've experienced more than most people because of my adventurous lifestyle. But there is so much more that one experience. It's a proven fact that your mind isn't fully developed until your mid-20s. Add that with your environment ,upbringing, mentality at the time, and experiences, and you're prone to be childish and do immature things or more susceptible to make bigger mistakes. Now I am much more mature and educated. So I would never revert back to the way I was before.

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By: Timothy Baker

If I had that chance I can tell you honestly that I'd probably never do crime again. As I learned one valuable lesson, society or our government or anyone else, with few exceptions, couldn't give a rats ass about me. So I would jump on the bandwagon and ride with the rest of society to hell in a handbasket. That’s the American Way right?

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Hi Christopher :) I just wanted to say hello, to ask how your day was going and to also ask: what do you do to try and stay sane? Do boredom and monotony become harder or easier to cope with over time? Thanks for the opportunity to 'speak' with you. Have a great day :) Cheers & regards, Aussie M

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear Aussie M: Q; What do you do to try and stay sane? A: I try to keep myself VERY busy. When I'm super-busy, I don't have time to think about these bars, or that I'm under siege by idiots-Both inmates and rent-a-cops. Q: Do boredom and monotony become harder or easier to cop with over time? A: First of all what boredom? I never get bored. Only stupid people get bored, because intelligent people will always find something to do. As for monotony, that is kind of a yes and no answer. On one level, you're still behind bars (locked in a cage for 23 hours a day except on Rec room days one day per week) and you have to contend with some of the same people everyday. With certain ones that you hate and can't stand, that becomes harder and harder to cope with. In one aspect, it's like Chinese torture. On another level, there isn't that much monotony. Sure, the Rent-A-Cops try to have rules and a schedules, but they NEVER go buy them, except when it's to their benefit. Even in such a confined space, like I said earlier, I stay super-busy. I can meditate ( when it's actually quiet for a few minutes), do dynamic stretching, go through physical training, karate practice, play Basketball (as long as you're not on single-walk) , play Volleyball, run laps, converse with friends, read, study, correspond with friends and family, work on my graphic novel (write and draw),work on making cards (I'm a professional cartoon card; humor illustrator-to help support myself), write for Askaconvict.com; write in my journal, write in my record's journal. Just doodle, tinker with small projects (make a pair of shorts, a hat etc.), clean, do clothing/shoe repair, and on rec room days, I can play cards, dominoes, and chess or checkers; and also I watch a little T.V. As you can see, MY list of things to do is long enough to stave off monotony, because I can do one of those things all day long, or I can mix them up and do a few things one day, or I can do a little of each, each day.

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What should I do?....I was with a African male for about 4 years and I found out some interesting things about him and his family after I left him I found out he was a drug dealer and still is and he is into a little bit of everything thats illegal. Now that I know these things about him I am scared of him and now that he knows I know these things about him he acts differently towards me basically he was living a double life and since people know I was his woman no one will dare talk to me for fear that they will get hurt. I am scared to date what should I do because he has been threating all the men I talk to he even has his friends watch me to see what I do on a daily basis. I'm afraid of himI'm a single mother with 1 son who is 6 years old and I'm 26 with and open heart and kinda curious about the way criminals think (silly but true)

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By: Andre Lewis

it's not silly wanting to know how a “criminal mind works” .Anyone, male or female who deals with illegal activities has a different mind set. It seems to me that you have become involved with the guy who has serious insecurity problems. Take what I'm about to say as a complement. You must have been very special for this guy to be acting the way he's acting. I've seen plenty of females go to the same problem you have. First off, don't get the wrong misconception that every African man or ”criminal” as you say,is the same. I take it you are not African and that is one of the reasons why this guy is acting the way he is. Whatever nationality you are, this guy sees you as weak and inferior to his other female conquests, which I feel it's safe to say were African women. I do not see color is a factor because you are still a woman. But he doesn't see it that way then you are doing nothing more than feeding his ignorant ways, actions and thinking by showing him you fear him. And by feeding off your fear of him, he is trying to hide his weakness. Just because he's a criminal drug dealer or into other illegal activities, doesn't mean he should be feared, but there are many criminals and drug dealers were cowards and won't bust a grape. And he's doing just what a coward is supposed to do to someone who is weaker than him. If he was all about doing something to you, why didn't he do something when you left him now is using the oldest scare tactic, by having his friends watch you and you're falling for. I don't know what type of man you been trying to be with or have been trying to date you sense this break. But there ain't no way in hell you can call the men, if they're scared to date you because of this other guy. There, just as much cowards as your ex. You realize that you've already made the first and most important step in ending the problem. You left him. So if you could leave him. Then you can stand up to the ignorant messes he's doing. You also have to think you have a six-year-old child take care of, if you can't stand up for yourself, you need to stand up for your child's well-being . Because whatever you go through your child goes through. If you are living in fear your child will live in fear. You going to have to stand up to this guy and let him know you're not going to stand for his ignorance anymore and mean what you say, don't show any signs of weakness or fear, and I don't advocate getting the law involved in personal affairs. But in this case where a child is involved the law may have to be an alternative if he doesn't stop Slap a restraining order on his ass or get someone you know that's not scared of him to step up to him and put his ass in check. In any event you need to stand up to him. You have a life to live an a child to raise and you can't keep living in fear this man. Once you show him you don't fear him anymore then he can ‘t dictate your life, things will go better

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By: Jon Hurley

Don't mess around get a restraining order!!!

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By: Timothy Baker

Well, from what you say it's all going to end up the Same, You are going to have to move, maybe to a different town. Because you have two choices. You can accept the way things are and take the chances of getting hurt or you can even go to the police. If you go to the police, you'll be in even more danger and have to move away anyway. So listen. My advice is to file a restraining order and move to another town. And if you see hide or hair of him, call 911. He sounds like he is a potential starter and that he is not accepting your choice of leaving him. The fact that he's willing to break the law makes him more dangerous. So my advice is to get the hell out of town and get out fast.

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Idon't have a question but i do have a comment. I've been reading your questions and answers and i am impressed. it's good to see that even though you are in the situation that you are in you still want to help other. some people may not thing it's a big deal but to others it means the world, and i applaud you for that.I don't understand why some people think that just because your in jail you should be completely shut out from the rest of the world, you're people too and you can stop someone from going down that wrong road and making the mistakes you made then why not. Everyone deserves a second chance but society doesn't seem to think that way. They want you to be a productive member of society but nobody wants to give you a chance. I just wanted to say that i commend you for what you are doing and i will be praying for you.GOD BLESS YOU

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By: Andre Lewis

Dyani, first I would like to thank you for the positive and uplifting comment. It is a blessing to know that there are individuals like yourself that see what we are doing as positive and enlightening the masses. True, everyone deserves a second chance , and this is what we are trying to show and prove. The reason why people in society think negative about those of us who are in prison in the lack of understanding of self and of others. It is the experiences of our lives that births our expressions and if you don't understand our experiences you'll never understand our expressions. If you don't know the souls that live behind these walls, you'll never understand us. So they can't judge us, those same people who judge and looked down on those of us who are incarcerated, fail to realize that they are locked within a prison also. Their minds and souls have been corrupted with the negative thinking of society in the word of the higher power. You can find out that this mental and spiritual prison separates us from the higher power and prevents these individuals from thinking rational. This mental and spiritual prison is called “ignorance”. It was never supposed to be that way when the higher power created life in the world. But that's what happened because some decided to take control of their own lives, apart from a higher power. In reality these individuals and society have placed themselves above the higher power as they continue to judge belittle and ridicule others as if they are perfect, but they failed to realize they are one step from being behind these walls. Just because they live a productive life now doesn't mean a life changing experience is not inevitable and they may end up committing a crime without thinking. Ignorance makes people think life is all about them, and in the course of this thinking ,other people get hurt or ridiculed in so many different ways because of the thoughts and actions of this ignorant thinking. Once again, I want to thank you for your uplifting encouraging words. I encourage that you put the word out to your family and friends who share the same views and encourage them and others to support Ask a convict. Take care and made a higher power continue to bless you. Thanks for your prayers. Write me!

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My question to you is prison "safer" that real life. I mean I know in prison you have no bills, no responsibility, no real job. Maybe I dont know what im trying to ask you! Im just scared that when he gets out does good for a few years things get hard he goes right back in? Is their a way as his wife that I can prevent it? I am married to a great man that just cant handle stress. I knew when I met hm that hes been to prison 4 times arrested numerous times. Well its been 8 years since he was in prison we got married had a child. He was told he couldnt have kids I gave him a son, we had a nice house, he was driving a brand new truck and had a VERY good job. Like was perfect! Then he just started going downhill and decided prison was the place for him? I mean it all happened so fast? We got him a good lawyer and hes not doing hard time like everyone thought he should. He had multiple felonies and all but most of everything was dropped hell be home in a year.

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By: Jon Hurley

I understand where you are. But I can relate to your husband more. Even though you didn’t ask me this question I wanted to answer it and I sent it to all the inmates. First off I want to tell you I don’t handle stress well at all either. I’ve been told that I have post traumatic stress syndrome. What that means is I don’t handle stress well. I have done everything I can to rid myself of stress. I don’t have pets because they can stress me out quickly. And I feel I need to be as stress free as possible. Don’t get me wrong I love animals I just don’t want the added stress. So what can I do about that stress that I can’t get rid of? Well much of my response to stress is learned so I try to change my response. I don’t like being the guy who is stressed out all the time. One way to reduce stress is to think positive good thoughts. That sounds easy but it is real is very difficult. It all has to do with a positive attitude. Sometimes to help break the cycle of negative thinking and an over active stress response, prescribed medication, such as antidepressants are useful. Especially if your husband drinks or self medicates with other drugs. Most substance use/ abuse is covering other deeper issues of depression or Ptsd. I will forward your question on to the others. Look for a response in about 2 weeks.

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By: Timothy Baker

Honestly, yes, people do find prisoner prison easier to deal with than the responsibilities of life. Most of the time, they don't really realize what they're doing. But your husband sounds like he was doing something he knew was wrong. The human spsych is a weird thing. When some people do wrong, They’ll unconsciously do things that will get them caught. Almost like a cry for help! When he gets out, You just have to keep an eye on him, find stuff to do, hobbies,Keep them busy. But If he's lost then give him a wake up call. Don’t just sit by and watch as he ruines your life. Talk to him, yell and scream, but always let him know you love him. You'll be surprised how people think when they know people love them.

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If you could go back and change ONE thing the night you got arrested what would it be? Thanks in advance!Lisa

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear Lisa. When I found out they were looking for me. I would've ran like hell, way before they actually found me. The system is very corrupt!

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

I would not change anything.

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Why should prisoners have all the same rights as everyone else when they get out as someone that has never broken the law? I've never even been arrested, so if someone with a criminal past was given a job over me, I honestly don't think that's fair. Plus it would be an incentive for people to continue not to break the law because they know what the consequences are. I do feel, however, that if more opportunities were there, then maybe it would be easier for a prisoner to turn his or her life around.

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By: Andre Lewis

Because if they work for those rights in a positive way they deserve to have those rights. You don't dig in their personal criminal past, gets a job over you, did you ever stop to think that they may be more qualified than you are. You don't think it's fair, as you've never lived in our shoes and in a way you feel like you're better than us. You just have a small judgmental mind. Small minds condemn anything they fail to understand

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By: Gregory Gant

I feel prisoner should have all of their rights restored after serving all their time. Take for instance your child go outside after you told them not to. You punish your child but not for the rest of its life.

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By: Timothy Baker

it's a hard question granted, some jobs must be restricted to ex-convicts such as police prison guards. Banks etc. etc. but other than that, if I commit a crime and received five years. And I complete the entire sentence. I repaid my debt to society for society continue to judge me every time I fill out a job application is wrong. Person should receive a job on how qualified he or she is not on if he had made some mistakes that were in the past..

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How do you feel about prison overcrowding? Do you have any answers or ideas how to fix it. Do you think that if courts are more lenient then crime will go up. That would over fixed the crowding, but at what price?

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By: Andre Lewis

How I feel about prison overcrowding? I feel the overcrowding of prisons is just a way to put more money in the pockets of those who don't care about the lives of prisoners and emotional strain of their family. It's a form of modern-day slavery. This lure to make big money by taxing the prisons and building more prisons is only corrupting the nation's criminal justice system by replacing notions of public service with the drive for higher profits and eagerness of elected officials to pass tough on crime legislation. Combined with their unwillingness to disclose the true costs of these laws has encouraged all sorts of financial improprieties. The key these prisons overcrowded is an amoral waste of scarce state monies and an obligation enforced on the states by the dictates of the federal law. But in turn it is also a source of political capital, and instead of using that money for self-help programs for prisoners, They used it to build more prisons and to get rich. The enormous increase in America's inmate population is in large part due to the sentences given to people who have committed nonviolent offenses. Crimes that in other countries would usually lead to community service, fines, drug treatment, or would not be considered criminal at all. In the United States now leads in prison farms, by far the most expensive form of punishment. It wouldn't matter if the courts were lenient or not, it still would not change the crime rate. The prison boom is what is called a social experiment to control a population that is all It’s about money and control.

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By: Gregory Gant

to me this prison thing is a money racket. Sure, we need prisons to keep the public safe in the animals off the streets. But the drug addict's and smalltime drug dealers in jails and prisons for 10 to 15 years is crazy. We as a nation have a big problem in that start with education as a solution and prisons. I pray to God that this don't happen. But look at this. I got a kid out there or we could say someone else. But that kid grow up or without a father and dropout school starts to sell drugs. If you get caught, the court want to send him to prison. Well, why not back to school and use that money that they was going to use to lock him up to pay for a trade or college?

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

I feel that overcrowding a prisons are because of greed and the lack of rehabilitation and it costs less to reform and than to house prisoners. I do not think that if the courts be more lenient that crime would go up. In fact across America are crime overall is down. Most citizens are unaware of this fact. Why, as if the government told society that crime was down then the public would then promote reform, which in return would mean less money for prisons and more money for you the taxpayer

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By: Timothy Baker

You seem to have the idea that a person's desire to do crime is just because he's lazy, mean or what ever when that's not the case. There are hundreds of thousands stuck in here for drug-related offenses. America's war on drugs is a failed policy that has done nothing to the drug trade, but has enslaved millions killed thousands and destroyed parts of our society. Just as I believe it was intended to if you do away with this failed policy that would not only take away more than a third of the crime relieve overcrowding would give the minority people love suffered the most a chance to have a better life. I don't give a damn if you build a prison every day. There will always be a criminal to fill them as long as you are society turned your head, and the way our society governs our Ron. You'll never be able to fix the problem by starting at the bottom. Prisons are the end of the road by the time someone ends up here. It's already damn near too late. You got to go to the schools, ghettos, projects. You got a hit the streets. You have to fix the problem at the beginning, which I'm sorry to say is our society's lack of giving a ship about anyone but themselves. When we as a society really start caring get our heads out of the sand and really want change. Hell, there's no telling what we could accomplish. You'll always have some criminals, but if you give most people the resources to live a healthy productive life and take care of his family without having to call some one last. You'll see that most people are willing to be a law-abiding citizen, just like you

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If you could change something what would it be? Would you change the crime you committed or just the fact you got caught.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

if I committed this crime. I would definitely change the fact that I committed the crime.

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By: Gregory Gant

It's funny that you asked me that if you would have asked me that seven years ago. I would've told you I change the fact that I got caught. But after being locked up so long and maturing. I would change the fact that I ever sold or knew what dope was. And If I didn’t didn't sell drugs or know what drugs was, I would've taken a different path in life.

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By: Andre Lewis

I would change the crime committed, as I almost got killed in the process of committing crime.

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By: Timothy Baker

I would change the fact that I got caught because 10 minutes after my crime. I didn't get anything. I promised I'd never do it again. And for almost 6 months, I didn't get caught. I was able to get on my feet and was somehow I got a job and went to college and was doing good. But my mistake caught up with me. It was wrong to do my crime, but the way society treats people is wrong too. You can't fix one without the other.

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I want to know, and forgive me for being blunt, but what exactly stops you from ending it all? You basically know you're going to die in prison, what keeps you going everyday? I ask this because I've been there, and If I got a sentence like yours, I swear I'd kill myself. Sorry if this is depressing, or whatever. Mad props, and much love and respect to you.. I'd write to you but I'm on parole and it would be a violation.First of all I want to say that I love the "God is Good" poem. I completely see where you're coming from and agree. It pisses me off to see other people making harsh comments and judgment on this page when they obviously haven't walked in our shoes. I just recently was released from hell.

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By: Timothy Baker

There is nothing in prison worth living for, and many people, ”end it all” as you say. I wanted to end it all. But slicing my wrist or hang myself didn't appeal to me. I prefer to make the cops kill me. But right now I have a reason to live. You and people like you who reach out to us make our life livable. Plus, I have my writing that hopefully one day will help some kid to understand life better. I live through other people's hearts and minds. If I didn't have that, I would end it all. One of my worst fears is to die alone in prison. I have nightmares about it.

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im 14.how did it feel to kill someone?

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

I plead the 5th on that question, other then it's never good to kill another human being because once that person is gone its forever. You have to remember those people have family that will suffer emotional stress for the rest of their lives. The loss of a loved one brings on a whole new set of problems and issues. Television, video games and books like to glamorize death. But it’s not a fantasy world when you actually do it in the real world. Spending the rest of your life in prison where someone tells you all the time when you can or can't do something. So don't believe the hype, as they say, always respect life and your fellow human beings. My mistake would be one I wouldn't want you repeating the thing you need to focus on and be interested in, aren’t death and workings of a criminal mind. Think of studying CSI type courses. This way, at least you'll be able to benefit from for time, being focused yourself and on education and making plans as to what you wish to take in college or to other ways of satisfying your interests without resorting to actually experiencing it. I wish you much success in life. Don't let yourself be influenced by negative influences. Good luck in your positive endeavors.

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By: Gregory Gant

Dear Ryan Ryan. I can't answer that for you because I've never killed anyone myself. I know people who have and some say they didn't feel anything. Some say it was a rush. Ryan, Im begging you, Let's not find out!!!!! If we didn't give life, We have no right to take away. Lets focus on how we can make life better.

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By: Jon Hurley

Ryan, I am torn. Partly because I know this site has a ton of adult content, but partly because I think many kids your age need to understand what these people go through each day. I wish you could understand the pain and loneliness the people on this page face. They are not here because it is cool to be in prison. They are here because they are desperate for some human contact outside of those walls they are in. Inmates are just like you and me except they have made bad choices and have been caught. If you are doing anything Illegal STOP. Try to find something else to do. Be a man. Be a upstanding man that people can look up to. Any one can make bad choices. Only the strong can make good choices. True it is more difficult to do what is right. But it makes you stronger and it pays off in the long run. The one thing having this web site has taught me is I NEVER WANT TO GO TO PRISON. Rockwell and Breeze could have had a bright futures. They both have written a book and are helping inmates publish them. But you know what. It is almost impossible from inside. They can’t fulfill their potential because they are stuck in prison. Turn off you phone and your computer live in your room for a weekend only leaving 1 hour a day to go outside to exercise. Don’t see or talk to any of your friends or family. I doubt you can do it. Tell your parents you are pretending to be in prison. Now imagine that for 18 years and add people who constantly want to harm you. Sound cool? Sounds like a loser’s life to me. I am sure all on this page would agree. I know those sitting on death row waiting to be killed would.

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What were thinking when you committed the crime?

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

To be a perfectly honest, I was thinking that I would teach them a lesson about F’ing with me.

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By: Andre Lewis

What was I thinking when I committed my crime? I was thinking about getting that money so I can continue to take your kids and pay the bills

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Answer, I am unable to answer this question. It's a catch 22, a loaded question.

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By: Gregory Gant

first off, I can't say I was thinking at all. I just went to buy some dough, a guy I went to was not my usual contact. When they're getting into an argument over the prize and one thing led to another. I ended up taking all his belt. He called the police and said I robbed him for money. Being he could not tell the truth about the drugs. I went to trial a blew.

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By: Timothy Baker

what was I thinking when I committed my crime?? Well, I was thinking if I can just get $500 that I could get a car. So I could find a job, and I prayed. Please god, don't let me get caught and I'll never do it again. But we see out that turned out

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My question to you is do you find that prison does actually change people for the better,(like I presume it's suppose to) or do most prisoners revert back to their old lifestyle? I guess I just want to believe that there really is that human element in everyone. Even prisoners.I originally started writing a prisoner so that I could honestly teach my son to always look for the good in people and try to look beyond someone's past. I'm in no way looking "to save a soul" or to "find a soul mate". The prisoner I'm writing has actually become a friend. Thank you for your time.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Tammy , yes, Prison can change someone for the better. However, most people who are released back in to society transgress because they believe that the old lifestyle is all they have, but for the most part. If he or she has a solid support cast, they can make it in society. I have been incarcerated for 17 years and I've seen guys come back three to four times, but I've also seen quite a few get released and make it. Smile

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By: Andre Lewis

If released today given the chance to live life without being district discriminated upon because of my past that I honestly think I could live a crime free. Or go back to my old ways. I know without a doubt I would not revert back to my crime and I've had time to do some soul-searching and too many dramatic bangs have happened to my children or mutate a chance to end up back here. Once the release, this time has honestly broke me. I finally received bottom of the barrel, and it didn't feel good. So, if and when given a chance I will be a positive productive person in society. . I know I'm up for the challenge work 40,50, or 60 hours a week. I have worked 60 hours a week as I've never had a problem finding a job and working. I kept a job. I just chose to sell drugs and rob drug dealers on the side.

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By: Gregory Gant

that's a question that's hard answer. First off, prisons don't change anyone is the prison person that change. A lot of us think about our mistakes and want to change some of us don't have anywhere to go but back to the things we knew, because they was not given any help entering society. When you lock someone up here she lose everything they own in most cases. They are pushed back into the street with nothing and nowhere to go. That will break a man's spirit. So they go back to what they now but if given a job at a home. Things could change for a lot of prisoners, as far as staying out.

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Mr. Price, I find your profile/crime very interesting in that I see myself as being of the same personality/character type as you. I’m Native American (Sioux), former Marine, martial arts aficionado, and ex-armed bank robber. It’s very easy to look back and see that I was only a trigger-pull away from being where you are now. I pulled off many armed robberies without firing a shot and without being caught. When I finally was apprehended, I still managed not to shoot anyone even though I had a small arsenal at my disposal – and that leads to my question: Why did you feel it necessary to kill (and/or hurt) the persons you were robbing? I can identify with the martial arts abuse aspect in that you always want to see if your training is everything you think it should be (and if it really works). However, when I got that urge, I would just go to a bar and pick a fight to test out any new techniques that I’d been working on (won most – lost a couple). Your trial evidence indicates you used a sword on an old man (30 stabs wounds?) and that you beat up a woman. In comparison, for all of my exploits, I never had to touch anyone, they always gave up the cash and out the door I went. The banks were federally insured and so no one lost personally. Even with other businesses, it was always the same – the bottom line was that you never had to hurt anyone. So again I ask, did the martial arts training fuel the compulsion to try out your training on someone? P.S. - Oh, by the way, I did 11 years in FCI Milan, Michigan. Crime does not pay, even with all the cash I stole, it still did not add up to what I could have made working a legitimate job for the same 10 years ($45,000 avg. x 10 years = $450,000). I’m now a computer programmer and I have a made a life for myself independent of crime. I also gave up the martial arts as I came to realize that it fed my aggressive personality. As a final note, it’s a small world. When I was a kid, we would go to Fayette, AL (right down the road from Winfield) every year to visit my grandparents. Golden-Eagle Table Syrup is sitting on my kitchen table right now.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

First of all just because you read my profile on “my space” ,here, and a few new newspaper articles about my so-called case don't presume to think that you know me. I am a very complex individual. If you served 11 years in an SCI prison in Milan Michigan, and if you read newspapers regularly,then you would know that most news papers are full of SHIT, especially when it comes to high profile crimes. What are newspaper and magazine's primary goal? To sell newspapers and magazines. How do they do that ? By blowing things out of proportion and making things seem more dramatic than they really are. You can't believe everything you read, especially from newspapers and magazines. Have you read all of the newspapers about your case? I'm sure there are a lot of discrepancies. Don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to devalue the victims of the crime I was charged and convicted of. I'm just stating a fact about newspapers and magazines. Back to your question; because the way you phrase it. I am not at liberty to give you the answer you're looking for. Since your question is incriminating, and due to ongoing appeals, my attorney won't allow me to answer. Never in my life have I felt it necessary to kill someone. I have never had that intention. In all of your exploits, you claim that you never had to touch anyone that they always gave up the cash. But what if a 6'2" 240 pound man had a Vietnam flashback and charged you during an exploit, just that one time. When you've shot him? You claim that the banks were federally insured and so it was a victimless crime. Are you shitting me? The taxpayers pay for it personally, because the government keeps jacking up taxes. Why do they jack up taxes? Because of crime, war, bail outs for high and corporations, to line their own pockets. Like Bush did with fuel, etc.. We little people always pay for it personally. For example: when shoplifters steal the company loses on x amount of money. Since they already paid for the goods they have to make up for it. How do they make up for it? By jacking up prices on goods in the store, so the next guy has to pay for it personally; but when companies can’t get their money back, it doesn't work out that way, either the company pays for a cut of their own pocket, or they get a government bailout to go into bankruptcy is a vicious cycle. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction, no matter how subtle it may be. Just because you didn't hurt someone physically doesn't mean you didn't hurt someone. There's the fear factor, loss of mental capacity. The loss of a job due to being scared to be held up again. The loss of their paycheck, etc. to me loss of money hurts. As for martial arts as a way of life; it's not all about hand-to-hand combat. I will never be able to give up martial arts. How unfortunate that you gave it up. When you truly love something, you can't give it up. Did the martial arts training fuel the compulsion to try out your training on someone? Even though I was a crazy, fun and cocky, no. In the free world, NO, not on regular people, just the guys at the dojo I trained with because we had mutual respect for the art that's where tranning and indiscipline came in. Since I've been in prison I’ve been in more fights than all the ones I had in the free world. As I write this I'm serving 30 days in the doghouse for jumping on a stupid ass African that talked to get much and wouldn’t let things go from the basketball court. Since I've been in prison and since I'm under siege by idiots, my martial arts training has fueled my compulsion to try out my training. The Wolverine has more battle scars, here it is about respect. You can't walk away in here, no matter how hard you try not unless you're a snitch or coward and the Wolverine is neither! Since you feel like martial arts that your aggressive personality. Have you considered( MMF) mixed martial arts fighting in a cage or (UFC) ultimate fighting championship? Those Fights are safer than boxing in they’re matched with someone of your same class. Those fights are awesome! I wish I could compete in them. One day, maybe I'll face you in the cage. Congratulations on becoming a computer program in becoming a productive citizen in the end, you're right, crime does not pay. As for Fayette, I don't know a great deal about it. I was born in Winfield, but I grew up from the south, mostly in Amarillo Texas and Wolf Creek, Alabama, down the road a ways from Fayette and Winfield. Most of my prized family live in Fayette or around there. But I didn't grow up much around there in time to time, we would go and visit with my price grandparents. I’ll bet that my (mama) grandma price knows your grandparents. We write each other every week. I'll ask her in a roundabout way, since I don't know your grandparents names.

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Is prison really bad and if so tell me what goes on in your daily life thank you

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Is really bad and they're so tell me what goes on in your daily life. Yes, Theodore prison is bad. In fact America as the dumping ground of the mentally retarded. I am constantly under siege by idiots and ass holes who never got any home training about common courtesy, manners, respect for their neighbors or personal space. As odd as this may sound, if you're going to do time in prison being on death row is best placed to do time because you're in a one-man cell. You don’t have complete privacy, but you don’t have to worry about being around 100 or more men in an open dorm, where everyone is free to walk around and stab you in your sleep.

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By: Timothy Baker

What do I do in prison? I will wake up the mail go. If I get mail, I responded my letters, but everything really depends on that already all write poetry. All exercise, and also warrior with the other inmates. I have no really set schedule. I get up when I want sleep, but I want, but I like being a good night quiet. Or as quiet as prison gets. I can think, write, or whatever without much stuff bothering me. Juvenile hall isn't different, they don't really do anything different than we do, just on a smaller scale, and only kids are pretty much helpless..alot of shit goes on. They just shut down a couple of juvenile centers because the guards were sexually abusing kids in Texas. The same for female prisons. Texas is always dealing with pregnant female inmates.

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Do you think you will ever find that one true love? I have a brother who was also in prison for 7 years, he is now happily married to a girl that was his girlfriend before he even got incarcerated. And to all the people that might think a man or women incarcerated does not deserve to be loved, well they do, they are just like you. They have a heart and it might even be more grand then yours. Keep in mind that everyone always deserves a second chance.

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By: Andre Lewis

Rocio, I want to thank you for taking the time to write to our site. And I want to thank you for the positive comments he made about the intelligent minds that are incarcerated. A lot of us are now using that intelligence to become more productive and positive in life. I know that I am. It also remains true that those incarcerated can find true love and happiness and someone outside these walls. I have seen it many times. As myself, I'm still in search of my true love! Those who claim to have loved me and said they would stand by me have only disappointed me and turn their backs on me. But I haven't let those disappointments discourage me. It is only made me a stronger person and on the inside. And I know true love is out there waiting on me. And when we do find each other I have an abundance of love to give! But I know I will find my true love, one day! Being that you are fascinated by the criminal mind. I encourage you to do as much extensive research on the criminal mind as you can and you would like firsthand experience with the criminal mind get my address and phone contact me. We can touch basis on the criminal mind, many blessings to you, your brother and his wife. Dre’

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Rocio, I just want to say thank you for your input and positive attitude towards inmates. You're a criminal justice major? That sounds fascinating. Who Better to learn from than actual criminals? We are not all bad, and deserve a second chance. By doing this I'm hopefully doing some good. Hopefully helping someone not going down the incorrect path. You've experienced the “going away” of a loved one for seven years, first-hand. So you can relate and are able to see that people do change for the better , learning by their bad experiences. It does help very much to have a support network. As for finding that one true love yes, I believe there is someone out there for me. I mean, real love, not just appreciation because there for me. I’ll continue to look. And I have been. Who knows she is probably right in front of me, but I just don't realize it yet. I educated myself in legal criminal law, and especially math. I was able to pick it up better now. And I have a high school diploma, so I wasn't a complete Burro. Smile. Now, just trying to help my 15 year old sister get the college as I tell her there's nothing wrong with wanting something better. At the same time, though, don't lose sight of who you are or where you came from, or look down on people, because you feel you're better than them. I'd like for my sister to send me a letter one day saying she's a criminal justice major, lawyer ,Dr., Judge or who knows even warden of a prison. Smile. that would be something, my family means a lot to me. I always worry about my sisters though. The guys can fend for themselves. I want to wish you luck and much promise in your life endeavors. Hope to hear from you again. Yes I do have a big heart, and always try to stay humble, as everyone I have my faults. I think one of them is to fall in love with all the women I see. I'm just kidding. I hope I was able to bring a little chuckle to your day.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

I believe I will find that true love, cos I have a lot love to give despite being incarcerated last. I refused to lose my faith.

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Do you Belive In God

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By: Andre Lewis

In response to Jimmy, yes I have a higher power. Some people may call this higher power” God””Allah” is or “Jah” or whatever works for the individual. I just referred to this divine being as “higher power”. I don't conform myself to no certain sect, religion, or denomination. I just know that there is a divine power greater than myself. I know this higher powered dwells within me, which makes us divine beings of this life and our destiny is purity is. Divinity within itself is the movement of our consciousness to a state of higher divine self. We must truly know ourselves to move our spirit, which is to awaken the divinity within ourselves. But through ignorance at the birth process we forget our divine selves, which is pure and innocent. Therefore we must go forward into innocence, a state of not knowing the illusion and not knowing ignorance so that illumination of mind and spirit can be manifest. Dre’

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

The answer to your question would be a yes, I do believe in a higher being, though not a specific religion. So I'm not a Christian. I do not knock people, though, regardless of whether Christian, Catholic, Buddhist, Muslim, or etc. etc. Who is to say who's wrong and who's right? Throughout the centuries people have used religion to justify genocide, hatred, war, subjugation and other abuses on race or people as they didn't believe in their god. If being a Christian, and believing in God helps you by giving you peace of mind, joy, happiness and then that's all that should matter. This question is a loaded one. I can go into a very deep discussion on it. Probably write a book. This is a very touchy subject. I like to joke around and say I'm an atheist, but as I said I do believe in a higher power who will judge me when the time comes. I have my rituals that give me peace of mind as I said before, I don't knock or make judgments about other people's religion. Though I do have my own personal views, and based on my own experiences and knowledge acquired over the years with the same thought in mind. I do try to do the right thing as everyone. I do have my own faults and shortcomings, always trying to improve on my way of thinking. I have come a long way. I say more power to you for your beliefs and love God. And yet not judge other people's beliefs.

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By: Gregory Gant

Jimmy Let’s just say, I believe in a higher being, rather that be a mental, physical, or spiritual, It’s something or someone bigger than me.

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By: Jon Hurley

Yep sure do!!

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Jimmy, yes, I believe in God.

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By: Timothy Baker

Jimmy my boy that's a good question to good question indeed!!! And I’d have to say that lost my faith in God long ago!! There is much pain and suffering in this world, and all these preachers say it's part of God's plan. Well, I just feel if it were talking about God. He could have come up with a better plan. Don't you think?

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Hi my name is angel in i have a 3yr old son in i need some adivice on how to keep my so out the pin. What should i do with my son he dont listen to nothing i say. He is so hard headed. I am tring to get the doctor to give him some thing to calm him down but the day he is suppose to go i end up forgetten about at

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By: Andre Lewis

To Angel, My opinion is the worst mistake you can ever make is to put your son on medication. Some children are a little more active than others in over a course of times, particularly a child, will grow out of all that activities, and being his brain hasn't fully developed medication only heard him emotionally and mentally medication only suppresses or hides the problem altering a child's physiological pattern. They will become more dependent on the medication than on reality. Reality to them only be an illusion that the medication provides for the child. And once you take them off the medication, thinking the problem is solved. The medication has only created another psychological problems within the child. You have to deal with, so my advice to you, would be unwise to put your son on medication and reassembled plenty of love and attention guide them in the right direction. You and God are the sole leaders of his life. Dre

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear angel. Advice on how to keep your three year old son out of prison. One, move to a better smaller community. Two, lead by example, do the right thing and keep explaining to him why you do the right things. At least 20% of kids are hardheaded, and they won't learn something If you only tell them once. I was somewhat of a rouge child. So keep reminding your son, especially if he acts up or isn't learning what you try and teach him. Monitor your son as much as possible. Watch them in secret if need be, a smaller community, where most people know your business, can help look out for your son. If you're in a big city, nobody is making you live there. Don't be overprotective, but do not be to lax either. Communicate as much as possible, be impartial, but firm, etc. There must be balanced and everything.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

To Angel. You know what's funny. I just had a neighbor named Angel, who is just paroled. some coincidence that would be. Parole is not difficult. You just need to discipline yourself. I know jobs are not easy to come by, but getting a job or something that'll keep your time occupied as a first step. I think when people have too much time on their hands, it leads the mischief. Also the type of people you hang around with. I’m not saying to forget about your friends. But just those who just look for any type of mischief, of course staying away from drugs also helps. I don't know if you use or not, Don't get discouraged when things don't seem to go right. It's a learning process. You have to think of your three year old boy anytime you might make a decision that will affect them. If you're on parole or probation is the first step is to get off since that's like a shackle. Your priority is your son. Right now, everything else should be irrelevant. Sometimes it may seem hard to change. But it's just in your mind, the hardest part is wanting to change and taking that first step , the rest is easy because you already made the hardest decision, which was to change. Anyone who claims to be your friend and wants you to make a bad decision is not your friend. If you have to be a sucker to feel included in your hanging around with the wrong crowd. Believe me, once you get locked up they won't be no where in sight. Or buy the stuff your baby needs . So don't let guilt prevent you from changing it’s the right step. I wish you good luck in your son.

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By: Gregory Gant

Angel, first of all Angel I would like to say hi, It has been a long time. You have a three-year-old son to go listen to any known. Well, first all the doctors and a medication is not the way to go. You're going to have to talk to him and find out what is bothering him. Show him that you love him, but when he is wrong, he will have to be punished. And when you punish him. He can't go back on alert. You have to show him that you are the ones that make the rules. But messing with them doctors and 80 experiments will have your son in prison or a mental hospital for sure. Spend more time with him talk and see if you can't find his problems. Halla back at me, love ya. Breeze

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By: Timothy Baker

What you do is, you love him and show him what is right and wrong. Not only with words, but by being a good example. Especially now, while he's shown when he so if you know what it's like in dry sponge and gave him the best chance he can have the active in your son's life. If you and his father are still together. His father should play a big role in his life. Get him involved in sports and other school activities. Football baseball fan, anything. Just sell its constructive and get him skills he'll need. Read to him now. When he's old and can read on his own reward him for what he's read kindle a love of books in his heart. Essays against school help him with homework, making learning fun of that as he grows older you like school and want to learn limit his TV time computer time etc. do a lot of outdoor activities camping, biking etc. love him all these. Even when he messes up. Praise him when he succeeds ,and teach him that it's okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. Keep him from the ga gangs and street kids. If you live in a bad neighborhood try and find someplace else to live. Give him 100% of yourself and you should be okay. By 14 or 15 years old building walking the road he wants, whether good or bad. Mary Martin to start young, because they are learning so much seminary in most parents don't realize it was too late. Love is the key.

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William Shakespeare said, "Some words may hide others," so I've read over your poems many times. If you'd share more, your poetry would be provocative. My question: If a convicted murderer claims to have had some type of a miraculous redemption, should that inmate be believed if he keeps wicked company, still?

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

No answer yet. I'll resend to Rockwell

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Yes you're right words behind others having a redemption doesn't mean one has to forgo past acquaintances. So, I don't see why an inmate not be believed if he keeps with the company. It would be like having religious relatives. They don't stop going to family outings, because there is a soldier's family. They just don't indulge in such stuff, one needs to be judged by their actions, not by what others do. It don't matter if he's a murderer or just a drug addict and everyone is a potential murderer They just haven't been placed in such a situation. Don't be so quick to judge. People change their lives all the time. So it's something feasible. Of course if they're sincere and not using it as an excuse to avoid other issues. Everyone assumes every inmate has a certain angle. They after all, the con in convict is not there for nothing. So don't let the look of the book, fool ya. Take time to read the first page is before you make your on whether the story is sincere

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Dear William Shakespeare said, so are you saying my poems are annoying, irrigating, exasperating, infuriating, maddening, vexing, galling , hell I can go on and on. But I think I made my point. First and most important, I do not keep wicked company matter of fact, I have very little contact with anyone at all. And if you find my poems or anything else that I write don't read my SHIT. To find the most beautiful thing in a persons life you have to look deep within them. A pure heart is where true beauty is hidden. A pure heart is where kindness flows out naturally. A pure heart is where love lies just waiting to be awake. A Pure hearts is where the most intimate emotions are sincere and honest. A pure heart is where the meaning of living, a good life with God lives, because without a loving caring heart, a soul is empty and meaningless . A pure heart is where any perception of physical appearance is meaningless, because the heart can sense good and evil without any physical appearances. A pure heart is like a blind person who has no physical perception of anybody's appearance to how she feels about others. I have that pure heart. Do you?. ……………………Let me share one of my more provocative poems read and read careful.----------------------------------- I was shocked confused, bewildered, as I entered Heaven's door. Not by the beauty of it all, nor by the lights or décor, but it was the folks in heaven, who made me shudder and gasp, the thieves, the murders, the sinners the alcoholics, the trash. The the kid in third grade, who swiped my lunch money twice, next to her was an old neighbor, who never said anything nice. My uncle who I always thought was rotten a way in hell, was sitting pretty on cloud nine, looking incredibly swell. I nudged Jesus” what's the deal? I would love to hear your take, and why is everyone so quiet, sober. Give me a clue” “I was child, he said they're all in shock. No one thought they'd be seeing you!.................................. Judge not!

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Hello Mr. Rockwell, I'm a clean-cut white kid from a good family who now lives in a somewhat tough neighrborhood close to my school that I'm attending. I've engaged in a few scuffles because I'm a clean-cut typical-looking white person and don't look threatening. Can I still be "me," while discouriging future attacks? My father once told me: Never judge a book by it's cover. But it's been my experience that many people do. Is there some way through body language or some type of metaphysical action I can do that will convey to any potential preadator that I'm not some easy mark while still being well-groomed, polite and curteous to my fellow communtiy members? Thanks in advace for any words of wisdom you may have and I hope all is well with you and you are still writing, being creative and doing great! Thanks, Pj

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Dear PJ. Nietzsche, once said, “society is merely a field in which the strong have a chance to demonstrate their strengths and win”. PJ your strength is your wisdom, respect, and courtesy to your fellow man or woman. Those who attack or make a mockery of you only do so because of a lack of understanding and a touch of fear. All you can do is be PJ and exercise restraint cos anything else may lead you into trouble. Most guys only want to bring out the negative, but remember in man there is power, however is the individual who determines that power and what it's used for. PJ, try reading Johann Gottlieb Fichte (smile)

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By: Andre Lewis

PJ, I must say that yor father was right when he made that statement”Don’t judge a book by its cover” You are right. People do judge a book by it’s cover. I know a lot of guys, white and black, who have been in the same situation you have. They are the coolest ,nicest ,most humblest people you’ll want to meet. But if you disrespect them and these days out or put your hands on them. They'll will your ass people endure this type of disrespect as people are ignorant and who you really are because you don't care yourself in a way they approve of, a CU is an easy target for verbal and physical abuse. Some people do change their body language, or do some sort of metaphysical action to keep from being an easy mark. But if you wasn’t groomed from the beginning to have an aggressive manner, I don't recommend you change your existing manner, then you would be conforming to what those ignorant individuals want to be, Not being yourself. I’ll give you two things you can try. The first one is what I would've done. I would go to every person that I feel has a problem with me or has a problem with me. My approach would have been a little aggressive manner, but I also would be cool about it. And I would ask them what type of problem, do they have with me. Why don't they like me, and depending on what they say that's how I would handle the situation. And I would let them know, you can be men and talk about it or we can act like a fool and fight. If they act stupid and don't talk start woopin’ they ass. If they act civil see if you can talk it out. Ive learned from experience that most people will show more respect if you step to them first and try not to do it if they are with others around. Try to pull them along to the side. People tend to act big around the crowd. Secondly, ignore the ignorance of others. Words, can't hurt you, if someone says something out the way continue to hold your head high and smile. Keep on, if you're in a position where you got to say something be polite about what you say, but if anyone in danger space comes at you in a threatening manner tries or what they hands on you. Don't talk start ‘woopin is they ass. Some people just want to see how far they can push you or see if you got any heart or not. And once People's see you aint scared to fight, eventually they'll leave you alone. Trust me, I know. But don't let the rest of others discourage you from doing the positive thing you are doing. Continue to be yourself, polite, courteous and well groomed, and I hope that everything works out for best. Dre’

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear PJ While discouraging future attacks, can you still be you? The answer is, yes. But you have to move, if you don't like the neighborhood, move. I am under the impression that you still live at home with your parents. If that is the case, you'll need to grow up, partner, at 27 years old. You are way too old to be living with mom and pop If you feel like you can't move away and you have two choices. “When in Rome do as the Romans do”. Meaning, if most young people dressed like thugs in your neighborhood and you should dress as much like that as possible. And for your second choice, learn to defend yourself. Find a local dojo or YMCA and explain to sensei or manager your need for self-defense and the bad things that happen to you,. They can provide you with many helpful quick tips. Don't draw attention to yourself, showy dress, or running away, and get your car keys out way before you get your car, have your keys sticking out of your fist around your middle finger. Aim for the eyes or throat. Walk wide around corners etc.. If that doesn't work, get a permit to carry a side arm and get practical training. If an attacker can surprise you a gun is useless. A trained assassin can kill you, cut off your head before you can even think about drawing a side arm. With a gun get proper training. True, never judge a book by its cover, but we all do it anyway visits instinctive survival trait man versus man sized sizing each other up, that trait goes way back to the primitive man. Most of the time, trust your gut. You get a bad feeling about someone write off its best to steer clear. First impressions are a huge factor, if a potential predator approaches you and your gut tells you something is wrong use of palm heel strike to the nose or kick to the growing and run like hell. It's a dangerous world out there partner, so it better safe than sorry. Hit first, run, and ask questions later

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Clean Cut white kid hua?(smile) Yea the first thing, you must not show fear. Yet not act like your shit don't stink. Sometimes people since that your in fear or are disgusted by their way of being. Take Paris Hilton for example. Anyone else would have never done time for what she did. But because she publicly thumbed her nose at everyone as if she couldn't be touched or was too good to attend court. She never even showed any emotion, like it was a joke to her, thinking her family's money would get her out. She didn't count on the public outrage of her attitude and had she showed emotion and being humbled. The backlash he created would've never ensued. The judge was put in a corner. He could no longer look the other way. So he had to act upset and had her returned to custody. It’s true you must never judge a book by its cover, so you have the right idea. You continue to be you, the scuffles as long as you don't try to avoid them will only earn your respect and in time they'll ignore you. Do you know a lot of the time they're hiding their own fear by doing this. When they seel you don't back down they'll feel scared. I've taken bumps and bruises, but I've always gotten back up earning their respect. The most respectful person can be a coldhearted individual. Don't ever change who you are, as that’d be giving up your identity. Once you do that, you might as well spend over. I’m not saying her go postal on anyone. That's never a good thing, but don't be afraid to get a black eye in the end it will pay off. And when you don't back down or take a different route when you're always walked down the same one. Yes you do need to be careful with those predators. They don't do no good for no one. It doesn't matter what color you are, everyone needs to be judged by their own actions. Many people do judge a book by its cover, that doesn't mean you have to. I have also read Nietzsche. Fascinating stuff, you need to speak to people on their level. You know what I recommend is the art of seduction and the 48 laws of power. I think you'll find them very interesting submerges you into some forms of human behavior. Used that as a guide not as a law, like everything. It has its drawbacks, I wish you luck in your endeavors. PJ keep your head up and stay strong.

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PJ- man your question is a hard one to answer. I hate that you're being attacked just because you're a clean-cut guy! I'm sure you've heard the old saying, “misery loves company”, that seems the case here. My advice to you is Don’t let someone else change you. Yes, many people do judge a book by its cover, and there is always so much beyond the cover. We live in a very shallow society and its so sad. Some day, you'll be able little back dreaming for a better yesterday. This applies to the opposite of good old days in applies to things that did not quite go right in the past or better yet, to things that went terribly wrong. I hear it here all the time. I hear it from a young and old. I hear it from a new prisoner or from old cons alike. They sit in their cells discussing, remembering, wishing. Trying prayer, magic spells, anything and everything - I also know for a fact phenomenon permeates the minds of people in the free world “ Had I done this or that I would not be in prison” Had I done the other instead Of this I ‘d be a millionaire running a fortune 500 company” “Had I sais something I would be with the person of my dreams now and living life happily ever after” ETC Etc Etc Yes everyone knows what I’m talking about because we’ve all done it at one time or another, and are probably still doing it. Dreaming of a better yesterday. I was having one of those day dreams today. A private topic not for public consumption, when it hit me. I found the answer how to all the past, and tomorrow I wishing a better yesterday. It is quite simple really today is tomorrows yesterday. So from now on before I make any decision and take any action, I will first think about how I will be thinking of a particular choice I make today in days to come. Yes, no decision is perfect, I’m willing to bet that decisions we made in the past that we regret today, we made the wrong choice, as today is tomorrow's yesterday , let's think things through before we act. So we can at least minimize dreaming of a yesterday in the future, if not eliminate it altogether. And I hope I've given you not only something to think about, and also something to help you . Good luck

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By: Timothy Baker

My advice to you is to move out of the neighborhood. It doesn't matter how you carry yourself you'll still have trouble. Hell, if you walk down the street with a 357 you’ll still have trouble. I was a white kid in a tough neighborhood. It is not how you carry yourself it’s your skin color. Very few white kids are accepted in neighborhoods like that. You’re new and different, and you're” a clean-cut white kid.” So you're going to have trouble.

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Why did you kill sumeone? How long ru going to be in there 4?

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Yes, I killed someone, because I was placed in the crazy position to kill or be killed due to my involvement in the underworld I go back up for parole in 2011, and as long as I remain positive and productive, I will be a free man in 2012. Smile.

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Wats up unc? Dis ur nephew bookie here. Dnt ask any questions to ask . Otha than how else can we talk. Do u have a email? If so put it on dis page, as a comment to my question and ill hit u up. Ight man, be easy and I luv u man.

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By: Gregory Gant

Dashon Gant, what's up nephew? I'm good and glad to know that you're doing well to. I heard about you been playing football, and it y'all are the conference champs or the third year in a row. I want you to know that I'm proud of you keep doing what you are doing and stay out of trouble. It will pay off in the long run. I love you! keep your head up!

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Do you think more blacks are in prison because the system is racist or because blacks commit more crimes?

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By: Andre Lewis

When it comes to the incarceration rate of blacks in prison, I would have to say that it deals with both crime issues and races issues. When it comes to the races issue it mainly deals with the state you're in, and how bad the crime rate is in that state. Take in a state I'm in, North Carolina, North Carolina was once a slave state when slavery was round. There are a lot of racist people in North Carolina and the court system. So a lot of blacks don’t get fairness in N.C.. With crime it’s not that blacks commit more crimes. It’s that blacks commit Worser crimes, But with the younger generation coming up. Blacks are committing more, especially with more younger blacks going gangs, and by this, blacks are receiving harsher sentence, and a lot problems from low enforcement. Blacks have made it hard on themselves by continuing to fall victim to the streets and negative forces. So in order to change the condition of the higher incarceration of blacks. We must first change the condition of ourselves as a people

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By: Gregory Gant

Jerry , We all know the system is racist but I can't say that's why there are more blacks in prison or that blacks commit more crimes. I can say that there are more drugs in the black community's than anywhere else. So of course that would make blacks a target rather they sell or do drugs or not. But no, blacks don't commit more crimes than any other race

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By: Jon Hurley

There are more Americans in prison than the rest of the world. Is that because more Americans commit crimes? When a group of people grow up in broken homes, lower education levels, poverty and a culture that looks up to gansta's they tend to commit more crimes. It isn't about the color of their skin but the culture they are raised in.

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MY QUESTION IS DO U MIND GETTING LETTER FROM A GUY YES - NO? WELL I AM A BLACK MALE WHO LOVE TO WRITE TO PEOPLE AND MAKE FRIEND ALL OVER THE WORLD AND I DO NOT JUDGE A PERSON CAUSE OF WHAT HE DONE OR CAUSE HE IS LOCK UP

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By: Andre Lewis

Sure why not. Although I am not gay.

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HI Gregory Gant this my 2nd time write in in i want to now why do that give pople i long time.And why when some one in there family die thay want let them come give there last respects to them.But any way i want u to know that this is aj.I also want to now what i need to do to keep my to boy out of that please.I want to teach them why thay are young to when thay grow up thay would now right from wrong.But anyway love you Uncle.

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By: Gregory Gant

I can't really say what's on the people mind with this tough on crime shit and it's causing them more problem trying to lock every one up and building more prisons than if they would try to help people with habits. You couldn't of and pay your respect to your family is just depend on your custody level at the time when my sister passed they wouldn't let me because I was on lockdown. I love you keep your head up and stay strong

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Why

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By: Timothy Baker

Why Not?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

why what?.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Dear anonymous, why? That was short and to the point. Why? You and me were things over me a choice of bad Judgment and be in the wrong place at the wrong time. I guess you can say being an idiot also comes into play. Though I don’t want to make excuses. The vast, probably would have been something else, or by pushing up daisies by now. He wasn't so much the intent or the why , but the who is(innocent bystanders) and even though I didn’t pull the trigger the law found me guilty.

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By: Jon Hurley

Because someone has to.

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Why? You have to give me more than why?

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If you were let into the outside world again how would your life be any different?

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Jasmine, if I was released today my life would be very different, Jasmine my life would be different because the way I think has changed my priorities has changed, but most of all my idea and needs have changed. At 18, I didn't care about life hell, I didn't care about Rockwell. Now at 34, I care about living as well as Rockwell and how he can help others live. Yes indeed Jasmine, my life would be very

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear Jasmine and I was led into the outside world again. How would my life be any different? Number one, I would focus on my family -- mom, Paul, and is, uncles, mama drama prize because of their health deteriorating, I really want to help them. In other ways than just making cards for them, write them letters, etc., where I used to take them for granted, I would also just spend a lot of time with them. Number two, I would focus on the family of my own wife and children. Number three, I would do a lot of the adventures things that I did not get to do scuba, underwater spear fishing, in Cave diving, surfing the waves off Japan, snowboarding, backpacking across Japan, Base jumping off of Mount McKinley or The Sears Tower, fight in U.F.C. match, etc. Number four, write and draw my own graphic novel and have it published. That would be my career, mostly because you can write -- draw just about any where. Especially traveling. I also want to get my own personal cartoon cards,( humor illustrator greeting cards) published. There’s a lot of positive things I want to do with my life. Life is way too short to waste.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Now as to how life would be different now. Now that's a loaded question, as one can talk a good one lwhile in prison, yet all hold different outlooks once released. I think the chage has to occur within these walls. I've had plenty of time to contemplate, what and why got me into that prison to begin with. I've made personal changes myself, that would make me a better person without using a copout as an excuse, I've owned up to my circumstances and want to do something better. I want to be able to wake up with a female by my side every morning with the sense and ordor of her body on my domain and want to help out my mother and my two sisters. Brothers can fend for themselves smile, the law of the jungle. I've educated myself in here, I refrain from bad addictions, so that won't be a problem for me. I think the hardest thing for me would be readjusting to society. The wisdom, knowledge and discipline. I've acquired in here would allow me to succeed.

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By: Gregory Gant

If you let in the outside world again, how would your life be any different? First off, I would stop start off by trying to be a positive force in my family and kids live. I would also like to talk to troubled kids. Maybe go to different schools and talk about the things I've been through. Maybe being a big brother that have been imprisoned and lived the street life will show them life is bigger than the streets and selling and using drugs.

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Jasmine, if I were led in the outside world again, how would my life be different? When I first came to prison. I was Rod, I hated the world and pretty much everything in it. All that changed the day I turn to Jesus. I cried out to him and confessed my sense a pledge for forgiveness and received assurance from the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is my comfort and he gives me peace. I have slipped upon occasion, after all worldly human. Yet, I beg for forgiveness, and there was. I have My faith alive. I've been blessed with a wonderful family and wonderful friends, and now I love instead of hate and try to take each day with a smile. Why? Because I know that no matter when I die, whether it be tomorrow or 50 years from now, I have kept my faith alive. When you're young, you think, you will live forever. The world is your playground. There's nothing you can't do. When you learn the truth, you realize that life is but a passing phase. There is only one choice, open your heart. With Jesus by my side I can do in face anything. I can push aside any fear. I can out love any hatred. I can overcome any trial, and any temptation. And as I do, now I can look into the face of death and now it has no power over me. All because I have kept my faith alive.

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By: Timothy Baker

I don’t know…I would try to do the best I could to stay out of trouble…and hopefully I’ll be able to get back with my family and be happy…I don’t think about the future much it’s pretty scary from where I stand. Tim is looking at 60 years to go.

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Is prison really like in movies, where if you are young and good looking you have to either fight or find you a daddy to take care of you? Some of the people I have written to have told me about these new electronic beams that zap you and cause you pain , sounds weird, but have you ever seen that where you are ? thanks.

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By: Timothy Baker

Dear Maria, Yes prison is like that but it’s not just young good-looking guys…It’s anyone whose weak or scared to fight…sexual assult is probably the most dangerous thing in here…there is a lot of AIDS around, Hepititas C etc etc…and the administration doesn’t really help people who get assaulted…Because all the administration does is either move them to a different unit “where everyone will find out what happened in about two months” and then it will happen again… or they will put them in safe keeping where they have some serious sexual predators and aids everywhere… or they lock them away in protective custody “Ad Seg” 23 hours a day lock up…so if someone gets assulted sexually he is in a no win situation however you look at it… I don’t know anything about Lazers or electronic beams…they tried stun shields and stuff but guards died using it so they stopped…now they use a paint-ball gun that shoots tear-gas pellets!

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By: Andre Lewis

Media and society always view prison as a negative place were inhuman acts take place. Every prison is different. There was a time when a lot of rapes and assaults took place. Just because you were young and good looking, didn't mean you have to fight to find ta daddy to take care of you. You could of been young or old, good-looking or ugly, and still get tried. Back then it was about, if you can hold your own guys would try you to see if you were weak or strong as only the strong survive me had to fight just to see where you fit and after guys saw that he can hold your own. You are left alone, you'd did have a lot of sexual predators and would try you. You may or may not had to fight for your manhood. But once you showed he wasn't given up your manhood you are left alone. How you carried yourself is how you are treated. If you are weak, eventually you'd end up with a daddy to protect and take care of you. If you were strong your time was easy, but like I said it all depended on the prison he was at and how you carry self. Now, whoever told you about these new electronic beems that cause you pain. I think they've been reading and watching too many sci-fi movies . I have been in and out of prison for a long time and I've never heard anything like that. And I'm pretty sure whoever told you about these hasnnever heard of it either. The only thing I know of is that prisons used to control out of control situations is a shield that stuns you, but it's a full length shield the cops use for riots. But this shield has a little electronic prong type things on the outer part of the shield. So when someone gets hit with the shield it shocked you into submission. Basically it's an oversized protective stun gun. I also know of some prisons in other cities that you stun guns or stun gun sticks of electronic beams know. Tell whoever told you that, to lay off the hard drugs. Dre’

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

The answer to your first inquiry, No! Prison is not how is portrayed in movies, most of it is outdated or myths that are being exploited to have a more marketable movie is vary from state to state myself speak for California, a different types of prisons whose house different types of people in general population. So you wouldn't see child molesters, rapists or homosexuals here in protective custody. So when you see the movie is how they're all mixed to fabrication. And that's regardless of what he and less of course there are sensitive. They just don't take people's booty smile, regardless of how you know, that don't mean guys don't do. But that's basically how far it goes. You still have to stay in your own 2 feet, or you'll just be used for a person's word is law that respect will long way. As far as those electric Beach referred to a Horatio Alger that are out there in a balloon fetish. Right now that he's teaching as she points in these at you or one with rabbit ears that they touch you said you along with some strong chemical sprays. No one say whoever told you, that is lined with beans are experimental still. So they could be using them as Ginny's I've seen a story on in Iraq. I can say one thing, though, that is the future that yes it does sound weird, thank you for stopping by and taking the time to have Your questions asked.

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By: Gregory Gant

Is prison really like movies? In some cases, yes it can be. Guys get turned out every day, some want to be turned out, some don't. Other have no choice. About the electronic beams, I have not seen or heard anything about that. Not to say that it isn’t true, but they do have Taser guns. If that's what you're asking about.

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Dear Maria , you asked is prison was really like in the movies where the young and the good-looking have either fight or find a “daddy “to take care that well. I'm not in a male prison where they have to find a daddy. But of course, there are women here that could pass for someone's “daddy.” They look more like men than some men. I haven't seen any female prison movies. What I do know most females do the “gay for the stay”, playing while in prison, which means they are only gay while they're locked up. Let me tell you about prison love . “Prison love “ is a true oxymoron, and it always ends up the same way do I even need to tell you how it ends. If you're in prison or have been in prison, and I don't need to tell you how it usually ends because you've been here. You've “done that” more than likely. At the same time, not everyone has a willing part and don't ,shall I say, “ participate”, but for the ones who do participate, Prison love usually starts out great. Or as great as anything in prison can't be. But nonetheless it's never real, no matter how you tell yourself that it is. You'll soon find your looking for something, where there is nothing. You know how the old song goes looking for love in all the wrong places. Will that should be the theme song for most prisons. And most female prisons should be “Hoes R us”. Prison is a lonely place, and while you are here you'll do almost anything to fill that loneliness, even use people to help yourself get by. It doesn't matter because you have the mentality that once you're released you'll never see those females again. So why should you worry about who you hurt or who you don't. When you find someone you want to hook up with, or as it's called here ,”bull dag” with, in prison. You assume the character of whomever it is you need to be and play a role to get that “special someone”. They may even fall for your “ prison Oscar-winning performance”. You'll start to write letters back and forth, spend as much time as you can with one another, celebrates so-called anniversaries, sneaking in those prison “intimate moments “ here and there all the while trying to keep your “Bulldagging” somewhat on the down low, because you don't want to get a ticket “a write up” and end up in lockdown for sharing those so called “intimate moments” which falls under disciplinary action code b-08 “sexual activity violation against persons” eventually the tides will turn and things will start to change and not for the better remember. There is no real relationships in prison. The letters will get few and far between the lies start and then there will be more lies to cover up those lies. You will find you don't spend as much time together anymore, because now she's walking with someone else telling you “we’re just friends”. That's a very popular line in prison. You'll start hearing rumors that she's spending those “intimate moments” she was spending with you, with someone else. You'll catch those little fabricated untruths that you'll start to question. The whole time she's telling you” I love you”, and “I'll never hurt you”. You eventually start to not only question her, but you'll start to question your own sanity even though you know you're not the one who's crazy. Lies soon replace the” I love yous” and deception steps into plays a huge role in your Jerry Springer drama. It won't take long to find out she's using the same lines on someone else that she's used on you. Some females are so conniving they steal their friends girlfriends as soon as she's gone, if she even waits that long. You have to keep reminding yourself that this is all a game and would make one hell of a reality show. Show called who's doing who now but then again maybe not, because who would want to watch some of those females eat more ass than a kid eats corn flakes? wants some milk with that? You have to also remind yourself who you are dealing with,” women in prison”. And none of us are here for sitting on the front pew in church with our legs crossed like a nun. Most of us have played these games or other games and lied throughout life just to survive. If you didn't know how to play games and you live before you came to prison, you'll surely know how to lie before you leave. The only thing that's real is what us in prison left at home. What we left outside of these prison walls, Our kids, our family and friends. That is what is real. That's what we try to hold on to. Not these fake women and their fake love and fake games. We can never take prison love serious because if we do we become just another heartbroken casualty of prison love. Maria as far as these new electronic beams never heard of them. It does sound painful building, I know about is a taster never felt one. But I hear they are also painful “no thanks”

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Maria, In Oregon, No prison is not like the movies, however there are guys who prey on the weak and honestly they don't care if you are young, old, good-looking or unattractive. These guys are sexual predators who are cowards themselves. Far as the stun guns, they are real and if the voltage is high hurt like hell. In most states they are illegal, namely the stun guns are used in riots are major disturbances.

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How does it feel to kill someone

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Previous answer----I would know what it's like to kill another person because I've never killed anyone hell. I don't even like kill a bug, much less a person. I believe it takes a coldhearted person to kill another person, unless someone kills to protect themselves. And that's a different story altogether. See the question who are you acused of Killing??

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By: Christopher Lee Price

From previous Question----- what is it like to kill someone? Come on now, what he planning on killing someone?! Well, to answer your question from research in a pure theoretical point of view. It depends on the situation. If you're in an abuse relationship and you're scared for your life and you kill the abuser. Then you will feel relief. If someone harasses you with nitpicking Peddie asked stupid little rules for years and you will fill gratification for killing off pieces shipped! If you're driving down the road or whatever and accidentally kill someone, and you feel, grief, sorrow, regret and sadness. If you're paid assassin, You feel the whole spectrum of emotions from sad to happy. Like I said, it just depends on the situation.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Previous answer--------You ask what it's like to kill another person. It's nothing to brag about, nor gratifying, unless you're just a cold-blooded person or some type of serial killer. It takes an emotional toll. Because not only did you destroy another person's life, but his families as well. Don't listen to the hype on T.V. , in the movies, video games and books. Different people react to it differently after many years. It really makes you think that it\'s really not all that. You aren\'t one of those people, one hears about on the news all the time are you? Who are planning to go out with a bang. Washington has prisons for that! you be good! I\'m glad this site fascinates you, as you fascinate me to. I always had a thing for redheads. Then again, I've had a thing for women in general,( smile )is that bad? Don't be shy about writing in with more questions you might not like what you hear from me. But you get the real from me. After so many years your outlook changes a lot of things

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By: Gregory Gant

Previous answer------Dear Antoria, hi you divorced redhead, you. You see the site fascinates you huh? I really hope murder doesn't. Antoria, I've never murdered anyone myself shot a few yes, but no one died. But upon receiving a letter. I asked around and this is what I come up with. Some say the rush was like no high they ever had. Some are sorry that it happened and still have nightmares from the some say they didn't fill anything. I hope I didn't disappoint you. Please keep the questions coming in,

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Ok to start of with I would like to know why do prisoners have a web site? When I heard about this I was like OMG! Yes this pisses me off. People who commits crimes to be put in prison should be doing more than surfing the internet and getting penpals. What it helps the prisoners? Well who the hell helps the victims that a prisoners dicisions affects? Who helps the kids and the mothers that has lost there child(ren)? Prisioners should be stripped of all priviliages.

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By: Timothy Baker

Q-from “anonymous” why do inmates have a penpals site, etc etc etc A If you are to lock up the inmates with no privileges or outside contact society wouldn't like the people who would eventually be reunited to them. Your American prison system has gone through many changes over the last hundred and fifty years. When the first prisons opened inmates were not allowed privileges. They could not even talk. The only thing they were allowed to read was the Bible. And this was quickly done away with, because the mental damage you cause. Inmates went crazy, became violent or killed themselves . The same Constitution that protects you also protects inmates. You can judge how free society is by how they treat their inmates. The website was designed as a bridge between society and inmates so that both sides can get a better understanding of each other. Society cannot just banish us to some penal colony like the days of old. We will serve our time and come right back out. Yes, the victims are very important and they do receive a lot of help. And as with all programs I'm sure the victims assistance programs around the country could be improved. Back in 2001. I was in a prison in South Texas. A guy I knew was in prison for murder. He got sent to the warden's office one day, the warden gave him a letter. It was from the mother and father of the man he killed. His mother and father would like to visit their son's killer. The warden told the inmate that he is not required to do so, but if he wanted to the warden would set it up. The inmate said yes. The first visit didn't work out, the inmate got upset because the woman broke down crying and asked “why did you kill my boy”. The inmate left, he went to his cell and he cried like a baby. I'd been in prison for eight years already and this is the first time I've ever seen inmate cry like this. At the time I didn't know who had visited him. I thought maybe he had a death in the family. But over time they had more visits, wrote letters,and both found within themselves the power to forgive and stop the cycle of hate. Let me tell you something, I've seen a lot of games in prison. Inmates pretending to change etc. and I’ll be the first to say it happens a lot. And I know bullshit when I see it. But when that mother and father came to visit their son's killer and then forgave him. I saw a man break, not from punishment, not from locking him in a cell, but from his victims reaching out to him in love and forgiveness. 90% of all inmates have feelings, just like you. We try to distance ourselves from our crimes, not because we're cold blooded ruthless criminals, but because we're a human just like you and believe it or not, It does hurt us win if we take a look at ourselves and what we've done. If I had my way I'd make every criminal visit his or her victims every month for their whole sentence. Studies done by many universities show this to be a more effective way to rehabilitate inmates than any other way. If the lockup a man and treat him like an animal by the time he gets out he will be an animal. Our society has a long way to go, and for your information. We're not surfing the web, we write letters by snail mail and Jon, the creator of this site, writes our answers on the site. We look for penpals, most of us anyway, because as humans. We crave human contact friendship etc., and thankfully there are a lot of kindhearted people who can look past our mistakes and see the person within. So please stop the cycle of hate, find it within yourself to forgive. Try writing an inmate in learning his or her story or share your own and maybe you can turn a man from his old way of life. I find that a lot of people who start writing prisoners never regret her decision and lifelong friendships are known to happen.

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By: Andre Lewis

You want to know why prisoners have websites? The same reason you and millions of others have websites, to get exposure for whatever reason. I'm not even get an entertaining your ignorance has your mad that prisoners have websites. Seems like you live a miserable and boring life worrying about prisoners having websites as as you like prisoner should be stripped of all privileges you should be stripped of your ignorant thinking and blessed with the knowledge of who you really are. Dre

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

yes, I guess OMG! Would be the right word for someone who couldn't believe why a prisoner would take the time to hopefully help someone to not make the same mistakes as he did. One can’t change what has already happened or lessen the hurt caused by the loss of a loved one. This for me is just one way to correct past wrongs, I'm sorry for any loss you've suffered at the hands of someone, but by judging everyone in the same sentence will not allow you or me to find healing. And just to make you feel more at ease. Inmates don't have access, nor are they allowed to surf the web. So you need not worry about some predator out there trying to hurt anyone. Yes, prisoners do have to get educated and rehabilitated before being released back into society. You have to understand, you don't want some angry and bitter person leaving with a grudge because people with the same way of thinking and mentality towards prisoners decides “the hell with them, they don't deserve or should not be allowed to correct their errors.” Just as you were able to freely express your opinion here, without censorship, there is no reason why I shouldn't be able to as well. Having penpals for support, helps in the rehabilitation process and allows for caring people to demonstrate to those forgotten souls behind these grey walls that they're not forgotten. Your letting hatred and revenge cloud your better judgment. As for privileges, prisoners have been losing them gradually and at the rate they're disappearing, rest assured, pretty soon we will not have any. We don't live in Disneyland as some would like you to believe. On that note, I’ll close your out. All I ask is to give prisoners benefit of the doubt before you judge all of us.

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By: Gregory Gant

My opinion, remember, they are like assholes. Everyone have one, what Askaconvict.com is doing is good because it can answer some of the questions that kids may ask that they parents can't answer. It can also save a child from being in the cell next door to me. I see kids in here every day that are lost that did not have anyone who cared enough to tell them and show them right from wrong. But now they are put in the system to become hardened convicts or someones Nut rag. When someone like you on the outside could have been a big brother and showed that child that was better way. Now you sit back, and as dumb as questions about prisoners having a website. First ask yourself, what are you doing to keep people from becoming prisoners? What about that child is hungry that don't have a choice but to go into the market and steal something to eat or die waiting on someone and ask a bunch of dumb ass questions to give them something? This is our way of giving back if you don't like it, tough. But one of our goals is to save some of these kids from the system and not every crime affects the kid or a mother.

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By: Jon Hurley

Well, First I would like to thank you for writing. I understand how you feel but let me give you another point of view. Let me say, I would agree with you about prisoners surfing the web. I would be concerned for a couple of reasons. One, I don’t think it would be the safest idea to allow every inmate to have internet access. That being said, I have NEVER heard of any inmate having internet access. The inmates here don’t have internet access either. None of them have ever seen this web site. All correspondence is done through the mail, by hand written letter. Second I don’t want to pay for internet access with my tax dollars for inmates when I have a hard time buying it for me. The Idea of prisoners having Pen pals I believe is a great idea and here is why. Many of these men and women are locked up and have no contact with the outside world. A letter from you or any friendly person can give them hope and help them to the path of reformation. Most people who write inmates do it to share some form of religious gospel or to help them grow in some way. I have never heard of a pen pal planning the next crime with an inmate. I do believe this positive interaction my help the inmate see a different path or even find positive religious transformation. You asked who helps the victims that a prisoner has affected. Well, you and I do. As I said above I think Helping to reform, give hope to, and teach inmates we are helping them reduce the rate of recidivism and hopefully they won’t commit further crimes, thus reducing more victims. The fact is many of these people will be released. When they do if they are not ”Better” or if they are angry and have no desire to change they will commit more crimes. The USA has 5% of the worlds’ Population and 25% of the worlds Inmates. That is almost 2.5 million people in prison. Part of the problem is the prison system punishes and doesn’t work on rehabilitation. The prison system is a huge drain on our economy. Many states spend more on incarcerating inmates than on higher education. That is crazy. So what is the answer? Let people out of prison? Shorten their sentence. Don’t arrest drug dealers? Making people work while in prison is a great idea which a large portion of inmates do work. They general get .40$ an hour. If you mail money to an inmate the prison takes 35% for fees and victim funds. In addition to The victims of the crime who I give money to through victims funds, I try to help the victims of the families of the inmates. For every father in prison there is a child not getting any support. His wife may be on welfare and that burdens our taxes more, making you and I poorer. Many prisoners have had their rights stripped as you would wish. They are beaten, raped, treated poorly, and don’t proper access to medical treatment. Besides that once in prison there is no Due process. If a guard accuses you of something , you are charged and punished for that crime. No trial, no Jury. It is more complicated than I ever thought or can even express here. All I know is I want CHANGE. I don’t want to pay for a prison system that is broken. I don’t want to let criminals to be freed or not prosecuted because lack of funds. But before you criticize me and what I am doing look in the mirror and ask yourself what you are doing. I have inmates pay me a small fee so they can place and ad as a pen pal I use that money to help people and promote my web site.(I have never made a dime). I try to get people to realize inmates are in fact people, fathers, mothers, sisters, brothers, someone’s child, and I try to make their lives a little better by getting them mail. Hopefully that mail will help transform lives. If Not If what I am doing is a waste of time is it really hurting you? Should you really be Pissed off? If this pisses you off then you need to refocus your concerns. Why don’t you read Tims’ response to Lynns’ comments about Rock well? Why don’t you find something that is important and spend some time trying to fix it. Until then write an inmate so he will tell his friends to sign upon my site because my site actually gets pen pals. Then more people will sign up for ad and I’ll make more money to help more people. That would be something you could do for 42 cents that will snowball into something good. Jon

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I can't believe you took the time to really post a few questions,since you seem so against this whole webpage site. And let me tell you it's better to be pissed off than being pissed on! (You know, like I would like to do on you and your whole stupid ass remarks and questions.) What if it was you or someone in your own family that was in prison, would you want everything taken from him or her including other penpals? Be honest, don't give me no messed up answer! Never say never! You or anyone of your family could end up in prison! Think about that. Would you want someone judging your loved one? Not for all the good things they've done, but for the one bad mistake in their life? What if they didn't even make a mistake, and weren’t guilty? How about those people? Contact with the outside world helps a lot inmates feel like they have someone to talk to and share, stupid, a lot of things and helps a lot of people. Contract is very important to inmates to keep some people from hurting themselves or someone else. How can you judge people you don't even know? Everybody in this world since Adam and Eve have sined including you! In God's eyes, no sin is greater than another sin Do you read your Bible? It sure doesn't sound like it. God is the one and only judge. Dumbass people like YOU should be stripped of all their privileges!

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How have you been doing this is your nephew

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By: Gregory Gant

What's up nephew? I see that we lost contact of the years. I don't have a computer to e-mail you with, so It will take time for my response. But my address should be posted on this page halla back at me, love you man.

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where do you go for fairness if your in what i feel is a corrupt system? FIRST TRIAL: you have a Judge that is friends with the deceased family and puts family and friends on a jury, then sentences you to death when they have the admitted killer, the deceased family had been promised the DP because my hubby didnt want to be seen as a snitch he backed out of the plea and he was sentenced to death, luckly because they all messed up after 5 years we got off deathrow, SECOND TRIAL: to cover their butts of the first trial they messed up big time with our 2nd trial its all in the transcripts to see, there are parts of the transcripts missing, the jury selection being one, probably because of the way the DA questioned the jury when selecting them, They show the DA lied in court, The Judge went into the jury room, They also show the judge had her own opinion, "we put in for our post conviction appeal i think that was it?" i believe lots of people would off gotten in to trouble with our appeal or so i believe, it had lots of motions, which at first our new appointed lawyer was willing to put in, but now he isnt willing too, i believe he has been gotton too, he wanted my hubby to send the transcripts back to him, WHY a lawyer wouldnt want them,he would get his own unless "someone" didnt want my hubby having all that evidence to prove what they all did wrong, our new appointed lawyer is no longer our lawyer, our last trial the DA also stopped evidence being heard by the jury because waivers hadnt been signed by my hubby, our old lawyer didnt defend him at all , it goes on and on, they violated his 4th 5th 6th 14th amendment to the united states constitution. i dont totally understand it all, but what i do know is my hubby is never going to get a fair trial, also just before our last trial one of our WILLING wittnesses "committed suicide" he was locked up at the time, he was very pleased to be helping my hubby, it would of helped us alot, but 3 days before the trial began he "committed suicide" just after he was transfered to the jail, it has never sat right with me, it makes no sence at all, there has been many things that havent sat right with me, but when i have questioned it, i have been told to shut up or i was being paranoid, i cant afford a lawyer so where do i go to make sure my hubby gets a fair trial? please can you help, what court/people would be interested to know that they have crooked judges, DAs and lawyers in their system? and stop this from happening, P.S the innocents project isnt any good either, the lawyer running that was also once my hubbys lawyer who asked me "how i wanted him to beg for my husbands life as deathrow was the only place my husband was going" all because he didnt like me asking questions on my husbands behalf by email as he wouldnt answer letters or calls from my hubby, all we wont is a sentence in proportion with his part in the crime, the other 3 guys that were with him that night played a bigger part but got less time much less, they got 40 years but my hubby 1st got DP then chance of parole in 2059, i must of emailed every organisation thats supposed to help but no one answers, no ones got the balls to stand up and say the judge did wrong, so where do we go?? i bet you guys dont even answer:-) take care God Bless you all:-)

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Dear wife of a prisoner in Tennessee. I hate to bring this news to you, but the whole justice system is corrupt! There is no fairness in the justice system whatsoever. in a D.P. case. We do have to go through appeals. I don't know how long your husband has been on death row, but here's a breakdown of how the appeals work. The first appeal goes back to the trial judge to ask for a new trial. We both know this if you will be turned down. Next the case will go to the Tennessee Supreme Court, and it turned down a certified petition goes to the US Supreme Court. The next step in the appeals will be the state habes corpus, then onto the Supreme Court, but nine times out of 10 they won't because it's usually a waste of time. So from there the appeal goes to the Federal habes corpus level. Then to the US Court of Appeals, which may be the 11th circuit Center in Tennessee van to the US Supreme Court once again. After all of this and all appeals are turned down. There is either the Board of pardons and parole or the governor for clemency. The first and second trial or your husband sounds really messed up. I wish there was more I could say or do but at this time I'm fighting my own battle with appeals. Do not give up on your husband!! Keep trying anything and everything. Someone will step up and take your husband's case. By that some names, addresses and phone numbers for some acting as groups. I hope someone can help you, and if they can't help you at least point you in the right direction. You've got to be a pain in the past and stay on these people until someone helps you and your husband. If you don't find for him, who else will? Tell your husband to hold onto everything he has about his case. Better yet, he needs to get it out on the prison and home to you. While he has anything about his case inside the prison anything can happen to it. Also, if there are parts of the transcript is missing. That alone could be grounds for a new trial. I don't know anything about laws in Tennessee. Somebody has got to listen to you never, never never give up. Take care and God bless you and your husband. ------------------------------------American Civil Liberties Union 142 Mitchell St SW, Suite 301 Atlanta, GA 30303 phone number 404-523-5398 e-mail info@ acluga.org website www.ACL uGA.org the American Civil Liberties Union is our nation's guardian of liberty working daily courts, legislators and communities to defend and preserve the individual rights and liberties guaranteed to all the people in this country by the Constitution and laws of the United States. ---------------------------------------------Catholic social services, Inc.. 680 West Peachtree Street, N.w. Atlanta Georgia 30308 404-885-7454 e-mailscolussy@archati.com our office exists to provide legal representation to individuals and families that cannot afford the services of private attorney. ---------------------------------------------------Naacp regional office, 970 Martin Luther King jr. Drive Atlanta, GA 30314 404688 – 8868 for the rights of everyone

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By: Andre Lewis

Response to the woman who seeks legal help her husband. I understand how you feel ,and what you and your husband is going through. I see cases like your husbands all the time. I know for a fact our legal/ justice system is corrupt. You have very few that work for the best interests of the excuse. I don't have any addresses are numbers for legal help, and I know to organizations that may feel that help or lead you in the right direction. Try to contact the end, a NAACP and explain to them your husband situation and go online to www.the talking drum.com. They may have info or links that can help you whatever you do don't give up the fight and continue to pray God bless you and your husband. Dre’ .................................................................................................Jon, remember lady who logged on asking for help with her husband's case her name is Nikki. I found some info that might help her. “National prison Project, ACLU legal foundation, 1875 Connecticut Ave. Northwest, Suite 410 Washington, DC 2009”, and also “ Southern Center for human rights, CEO 83 Poplar St SW, Atlanta, GA 30303-2122” And “intimate legal assistance program. 78 Oak St, P.O. Box 260237 Hartford Connecticut”. Please forward this to her

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear wife of a prisoner if you are in what I feel is a corrupt system, where do you go for fairness? Well, that's a very good question. You must realize that every single person locked up behind bars has been abused by corrupt legal system, minus the ones who've gotten great deals by confessing, snitching or are in a witness protection program. First of all, congratulations to your husband for getting off death row. I'm on death row so I feel his pain. Until your situation, I had never heard of, an attorney asking for a transcript back from a client. If an attorney wanted a copy of the transcript which is public record, he can get it in the clerk's office at the courthouse for a fee. Anyone can, obviously his attorney did not want him to keep his transcript. It is good that the attorney is no longer with yall. During his last trial. I'm not sure what kind of waivers, your husband needed to sign. The DA was not supposed to be able to suppress evidence. Even if they did, your husband's attorney is entitled to any evidence the DA has, so his attorney has a chance to use or object to said evidence. If indeed they try to suppress the evidence at trial, your husband's attorney should have objected and found out why it was being suppressed for public record As for your willing witness, who committed suicide. I seriously doubt he committed suicide. In order to cover their ass, DA or police had him murdeedr. I've seen that happen in prison before, even though I don't know the extent of your husband's case, you sound like you’re dealing with some powerful people. I can't give a full opinion, because you did not get me enough detail. What was the full charge? What suspects were involved?, etc. if I knew your husband's story and what part he played I could give you a much better opinion. Since you're stating that your willing witness committed suicide, and I suspect that he was murdered. I must warn you, you're treading on deadly ground. If people are telling you to shut up that you're being paranoid, that the subtle threat that if you don't mind your own business you could be in trouble, you should be very careful but don't give up, just be careful .If you're sending out many e-mails to various organizations make sure you make a few copies, one for yourself, a couple of others for a good attorney and a reporter. After a time in building of e-mails and other paperwork, find a credible new paper / news reporter , give them all the details of corrupt officials ect. Keep searching. You may find a good reporter to tell your story. If you can't find an attorney I mean, if you can't afford an attorney then hire an investigator to dig up dirt on the corrupt judge or DA etc. that would be much cheaper than an Attorney.Find out just what kind of corrupt people you are really dealing with. I hate to burst your bubble, but there is no such thing a fair trial been. I've been on death row for over 15 year's. If there was a place where you could go for a fair trial most of us back here, would have already been there. We all would know about it. There are many guys back here with similar stories to that of your husband. In my case, I can tell you a shocking story about a corrupt DEA and sherriff. My attorney wouldn't do anything about it either. They did not even want to find the details on that evidence and any investigator can easily find all that evidence . If you are computer literate you can look up,” equal Justice initiative” or the “Southern poverty Law Center” if you search them out, the website will give you connections to other such helpful organizations. You're going to have to call them and speak with them in person. Obviously your e-mails aren’t working. Also you can contact the ACLU and American Civil Liberties Union and the Department of Justice in Washington, DC. On the DOJ get on their directory and find their investigative division. If you have a legitimate complaint. They have mean investigative division to prosecute corrupt officials. At lease that's what all the scuttlebutt is. You could also contact the FBI of your state. You and your husband have a long uphill battle. Read all of your husband's legal paperwork and find a law library read up on it and try to find him a loophole that has finished?

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Well to start off with I hear your frustration. The wheels of justice or slow, but you must never give up on knocking on doors eventually someone will let you in, just so you'll stop bugging( no pun intended) There are organizations out there who dedicate themselves to exposing wrongdoing. Here is an address I have you can write and get information. Justice denied, P.O. Box 68911, Seattle, WA 98168. This magazine is dedicated to exposing cases of wrongful convictions. You can probably find something in there that can be useful to you in the meantime, write your local and federal representatives. You can file a complaint with the state bar of Tennessee. Of course he needs to continue the state to appeal. Then once exhausted state habeas corpus relief, state and federal level. I know, you may not really understand all this, but those are steps you must take. Here is also an address, National lawyers Guild, prison Law Project 132 Nassau Street, Suite 922 New York, NY 10038. You can seek information from them on lawyers issues. You may be able to find those sites on the web, but I myself don't have them. They will be including a resource Center, where you will eventually have people to contact, which will be useful to family members who seek information about legal issues are just from what he described. In regards to your husband's case. You have good grounds. The judge should have never conducted trial. That's a conflict of interest and is a violation of his constitutional rights to a fair and unbiased trial. He needs to bring up those ground on his appeal and he also can't sit around and let someone else do is work used to getting that law library and study only he knows his case better than anyone. But he needs to file miss conduct complaints and even write to your local media expose what you feel is a very corrupt system laws confusing, but you have to hold yourself together, for his sake. He must let the lawyers do their part, though. Or your husband can proceed pro se he can file motions to appellate courts of your state. So all evidence transcripts are forwarded to him. That's his right and you need to make it your mission to exposing corrupt prosecutors and judges with like-minded people from your area. I'm sure they want you to go away, but you must not let yourself forming your own organization, if need be. Nothing is corrected without a struggle at the same time. It must be a productive exposure. Yes I agree with you on the innocent project. It's hard to receive actions, another good source is law students in your local college or looking for the experience. They taken on cases and gotten people exonerated. So there are plenty of avenues to take don't get discouraged by rejections yet don't be a nag because that can be counterproductive. You'll be looked at like some crazy lady. The good part is he the least off death row. So a wrong was corrected now. You must write up the process, and you may once again succeed I myself have been incarcerated 18 years. Yet, the struggle continues, but the worst thing a lawyer hates is for people to keep calling all the time for any little thing, or even worse to have other people call them family members. So just be patient and look for support organizations in your area and make yourself useful, make a change so that you don't happen to no one else. You can be a crusader for the cause of justice

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By: Gregory Gant

Nikki wife of prisoner in Tennessee, Nikki I am sorry to hear that you're going through what many of us have been going through, dealing with a corrupt system. I don't have all the answers, and I'm not trying to put you off and I promise to get back with you with info of people that you can contact. May God bless you and keep the faith and remembered your hubby is loved.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

First, and adamantly. I applaud you with the greatest respect for standing by your husband, and most of all fighting tooth and nail for his freedom. Okay granted I am not privileged to your hubbys life, however, the little you provided reports that of an unfair trial from judicial misconduct, Prosecutor misconduct, ineffective assistance of counsel, trial attorney as well as the appellate lawyer. Add political influence, Your hubby was railroaded. First the trial attorney should have asked a change of venue on the judge to excuse his or her self. I can speak for hours of what would been done or could have been done. However that will not help, and I am sure you already have some idea. So I’m focused on what I may give you. Miss Tennessee, the post continuation isn't always your best option. From experience I know that the federal court gives the most rhythm for prisoners, especially if we have legit issues. What you can do now is focused on getting legal professionals to assist you on a pro bono attorney or the “innocent project”. Please log on to the Internet, look up Chris Conover. He lives in North Carolina. He once passed DP in Maryland and won his freedom is very active in cases like you're happy. I'm sure you can contact him. You'll be of some assistance. I believe that if we prisoners had more support like you would be treated fairly. Please continue to fight and most importantly let it be known. Your husband's injustice by the hands of Tennessee's legal system.

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By: Timothy Baker

Our justice system is not fair and never has been fair and probably never will be. Money talks and bullshit gets a lot of talking time, and society doesn't give a damn. Read Jon Grisham's book, “The innocent man”, and you see how corrupt our system is. As we see I am currently under state indictment. My lawyer lied to me that judges pretend they never received my motion estate is hiding evidence. I have proof of all this. I wrote the court's ACLU Justice Department newspapers, everything. And no one gives a damn. I don't mean you should give up. But I’m not going to lie to you either. Our justice system is as crooked as a coat hanger, is made for the rich people who can pay money. The poor people are just fucked. 31 people have been taken off death row because of DNA proved their innocence. I can't imagine how many innocent men and women sit in our prisons today, society doesn't care what they do with us. No one is going to tell that judge anything. We have a judge in Texas, who is a known crook and no one cares. They just beat a man in prison in Texas in 2007 broke his neck and left him in a cell for two days pissing and shiting him self. He died from his injuries at the state said “oh, no ones at fault”. And that's why they always do as long as society lets them get away with it. It will happen.

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Name :Lynn, I don't really have a question - more a comment. Mr. Jones, you are quite obviously where you should be and where you should stay for the rest of your life. I read with interest your answers to what you think about "rats" and how it felt when you took another persons life. I must say it was extremely enlightening into the mind of a killer. You answer questions with a rather obvious stab (no pun intended if this was your preferred choice of murder) at trying to appear relevant and intelligent (good thing for spell check!) However, your clear lack of remorse for what you have done as a whole is abundantly clear in every word you have written. When asked what it feels like to kill another human being your answer was: "Truthfully, and sadly, most of us kill without ever feeling any type of emotion. I guess is the reason why one may had to kill. No one should ever think about how feel to take another's life. The thought alone is enough to tell you how you feel and if that's not powerful enough on to the thought of killing yourself. Not so cool. Antoria, I have answered question to the best of my ability, hopefully I have simmered down your darkness" Who the heck do you think you are kidding? It doesn't take a genius to read between the lines and see what you are actually saying! You said, a. I had no emotion when I killed another human being and, b. since I had no emotion I felt it a necessity to kill and, c. the thing that disgusts me most about you is that you actually believe that you are some kind of victim and that you shouldn't have to think about what you have done because that would hurt you too much - HELLO - you just said in a previous answer that you have NO EMOTION. Obviously you don't. You are a typical clinical sociopath who has no care or consideration for others - you only care about yourself. The whole point of putting murderers behind bars is to protect people who have emotion and compassion and remorse from soulless people like yourself and to hopefully make you think about what you have done while you rot in your little grey cell while life passes by. You aren't thinking about what you have done. You are trying to portray yourself as something you are not. You are not intelligent; you are not giving people useful information or counseling people. You are a shallow, useless person (that's a strong word to describe someone like you - animal would be a better description). The most offensive of your answer to the question "what does it feel like to kill another person" is the ending sentence "I hope I have simmered down your darkness". Her darkness? You are the dark and evil thing that lurks in alley's and under children's beds giving them nightmares. You are the hideous monster that normal, socialized human beings fear they will be accosted by while grocery shopping, returning home from dinner and going about their daily routine. Obviously you have no shame or remorse for what you have done. You never will. No amount of counseling will help a freak like you. You are abnormal and grotesque to actual human beings. You condemn people who "rat" - but aren't these people just trying to do the right thing and make sure that psychos like yourself are off the streets to ensure that their family or friends are not victimized by you? Sure, some of them rat to get a better deal when they are facing prison time but quite frankly must people "rat" to ensure that evil people like you can never hurt innocent people again. Poor you! How did it feel to kill another human being? You never answered the question because you can't. You looked deep into your soul to ask yourself how it felt to actually kill someone else (obviously not in self defense, probably over a drug deal gone bad - and yes, I watch the First 48) and all you came up with was "I have no emotion and I don't care if I killed someone". You won't revisit your thoughts about what you have done because you know you'll come up with the same thing every time....you don't care. No remorse, no guilt, no shame. I'm glad that you are where you are and I hope you stay there forever. I also hope that the family of your VICTIM comes forward at any parole hearings you may have (I hope to god you NEVER have any.) I'm going to research your case to ensure that your victim’s family has the information you have posted. That way, you can't go into the hearing pretending that you have any remorse at all since you have written that you DON’T!!! In closing, if your passion is writing, take an English class or something. Your spelling is atrocious, your grammar is pathetic, your punctuation is laughable...I could go on for hours. Stop trying to be something you are not. You are not a sensitive artist with a talent for writing. You are a disgusting degenerate murderer with nothing more to say than a two year old trying to get attention by urinating on the floor. Give it up and go lift weights in the yard with your girlfriend "Bubba". Quit trying to be something - you never will be anything more than what you are right now - a murderous sociopath with nothing to live for but dropping the soap in PRISON!! Peace out "Homie" LMFAO

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Lynn, I respect how you feel about means staying in prison for the rest of my life, but how can you arbitrarily come to such a conclusion? Do you not believe in rehabilitation? Canada's stance on crime and punishment is not that of America. So your politics must be personal. Secondly, when I speak of rats, I don't include honest and citizens who call the police to report crime to make their communities safe. I speak of criminals who willingly commit crimes didn't tell on those who pledge loyalty to; why don't you first find out what a rat is before you chastise someone. But your criticism is welcome. Next my answer to Antorias’ question wasn’t based on empiricism or my own emotions, but for more rational and honest point of view. How can I express emotion, I don't understand myself? I am not a stoic Lynn nor my associate of path, but once again you are entitled to your opinion. Also my cell is not gray and black decorated with awards certificates and pictures of my family and my friends will tell you I am not useless. Smile. I have another parole hearing in 2011 September to be exact. Lynn, maybe I don't whet your thirst as you started off by saying he read my answers with interest crown sorry to disappoint you, but please find solace in this. I will never rot, nor will I allow these negative opinions of anyone to harm me. Also, if you want to see how good I can actually write a full review some of my work, better yet a place it on the Internet. Come to think of it I have articles and essays I wrote for spots in Canada. In closing, I must say take you for your comments, and I'm not in the guys only equipment. I look forward to seeing or hearing how far you go in your quest to make me miserable in prison forever please tell your friends about the site and need the publicity. Note from Rockwell; I welcome all comments, rebuttal and thoughts.

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By: Andre Lewis

This isn’t Rockwell s’ reply. This is Warden Jons’ reply. I am the creator of ask a convict.com I will forward this to Rockwell. Also I just want to say if you leave your e-mail it will never be shared with anyone not the convicts or anyone. It enables me to contact you when your replys come back and are posted. As I read Lynns’ comments I can understand her frustration and horror a t what she perceives as Rockwells’ Response. I guess it is because I have gotten to know Rockwell That I understand his answer to the question “What is it like to kill another person?” I told Rockwell the Question wasn’t directed to him but he could answer it. Rockwell was speaking about people in general. The original question was sent to only one member of ask a convict but I asked everyone because I thought it was a good question. As Lynn noticed, I write the answers exactly as I receive them. I sometimes use a voice recognition program so not all the misspellings show up but I try to change most of them back to the original. Many of the inmates us words like dis and dat and dem. Others are very well read and intelligent. Some of them have poor handwriting so I have trouble reading it. Lynns’ response to the web site is common. Many people are angry at the fact that I give a voice to people who have committed horrible acts of violence. The general view of the public is these people have committed crimes and should be punished to the fullest extent possible. My interactions with these inmates have shown me they are being punished, dehumanized, and often mentally and physically abused. GOOD you say. Ok, I accept that, but what if it was your mom, wife, brother, sister, or dad? Some of these people have grown up in a life where crime is a way of life. Many times their mom, sisters, and dad, if he was around, all have been or are in prison. No it’s not an excuse, but it may be a bit of insight. Once these inmates have been locked up for years they start to think about what they have done. Many change. Some have an inner rehabilitive change but they will never be released. The people on askaconvict.com are here to try to help guide people not to make the same mistakes. We also are working on giving inmates hope and a reason to continue on. The Unites States has 2.5 Million people in prison right now. That is one in 100 people. 1 out of 10 people either are or have been in Jail or prison at least once. We have 5% of the worlds’ population and 25% of the inmates. We can’t just throw these people away. People tell me what I am doing is a waste I should be spending my time with victims or something more worthwhile. I think trying to help societys’ lost and thrown away is worth wile. Before you criticize me ask yourself what you are doing to make the world a better place.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Lynn,(and Jon) In regards to your comment which I felt was enlightening, and Warden Jon shouldn’t be making excuses for Rockwell. That’s the whole point of the website. She (Lynn) felt strongly about it and she stated her opinion. That’s why you need to choose wisely. Prison Is full of people who like to brag about How bad ass of person he is. You (JON) shouldn’t be defending him, for he knew what he signed up for, If he doesn’t like the heat get out of the fire. One always has to keep it real and honest. Its true what she said about” not giving people useful information or counseling people” After all that’s the whole purpose of this site or at least that’s what you led me to believe. One needs that kind of feedback to see a different point of view. I didn’t see anything with her response. Rockwell just needs to write more clearly instead of sounding to sophicticated .(oops lost my dictionary). Smile. He needs to write it were it is simple. I couldn’t even understand what he was saying. But you’ve got a retraction and it’s exactly what you needed. Wouldn’t you agree? On that note I’ll close. At this letter all signs are good. Don’t be discouraged or offended by the letters like that, cause it won’t be the last and one just needs to approach it in a respectful manor.

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Lynn, I got a chance to what you wrote to Mr. Jones, though I don't know Mr. Jones. I do want you to know not everyone that is in prison are “bad people” I must say there have been times I have contemplated the question. Can any good arise from a prison cell? The purpose of a cell is for restraining the “bad people.” It's a determinate which can cause a mental breakdown! Yes, most cells are the home of miserable people. A cell can be called a “wound that conceives misery and gives birth to it”. What an uncomfortable place to be confined to day after day. Even a person's thoughts are made to be stressful, which gives away to mental confinement as well as physical confinement. It is enough prison cells are real downers unless one learns the art turning a negative into a positive. It takes a change of heart and mind to do so. I try to tell anyone I come in contact with about the love, grace, and mercy of God. I share how God delivered my soul from destruction. Despite all the sins I've committed. Jesus said in Jon 8:7. Those who have never sin throw the first stone. Through my obedience, I allow God to work in me and through me and by doing so, my prison cell has been transformed into a pulpit for me. To boldly stand up and proclaim the mighty Word of God. Through the miracle working of God, the ugly place, my prison cell, has been transformed into a noble place. I try to make a difference in the life of others by sharing my testimony and not letting it die while stealing me. I must grow where I am planted, and for now I've been planted here on death row. Some of us just got “caught up” or just knew the wrong person and landed where we are now. Not all of us are bad. A lot of us are being punished first by the justice system, but now by the “prison system”. Yes, we are dehumanized and many of us are mentally and physically abused. So we come across “cold”. It's because the so-called justice system has made a lot of us that way. Thank God it hasn't turned me coldhearted, but it sure has tried So before you judge think about what the system has done or is doing to the person on the inside while you are on the outside looking in.

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By: Timothy Baker

Dear Lynn, Man do you have some “issues”! And I will be glad to point some of these out to you in due time but let me say this first…It is never right to take another’s life except in self-defense …and a murderer should be punished… and victims and society protected...But either you live on a different planet or your narrow minded head is so far up your ass that you can't see the whole picture as it really is in this country! You describe Rockwell as an animal! That's interesting since most of white American society has felt black people were animals without souls to begin with... If you have been following the Obama/ McCain campaign you are aware that racism is still alive and well in the “U.S.A” I don't believe you’d know a clinical sociopath if he bit you on your racist ass... clinical sociopaths are very rare “a truly emotionless person” born that way is about as rare as a solar eclipse! But people like you who live in this world have a way of turning normal children into “sociopaths”. Have you ever seen the projects ghettos or inner city neighborhoods where 90% of black people live in this country? Most of these black kids know what it feels like to be called a nigger or how it feels to be excluded from something because of their skin color before they learn how to read or write…our government still has to force people to hire, house and treat black people as equals… so what if I may ask, do you think happens to the developing minds of these youngsters who are treated as animals by society... they get locked up in juvenile centers where there are not only treated like animals they are caged like animals... they are told all their lives, they are nothing, worthless, and won't amount to shit, hell, You just said it to him. So, as they grow up its natural for them to build walls around their hearts, suppress their emotions... all humans do this when they are repeatedly hurt over and over. They escape into drugs and gangs to find a place they don't feel pain, but are accepted. Some of them fight back against a society that brought them over as slaves and still treat them like animals 500 years later. So what the hell do you expect them to turn into, being treated as animals and porch monkeys all their lives? Rockwell's answer to the question scares me far less than that of your comments to Rockwell. Just what the hell kind of sick and twisted person are you to laugh at the idea of someone in prison being raped? Having a girlfriend named Bubba or dropping the soap in the shower? It's easy for someone like you to hide behind a keyboard and say this without putting your name and stuff on it. As I don't believe the Lynn is your real name, but if it is, there are millions of Lynns. I don't believe you have the guts to say this in church. Even though I believe most of white society feels this way. They don't say it out loud because they are trying not to be labeled as racist. You laugh and make for Rockwell's writing skills. See what's interesting, whites like people to be stupid and not have the ability to raise above their situation. It's a lot harder to fuck over an educated black man then an illiterate one. All over this planet, prison guards, and cops are killing us animals left and right! Minority children are treated like animals all over the USA. And upstanding people like you in society silently applied and laugh behind your white picket fence houses. It's been like that for hundreds and hundreds of years so it doesn't shock me none to see it in black-and-white. Instead of trying to find ways to hurt people, why don't you invest your time in trying to change a society that turns bright young kids into a emotionless killers? Why don't you go to the underfunded inner-city schools and teach these kids how to read and write so big white mouth racists like yourself can't make fun of them? Why don't you go be a friend to young minority woman and girls? Help them rise out of the animal cages our racist society puts them in! There are thousands of easy things you can do to help someone. But you chose to try to degrade him and belittle someone who is already locked in a cage and being treated like an animal. Thank you for showing me my view of society is right. My name is Timothy Baker number 1151865 Hughes Unit PO box 4400 Gatesville, TX 76597, and I’ll stand before the throne of God and say the same things I wrote on this paper will you..

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I have been writing to prisoners for the past 10 years. My brother ended up in prison and it opened my eyes to the importance of maintaining outside ties. Anyway, that was just a little background on me. My question is this: Do prisoners ever get to the point where they no longer want outside contact? I have a pen-pal that I have been writing to for the past seven years. In the beginning he was very attentive, sweet and happy to have me in his life. Things happened where we might lose contact, but we always got back in touch with each other. This last time I wrote he seemed different. He was happy to hear from me and said he missed me, but he barely wrote me a one page letter to my six pages. Not to mention that I send him letters that he doesn't even respond to. I know that he lost an appeal and still has a good 10 more years to go. (If he had won it, he would have been out this past year). I'm wondering if that has something to do with it. Anyway, he keeps shutting me out now. If I push, he gets mad, but at least I get a response. :) I can be a pain in the ass, but if I don't show I care...who will? Anyway, I'll write or send cards and half the time I get nothing in response. Obviously after seven years I've grown to care for him. Note: we were never a couple, so we don't have that type of issue surrounding us. He has told me if he was free he would want to be with me. He has also told me he loved me because I have stuck by his side, but that is it concerning that type of thing. I consider him a friend and want to keep him in my life, but I'm at the point where I don't know if I should even keep trying. I've kept my word and tried to prove that I am a loyal friend, but there is only so much that I can do. Is it time for me to just leave him be? Thanks for any and all responses.

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By: Timothy Baker

Dear Cindy… I first came to prison when I was seventeen years old in 1992, except for about a year when I was out on parole, I have been locked up ever since…This whole time in prison I have never met a person who no longer wants outside contact…shoot…whenever you get a new cell-mate or meet a new dude that’s cool…The first thing we do is show each other our pictures and stuff and if you have a bunch of pictures of pen-pals and friends one of the first things they’ll say is “Come on, Homeboy, will you hook me up with a pen-pal?” I’ve been through it hundreds of times all across Texas.. I cannot say why your friend that you have been loyal to for seven years has been giving you the cold shoulder…He could be doing any number of things..But regardless these are the facts: If you have been a loyal friend for seven years and now he’s acting funny he no longer deserves your friendship!! Friendship is a two-way street…you give and take…It’s not a friendship anymore if only one person is trying to be a friend…For whatever reason he is shutting you out …That is his choice…If you have to write and beg someone to be a friend then they really aint a friend…You are giving him every opportunity you can to tell you what’s wrong..If he has not told you then that’s all you can do, my advice to you is to move on find a new friend who really would be happy for your letters and friendship….I know you care about him…Tell him this but also tell him that if he doesn’t at least tell you what’s wrong and be your friend then you are going to move on…..It’s not right for him to shut you out and expect you to stick around…

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By: Andre Lewis

do you ever get to the point where they no longer want outside contact. Depending on the circumstances of the prisoner. Yes prisoner sometimes gets to the part where they don't want any outside contact. I have been like that and I've seen others like that by your friend losing his appeal that could have a major effect on you, and his correspondence in the beginning, everything was good as the both of you were looking forward to his appeal going through. Now that his appeal was denied he may be looking at it as you've been there for seven years. But now I had to do 10 more years, and he doesn't want to take you through that or he may think you can't make it with him for those last 10 years, so he'd rather just let you go then to go through the disappointment of losing you after seven years. I'm pretty sure he has gotten emotionally attached to you in some form or fashion and have someone lead you after so many years of communication is a very big disappointment prisoners, and it really hurts. I've been through many times, but after seven years old that you do for him. He should see that you're a loyal friend and not to turn your back on them having that close contact with someone. Family friends etc. it is something we need but most don't have. I understand there is only so much you can do, but I encourage you not to give up on your friend. You're doing good with what you're doing you're showing your loyalty and sticking by him. Your friend is going through some things within himself right now, and to lose your upliftment and encouraging support would crush him ill come around and see that he has a loyal friend in his corner. Just keep the encouraging letters going and don't give up on continue to show that you're part of the strength and in due time, things will be back to normal between the two of you . Dre’

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear Cindy, prisoners ever did to the point where they no longer want outside contact? The answer is yes, read we prisoners are human. So we go through various ranges of the motion. Even though I can never do it I have actually had moments where I've thought about cutting off all communication with the outside world. Because, I focus a lot of my time on other people make them cards right and letters draw them pictures etc. for a while it would be a huge help for me to cut off all communication. Any aspect where I can focus most of my time writing, drawing my own personal graphic novel. So I could have something great to leave behind for my mother. If I was to be executed, I would rather have my graphic novel of but not I want to have a Ma. You know, you are inside friend better than I do, but from what you've said it sounds like he's in a depressed state of mind. It happens. For those who don't keep themselves busy, productive, or have a goal prisoners can easily fall into depression. Man, I wish I only had 10 more years to go. Your friend doesn't even know how lucky he is. However losing an appeal is upsetting, so I can understand how your friend is feeling. Sometimes it's good that you’re a pain in the ass. Your words and show you care. You're right, if you don't show you care, who will? You can't always count on someone else to care for someone. You must do it yourself. My advice, once a month, or once every two months, send him a note or a card. Just let him know that you still care, and if he ever needs you, or wants to write. He knows where to contact you. By doing that, you give him some space, but you've also prove that you're a loyal friend, and still care about him. I understand your frustration, but it you quit on him then what you said about being a loyal friend is a total contradiction. However, in about a year from now in one of those once a month notes or cards explained to him that if he doesn't care enough about you to write or communicate then you need to move on with your life. Maybe that will spur him in one direction or another. If he cared about you, like, he says he does then I will hire me or I will go and do what they on a man and a is an and a day and a little here on my main he would or should be writing more. Take this into consideration, if you never were go help him send him books, magazines funds phone call or visit and he may need to focus his time on those who do, which is why he doesn't communicate much because of what you said about him losing his appeal. I don't think the above is the case, but I thought that I would show you that point of view. Anyway, in general, we are games of contact and communication. Most of the time, in some form or fashion, we all need that contact. If your friend doesn't correspond correctly within a year and I suggest that you move on with your life because you deserve better find someone who is worthy of you. They are out there.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Dear Cindy, You asked if prisoners ever get to the point where we no longer want outside communication. Actually, yes, after being incarcerated so long one goes through phases, where one just wants to be alone. You mentioned he just lost his appeal. That no doubt has probably brought on this bout of depression, as that's what it comes down to. He just need some time to get his marbles together. I've been through that phase where I just shut everyone out. Its same with some in the free world, at times, one just wants to disappear, or get caught up in other things. One kindof drifts off without realizing it. I have a friend that I've been writing for the past 14 years. We've also drifted off, but we always come back to each other. I've always gave her space, but she's always come back. One can't mistake appreciation for love because that can cause problems in the future. Being a loyal friend while he's incarcerated says a lot. Even being a pain in the ass may help him snap out of whatever slumber he's, I don't know what type of letters you write him, because if it's just nagging her telling him to do this and that,… it seems to me that you want something more, and at the same time, you don't. So even if you're a little confused how do you think he's going to be. I think you both need to make it clear what you both want and take it from there. A reality of it is that letters are a whole different reality than once you actually are in contact on a daily basis. I realized that while being housed in solitary confinement for eight years communicating through letters. Then when I finally did get out and was able to have visits and physical contact with this person. I saw another side of that person, I wasn't seeing before. So you might have to let him find his way first, let him get out of his system. If you really cares, he will be back. Also, you leaving and coming back can also have something to do with it. Maybe he's poured a lot into your relationship that when he realized it wasn't being reciprocated. So now he doesn't want to be disappointed again. I think the most important thing you can do though, is communicate your feelings. Just as you wrote them here, so you can clear the air. You don't want to leave anything hanging its best to do it now rather than later. This way, your friendship is not lost and there won't be any misunderstandings. So before you let him be or not, air out your concerns to him and he can take it from there. I hope I've answered your question as best I could do this in his essay. I hope everything works out. Sometimes we don't appreciate what we have until it's gone. I pushed someone away before and was never the same after that….

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Cindy. Yes, at times it gets rough or most prisoners shut down communication and one of the left feel sorry for themselves, however, that's like once every few years or so. Cindy I can't begin to say what might be going on with your penpal, but I can say that when the communication stack it's either a lack of understanding, fear or anger. Or maybe a loss of interest. I would suggest that you spice up up the communication. You can always reveal your feelings, and if he uses loyal as you he'll not only write more but he'll respond to what you're writing

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Who are you accused of killing?

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dear Meme, you ask whom I am accused of killing, I'm not accused of killing any I am accused of masterminding the killing of another person. But because of the laws of the state I'm in, I'm charged with the same crime as the person who did the killing. It sucks to be me! And here's an even a bigger problem, the person who did the killing got less time than I did! I'm on death row and he got life with parole after he serves 25 years. Fair? The justice system is far from being fair! They say Justice is blind, and I guess that why lady justice wears a blindfold, because justice is very blind

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

An innocent bystander,though I wasn't the trigger man, the law found me guilty. Ive exhausted all my appeal options for the most part. I never give up though cause life continues.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Meme, I am accused of killing a rival drug dealer.

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Raven, I am a friend to a woman that has been sentenced to life without the possibility of parole. She is accused of killing someone for insurance money. Who I am worring about is her sister. Her younger sister is greaving so hard I am worring about her. Her sister has been incarcerated for almost 2 years now and there isn\\\'t a day go by that we havent cried together about this. What kind of advice could I give to the sister to help her with this. Brandy

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Brandy,You need to tell your friend that crying isn't going to help her sister. She needs to suck up those tears. If she really wants to hear help her sister, then she needs to start working to help her. If her sister is innocent there are plans that could help her, like a group called friends of prison families, P.O. Box 127 Avondale Estates, GA 30002, and find out if they have groups in your area. She can contact prison ministries. I will try to get her addresses to some other organizations and get them posted on this site in the next two weeks or so. She also needs to show her sister a lot of love and support. Let her know her sister needs her more than ever. Maybe, if your friend starts to focus on her sister and what she can do to help her and she won't have time for so many tears . Good Luck

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Yes, two years, already having passed since she was incarcerated is a long time. But she's the one who needs to be strong. So she can be there to support her sister. Its not the end of the world there are appeals and habeas corpus relief. But are being distraught is not a help her sister. If that's what she wishes to do you can't change what already happened, plus without sounding cold her sister put herself there. It's a sad situation, but she needs to get over it and move ahead. She needs to stop feeling guilty for what her sister has done, one can’t blame themselves for the ill deeds of one's siblings. One chooses what is one's lifestyle, but it will get easier as time goes by. You Brandi just need to be there to make sure she doesn't go over the edge. I've been incarcerated since 1990, yet I still have my sense humor, I exercise to keep my body and mind fresh and sharp. I know it’d be wrong for me to say you need to give her a few good slaps, tell her to shake it off or something. Sometimes grieving is a good thing, it cleans the soul. She must never lose faith, though. People get reversals on their convictions all the time she needs to start looking for organizations that can help her sister as doing nothing while feeling helpless and sorry for oneself is doing nothing for her sister. Her sister is it least still there for her to see and visit, other people are not so lucky. She can't live her sister's life. She needs to live her own overall, though one can really do anything but give her advice and support in the hopes that she'll get over it soon

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About the poster: single mother of 1. cute!!! Question: I was with my baby's father for 10 years and he was in and out of jail and prison while we were together. While he was in, he would send me love letters and promises to marry me and all that stuff but then a month later after he gets out, he's back to being a playa;. Well, he's in prison now for murder but was only sentenced for 10 years (thank God!) but he's back on asking me to wait for him and talking about getting married when he gets out. He claims that he's turning his life around and the only thing that would make him happy is for us to be together. Should I consider waiting on him and give him another chance or is this the same old rap he's been singing before? Whudduya think?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear Micha, “ fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.” You should really think about that.For 10 years it was admirable that you stood by and supported your boyfriend while he was in and out of jail. However, once he got out, he said he became a player again. Does that mean he started cheating on you with other women? If so, and now that he's back in prison for murder and a 10 year sentence, you would have to be an idiot to put your life on hold and wait for a loser. However many times he was in and out of jail before. Obviously he was too stupid to learn from his mistakes and doesn't deserve you. You deserve better. Your child deserves parents who are more responsible. Life is way too short to put up with so much bullshit. How many chances do you need to get that asshole. Obviously he doesn't care about you or your child, or he wouldn't have been doing the same stupid SHIT that wound him back up in prison. Your so-called boyfriend is singingthat same old tired song, move on, find someone better, whom you deserve and let that ass will find some other sucker.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

I believe everyone deserves another chance, what really matters though is if you believe he deserves another chance. It is easy for one to say he\'s going to change while in prison, but a totally different thing once someone is free. I\'m not saying it can\'t happen or it won’t. Sometimes when you love someone, even though it hurts, you must set them free. So you can use your heart. Him being your child\'s father changes things a whole lot, because that contact will always be there. I\'m sure there\'s plenty of men, who wouldn\'t mind being your baby daddy (smile.) I\'m one of them. Just kidding, half love is strange, sometimes some girls like bad guys. So backing out once things are not going good is kind of messed up, If you knew how he was before you started being with him. Look, I don\'t want to sound like a broken record, but people show love differently and every guy always has that special girl in their life. Guys see girls in two different ways. One, who he can take home to mama and those who are Jewish useful for a night of some freaky Dickie. You can always just be friends with benefits, (smile). I allwas kid, my sister that she needs to marry some rich old man so she doesn\'t need to worry about $. Then still be able to her thing. Of course, I’m just kidding. All in all you need to dig deep and figure out how you want to approach that may be seeing his life flash before his eyes might have found finally woke him up. Whatever you decide though, I wish you good luck and much happiness.

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Single mother of one- let me give you some straight up serious advice. Get away from the old boy. He is just using you, can't you see that? He only talks about marriage when is locked up in his when this dude is on the street he is being a playa. Well if he couldn't respect you while he was in the street. This time, what makes you think he’ll respect you when he does hit the streets again. He won't prison is a lonely place, and he figures as long as he holds on to you, while he's down to it won't be so lonley. I bet you're sending good money and sh it and he sure doesn't want to let you go and he knows the only way to hold onto you is to start singing the same old rap that held you before. My advice shut that rap off and move on to a new singer. Someone who will respect you no matter where they are due, you know what kind of bird can\t sing. ( In this case rap) a jailbird ,let them go

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Micah, 10 years in and out of prison, feeding you fools gold. Come on sweets with all due respect to the fake ass game ,open your eyes and use your brain. Of course he's going to make you beautiful love letters and promised to marry you. Most of us in prison feed women at times.( For those who indulge) men the same old bull shit. Micah the reason guys and girls resort to such foul shit is because they can't and don't want, or don't know how to straighten up and say “Micah. You can be my friend, cos’ I'm in need of friendship through such rough times. I've learnt that if you be real. You get better results, cos’ the person you choose on their own free will, to help you make your stay in prison more tolerant. I will not tell you not to be there for him, but if you are going to support him. You better step your game up and force him to be real with you, if not you will be needing a lot of aspirin or worse on medication. Be smart, Micah. You hold all the cards he need and want your support don't forget there's a child happiness at stake as well.

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By: Timothy Baker

Micha is your baby's father is just trying to hang on to the only person who gave issued about him being alone in prison isn't nice. But you need to think about you and your son or daughter cut him loose. Find you a man who will be there for you. Take care of you and your child. This guy had his chance and he fucked it off by being a playa. Now even though you may cut him off. Don't take his kid away from him, if you feel he'll keep a respectable conversation and will not be trying to beg you back in every letter. Then write him only about your son or daughter, but if he can't respect your wish not to have a relationship with him then go through his family to keep him up to date on his kid. So my advice is move on with your life. He had his chance and he blew it

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Hey, I have a question... I went to school with this guy growing up we never talked during that time as he is a few years older than me. I found his myspace profile one day and saw that he has been locked up the past 4 yrs with one yr left to go. I really have no idea why I chose to write him since we didn't ever have a relatioship other than small town aqaintence but i did..Not something I have ever done. He was so excited to hear from me and writes me several times a week really long nice letters. Over the months he has claimed to have developed feeling for me. He never has asked me for anything but a letter and has his mom send pics of him to my house. he in for assualt charges and seems to be very intelligent and over the years spiritual as well. Can his feelings be real for me? Or am I just the only available romantic output for him during his stay? I realize it must get lonely and it's probably nice to be able to correspond with a female. He is always respectful and has never brought up the subject of sex. The next question has this ever happened to you or another fellow inmate? Do you know how any of the relationships went post incareration? The last question I have is if he still feels that way upon release the whole idea of "prison sex" weather he has done it or had it done to him or not. His first letter to me described all the bad things he has saw in there, rape, murder,and such. i never asked him these questions he brought it up he says that he is one of the lucky ones...He was tranferred last year to the prison mental health facilty. I guess i\'m just afraid to come straight out and ask him something so personal? I don\'t want to hurt his feeling or make him feel ashamed. The last this is if worst case scenario \"did happen\" do they keep HIV or HEP C populations segregated? as to not spread these infection to healthy inmates. He\'s a VERY buff white male 32, 5ft 10, about 230lbs would he be a likely candidate for rape? Could he be a likely candidate for doing it to someone else after almost five years? Is the fact that he never bring up sex in any letters a good sign he can go without during his stay? thanks for your time.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear Margie, about your school acquaintance: If he writes you several long letters per week never really asked you for anything, and I believe his feelings are real for you. It's an old cliché that we have nothing but time. Even though we are prisoners and locked behind bars, if he is a man of my stature, then he super busy with a lot to do each day. And there just isn't enough time per day to get everything accomplished. It takes a lot of time and thought and effort to write several long letters per week. I'm lucky if I can get one long letter written per week, because of all the things I do. (Even though they are somewhat limited from authorities). If he writes you several long letters per week, then he's focusing most of his time on you. A man willing to make all those other sacrifices just to spend all of his time on you, I truly believe he cares for you. You're not his only available romantic output for him during his stay in prison. There are many penpal places that he could get in contact with. Because he spends most of his time on you, it appears that he's not interested in finding other romantic outputs. Yes, this situation has happened to me, and has and does happen to other prisoners. With men I know, there is no post-incarceration or the ones I have known of that did get lucky and got out, I'm not in contact with, so I don't know how the relationships went. While on death row I have known a couple of acquaintances they got married. One is still on death row, but he has gotten divorced. Not his choice; and, the other got off of death row. He got life without parole, and has gotten divorced, even though he got life without parole, not his choice either .I have another friend who got off death row, but has life without parole. While on death row, he met a woman and got a long relationship. But once he got off death row, he and his girlfriend got married. There still there. Now about prison rape, sex, etc.. Personally, I have not seen that with my own eyes. However, I have only heard about some incidences of sex on death row. Generally, we are locked down 23 hours a day, so there's no rape. I have heard some stories about those down the hall in population. Anyway, self preservation. Do it in a non-insulting way, but you need to ask your friend if he's had prison sex. Better safe than sorry. However, if your friend says he's one of the lucky ones, then that means he hasn't been violated, so don't push it for now. Upon his release, have him tested, better safe than sorry. If he truly loves you, then that would be a small request. Make sure he knows that you have to protect yourself. Sure, there is a huge trust factor, he needs you to trust his word, but your health is more important than his pride. Explain it in a very nice way, how important this is to you, and he shouldn't have a big problem with it. Yes, they segregate HIV patients are not 100% sure about HEp-c There are two types of Hep –C, active and inactive. In active Hep-C patients are not always in segregation, supposedly they're just carriers of the virus and can’t transmit it to except through saliva, sex and dirty needles, nevertheless protect yourself. If your friend is a very buff, white male, 32, 5'10" and about 230 pounds and is not much of a candidate for rape. I'm 36 5’9” and 226 pounds of muscle and nobody fucks with the Wolverine! It's highly unlikely that your friend would do that to another guy, even after five years. I've been locked up almost 17 years and I've no interest whatsoever in another hard Dick Man! That's disgusting! In fact, I would do something violent to a man who touched me in a sexual manner. No amount of time would make me attracted to another man. The Wolverine is all about the ladies smile! If your friend is anything like me then you have nothing to worry about. Hmmmm. If your friend is in love with you, how could he not bring up the topic of sex. That is odd or unorthodox. However, possibly he has so much respect for you that he shied to approach the subject is sex maybe he is waiting on you to open that door, if anything, ask him why is never tried it converse about sex with you . If you want to know something. Just ask. You never know unless you ask, good luck..

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By: Gregory Gant

Margie, it is possible that your friend have feelings for you, a lot of times we are lonely and don't have anyone or anything to hold on to emotionally, but our past and then you asked about how any relationship went post incarceration, a lot of them turned out great. You just have to get to know the person you dealing with before making any commitments remember Q&A kitchen is the key. Margie. It is possible that he had been having sex on the inside rather than he was raped or was it a relationship with a Homo. Not everybody get into that. I've been locked up for 10 years and masturbate. Another man don't turn me on, an even if ever approached I really feel that I would never get out because I would kill that person who approached me. No, they don't keep HIV or hep C. inmates segregated unless they are in the last stages and can't care for themselves.

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Here Margie just looking for answers to prison life. Yours was a loaded question and I'll try to enter the best I can. First off, I see you have a real misconception of prisons. A lot of people watch documentary on prisons and take everything set as gospel truth a lot of it is either outdated fabricated or propaganda in degraded by those individuals who wish to make inmates the scourge of the earth. But at least you're taking the time to inquire about it I commend you for that. I myself have been imprisoned for 18 years, and I still like women. I've never felt the need to relieve myself any other way but with my hand, some dirty magazines or just my imagination. Once pornography was outlawed in California prisons (frown.) Sure I have a certain preference of women nice curvy bodies with a well-rounded button, long hair. Who knows maybe I like big butts, because of all the time I've been in prison. Just kidding, but seriously, though, I noticed from your question, you are an intelligent person. So what does your heart tell you? For you to ask those questions only tells me you have doubts about where to let your relationship go. Something just doesn't seem right to you Am I wrong? Sometimes, your instincts are not wrong. You\'re right about what you said about being his only romantic outlet. Receiving mail from someone is a very good feeling, especially one of the female species. You also seem to be a little disappointed that he has never brought up the subject is sex. That\'s probably why you\'re questioning if he’s into boys or something. You say he’s spiritual. Maybe he\'s a religious person and I know depending on who I\'m writing to, I write respectful letters. Especially someone who I just met. It also matters how your relationship was developed. I myself always waited for females to break the ice. Afraid of making her feel uncomfortable or thinking I was some kind of pervert because regardless of what I’ve become I\'m a gentleman and respectful of women. I was raised by my mother and she taught methose values. I have a girlfriend I’ve been writing for 14 years. I\'ve never asked her for anything, she visited me a few times, we kid around, dirty talk. And I never want to make her feel uncomfortable, or feel any pressure where we could continue to be so. She\'s come and gone (outside world obligations.) But she\'s always returned. So him doing that could be for those reasons. There is relationships that have worked once on the street with some readjustment by the inmate. One doesn\'t just click off once released. What got me through, it as you say he is in a mental hospital now. Do they segregate HIV inmates but not HIV?. But look if you want something more with this guy. You need to be able to ask those personal Questions. By this time there shouldn\'t be no barrier there. And if you\'re writing him out of pity, It\'s never to work . Holding back on, anything is not a good sign at this point. When I write to people, I let it be known that they can ask me anything . Now that doesn’t meen I’ll answer directly, because of censorship (legal reasons.) But I\'ll at least give you a reason. Yet not feel offended, you say he\'s in there for assault, and are you sure it wasn\'t a woman he was trying to assault, because they usually segregate child molesters rapists for their own safety from the general population inmates.Aand if he\'s seeing those things going on that he\'s is talking about them, then it\'s something to look out for your well-being, once he does get released. Every state is different. I\'ve never seen or heard about anyone getting raped in prison I\'ve been in. You might want to check to see if he some kind of predator. Especially being in a mental hospital as he can be the cat setting a mousetrap. That\'s just something to think about. I hope I was up some help.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Margie, first and adamantly I must say I salute you for searching out and initiating contact with one of the fallen.( smile.) It's not a rare act o receive a kind word from someone you grew up with or went to school with, nor is it uncommon for that kind of word to lead to a relationship cos’ that's often when you find out the goodness of a person or lack thereof. Yes, his feelings can be genuine, however, you must understand your own feelings first and then converse with him cos’ without honest communications. Any post-incarceration relationship will fail. So Margie talk with them cos’ if he is the intelligent and spiritual guy you say he is, he'll understand. For most guys the subject of sex is touchy. Not because of any insecurities, but for the reason they can't get it and to speak of such joy is torture. As for his sexuality that something you must ask him, especially if you plan to develop a post incarceration relationship with him. Real talk, a person age or race, religion doesn't necessarily make him candidate for rape. Most sexual predators imprisoned, prey on the weak, whether white black or Hispanic . Also might be the reason he told you he was one of the lucky ones. Serious talk; The mental health ward is the worst place a prisoner can be housed on. You gota be gone through some serious shit to be housed there, cos it is for individuals who is on medication playin’ with feces, on suicide watch etc., unless he's running a game which would mean he's in a league of his own. The only prisoners to segregate is the terminally ill, and those on protective custody. In closing, time in doesn't make you a candidate to indulge in homosexuality or rape. Once again, Margie. I advise you to speak honestly with him cos’ your feelings are at stake as well. Finally, I have reunited with old acquaintances and women friends. I have had 17 years in and I refuse to venture into homosexuality.

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I really dont have a question...i just wanted to say hi and keep your head up, pa!! muah!! this ur girl, baby gurl from myspace...

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I would like to write an inmate but I am not sure it is safe. What can i do to be sure they dont gett out and harrass me. Is there anything I should do to protect my self? Do I need to?

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Jackie married with three kids, before you start writing in me, you can usually check them out through a prism website that most persons have. Not all inmates are bad people give you much respect. My advice if you want to write an inmate and don't want to give your home address could appeal blogs to Safeway to do things where you could write me a promise I'm not crazy or into stocking if you want to write me you can ask Warden Jon who runs this site for my address and he will give it to you.

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So,you'd like to write an inmate, but you're not sure it's safe. Well I for one would not give you those worries. So if you're interested, don't be shy about dropping in (smile). Seriously though, to get to your question, if you really are interested and want to avoid unwanted attention get yourself a P.O. Box and use an alias. Of course at all depends on what level you're trying to do this. You have someone in mind or are you looking for someone in particular? I'm assuming you're not looking for a relationship since you're married already. I know one thing, receiving mail makes a big difference. Ones day is made by just a few simple words. Oof course, you do need to find someone who is not some 51/50 (it's a term we use for people who are not all there were some rapist. ) You can easily do a background check on any inmate you wish to write. You can usually tell by the first letter whether this guy is not some weirdo but you do need to protect yourself at all times. Its until, you build a confident relationship, you can open up and provide more personal information. Not all inmates are bad, though, and they just happen to choose a different lifestyle than you and have had bad luck by being caught (smile )don't be discouraged. If you're interested in reaching out to someone in prison. You might be the difference whether he or she succeeds. Life is short and sometimes one finds the most pleasant things from the most unlikely places you just need to take that first step

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By: Timothy Baker

Jackie , Alot of people misunderstand Inmates, and I believe this misunderstanding is the cause of your fear.. I heard about the Inmate who got out and killed his pen pal. Hell everyone did.. They splashed it all over the news. But when some guy kills his wife for leaving him they kick that back to page two in the paper. Look at all those movie stars who got people stalking them. It’s not “oh I should fear Inmates” It’s I should be cautious about all the new people I meet. People who get obsessed, stalk, harass or whatever are not born in prison… It’s an imbalance inside them and I have read more about “freeworld “people stalking, harassing and killing people they know, 1000% more, than with inmates. With free world people it is old news, with inmates its blown up, put on the front page. There are some things you can do to stop any misunderstanding with a pen pal you may write… First tell him you are only looking for a pen pal .. Tell him you are married, and you have no thoughts, Ideas or desires for any extra marital affairs. YOU MUST STAY WITH WHAT YOU SAY!!!. Inmates are very lonely and if you play games with their emotions it can cause trouble. So stay with in the lines you set down.. An inmate may try to test you, start flirting or whatever.. Either stop writing or warn him one time. If he pushes again stop all correspondence and as with anyone you meet , be cautious, If he says or does things you don’t like… Tell him, ”you are not the kind of person I want to write”, and find someone else.. A lot of free world people and Inmates are full of games. You must judge them all the same. I have a pen pal, {smile} If I had to swear on a Bible this is what I know about them… They are a person. (I’ve never been told if theyre male or female) They teach at some level I don’t know where they teach. They play cello, they went to college and got a criminal law degree but didn’t like it and started teaching. They live in Maine… All I know them by is Ramsy. I don’t know if that’s a first name, last name or what… I write a PO Box. They are very knowledgeable about poetry… That’s all I can say for sure. I have been writing this person for 2 ½ tears and they have taught me more and been a better friend to me than all the people I have known in my life!!! Now Jackie if you can’t get passed your fear about an inmate getting out and harassing you then you could always write a lifer or someone with a lot of time…shoot by the time some of us get out we’ll be lucky if we get food stamps let alone worry about trying to find an old pen pal… We are people just like you, we need friend ship and human contact just like everyone else. Don’t let a misunderstanding stop you from finding a friend in prison

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By: Gregory Gant

Hi Jackie. This is breeze on the convict that love meeting new people. I refer people to ask a convict.com penpal service. I would never refer a pervert a rapist or anything like that to our site. Everybody is different, believe it or not, you are around more unsafe people out there. There really is some good guys in here that\'s looking for a friend or someone to talk to. With the computer you can find out about almost anyone, so don\'t let that stop you, no one can track you down with the P.O. Box

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Jackie, You could choose an individual with so much time that by the time their release date arrives harassing anyone wouldn\\\'t be an option. Or you can purchase yourself a PO Box so that your home address can be protected until you think he/ she has earned your trust to have your address, phone number, etc. Remember trust is earned by all of us. Prisoner and free man/free woman alike. P.S. Mistrust is our biggest enemy.

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By: Andre Lewis

Response 2 Jackie.....Jackie;I know u\'ve probably heard negative things about inmates.But 1 thing i know 4 certain,there r alot of good,intelligent,& loving people guys n prison.U just have 2 b able 2 decipher who has good intentions & bad ones.If u really want 2 write sum1,i reccomend dat u write no more than 1 person unless u choose 2 write more.Study their profile.Women r a good judge of character.Do a criminal babkground check.Ree if they have any history of women abuse.Once u have established contact wit dem,Explain why you are writing & what you expect from da correspondence.It should b nn confusion n what you want. Don\'t b afraid to ask personal questions.If they try to avoid da question, or you feel like they are lying end da correspondance in a nice way. If u don\'t feel comfrontable wit giving out your address get a P.O box. If a person is not discussing sumthing positive, beneficial, etc,etc, then you are wasting your time. If you want 2 keep contact once they get out,find some one with five years or less so you\'ll have some time to get to know them....Theses are just a few things to consider when writing an inmate to help avoid any harassment. Any other concerns you have about dis matter please contact me.DRE.

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Rocky, it seems as though you really have changed. Yes, we've met, and your words now seem so sincere, and they don't match your words then. What is it, or was it, that helped you to grow and change tremendously? Because you used to be a real piece of work.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

First of all Cinderella thank you for your modesty, because I was an arrogant jerk and your epitaph was very classy. Now to your question. My change and different outlook on life is due to life and death. It took for me to lose people who are dear to me, for me for my armor to be dented. However, it was a curiosity and innocence of my young niece Tasha to shatter that armor and force me to understand that I am worth more than what I was settling for. As I respond to this question I smile as I never thought that I'd be anything more than I was in prison.(A prisoner). Being a prisoner didn't make it any easier. However, when a child speaks from the heart the toughest of us listen. Better yet, we do what must be done to correct the problem.

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how do you feel about rats/snitches who inform on their co-defendants?

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Miss Cindy asked how one feels about snitches and rats retells on their codefendants. Ya, I completely am against it. I feel they are the lowest form of humanity. Reason being is that one chose that lifestyle, and once things don\'t go your way and situation turns dire, one is willing to throw people who they considered friends at one time under the bus without a second thought. I\'m in that situation, and even though I\'m sure every inmate says it. I didn\'t even do nothing, but I was unwilling to bury my codefendant. So here I am 18 years later, but I\'m not bitter though, because I’d done it again. If I can\'t get out right away, Then I guess I\'m here to stay. I actually just passed up my get out of jail free card. Probably, but it would be wrong to do something like that and bitch and gripe about it being done to me. People would say I\'m living in the past. It is no longer like that, maybe is true, but that\'s how I feel about that. There is nothing wrong with someone changing your lifestyle, but done in a way where someone else is not hurt.

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By: Gregory Gant

I feel that rats and snitchesare the scum of the earth. If they will tell on they co-defendants they will tell on they mother. A rat has never been any good to the human race. If you cant do the time don\'t do the crime.

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Cindy, A rat or snitch is the low part of inmates. I myself don\'t like rats. They will turn on their own mother. The cops use rats for info. Then when done with them, they throw them back to the dogs so in the end rats always gets what\'s coming to them. I have been ratted on before, he is. It\'s the worst feeling you feel like you should be able to trust a con. Now they have a new saying that says it down first. Two dudes get busted by the cops and they roll to see who rats first.

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Cindy, I can't stand a rat or a snitch! I'm here because of a rat that lied on me. My codefendant. Rats and snitches are the lowest of the low form of life. I hope my codefendant is use someone's Do it boy, and they are screwing him just like he screwed me, in the ass with no kiss first and no lube.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Cindy, I feel as though people who rat/ snitch out their codefendant should be ostracized and sent to a Russian gulags. Cindy, a person who sell out a friend or co-D. is the worst type of person there is, of course, this is what I believe. In every society, group, Click or walk of life you have a code of honor, that one must follow. From the blue code (cops) Pink Hats Society to Wall Street. But it\\\'s those of us who populate the underworld, who don\\\'t enforce the code of honor by still accepting rats and snitches. Shoot me. I might forgive you .Cheat on me, I can forgive you. Rat me out a system I will never ever forgive you. Rats aren\\\'t to be fed, unless you\\\'re feeding them rat poison. Hell Martha Stewart didn\\\'t tell.

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By: Timothy Baker

You know, a lot of people feel informing on someone who\\\'s done a crime, whether you were part of it or not, is the right thing to do. But in actuality, if you look at it pitches informers and tattletales are destroying the fabric that binds our society together. The trust and security has been taken from us and not just crimes, but anything someone may want to know, buying stitching is a dirty business, and the feeling of brotherhood we had with our fellow man is being destroyed for greed or comfort is got to the point. You can\\\'t trust your own family, friends etc. to keep a secret. But as far as a codefendant snitching as my friend once told me. The only trustworthy codefendant is a dead one. If you\\\'ve got a partner in crime, and you get caught. 90% of the time someone rat\\\'s. That\\\'s just how it is.

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I am in the process of interviewing and iI'd like to know what kind of questions do you ask a convict in order for them to fully understand transformation is important to growth.

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By: Gregory Gant

Dear Yamira, what can be done to help you leave the life of crime alone and get a legal job? What mean the most to you, your family or the life of a prisoner do you know that you don't only hurt yourself? Look at the strain that's put on family and loved ones. Is that the only thing you want out of life is three meals and a bunk.

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Dear e-mail unknown, what do you really want out of life? Do you love yourself? Do you love your family? What's in your heart? Peace, or drama? Do you want a home and family? Are you tired of someone telling you when to eat and sleep? Are you ready to really live a clean life?

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

First-I'd ask, where do you see yourself in 18 months? Positive response: how do you expect to get there? Negative response: what can be done to alter that result? Name what you felt in prison? Did you enjoy the feeling how can you help me avoid prison. What are your first, man/woman or prisonercriminal? If you're a man or a woman before you are a criminal and a prisoner. Why become a prisoner when you must forfeit a lot of your rights as a man or woman? If you can create a *shortlist* what would it consist of? What is it that you actually want out of life? Why? If there was no crime. What would you do? If you could become successful without crime. Would you do so? What is your definition of success? *shortlist= three things that would make you resort to crime*

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By: Timothy Baker

Dear Yamira, what kinds of questions, should you ask a convict in order for them to fully understand transformation important to grow. It's not so much of asking them questions are getting them to transform everyone knows that drugs partying in criminal activity ain't gonna lead to a bed of roses. They know they need to change in order to succeed in life as a law-abiding citizen. The best way to get a convict transform is to get him in a position, "job" wise, where he can feel it's better than trying to do the criminal way. This only applies to convicts who sell dope, rob, steal, or scam to get money. But for people who fight, murder, party, do drugs and end up in prison. They have to find the will to want to change. Nothing you can say, ask ,or teach someone who just wants to party run the streets will change that. In our culture, the poor of struggle for identity and our kids are finding it in gangs fighting in being a "gangster". It's all they want. That's more important than succeeding in society. Hell for some, prison is a notch on the gangster resume for them, you have to give them an identity. Everyone wants to be part of something. Humans are herd like, in their need for companionship. For any questions you need to find out what type of person you're dealing with. Are they criminals trying to make money to live etc., or are they just pothead drug users etc. or are they part of the culture of people who find gangs, fighting, crime against an identity? You have to ask and make each see different stuff for the dope heads partiers etc. ask them where it leads them, what is done to their life how it has hurt their family. For the career criminal, asked them what it's brought them. Have they had a better life is a crook rather than working for the right way. It is the one of the gangsters asked them what the life has brought them where they will end up. But for all these you have to show them that doing right, working, transformation is better than what they are doing now. That is the key, no one will change if they feel, what they are doing is right for them not to show them that their old life isn't as good as a new life can be. If you can do that then you can change people.

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What is it like to kill another person?

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear Antoria, what is it like to kill someone? Come on now, what he planning on killing someone?! Well, to answer your question from research in a pure theoretical point of view. It depends on the situation. If you're in an abuse relationship and you're scared for your life and you kill the abuser. Then you will feel relief. If someone harasses you with nitpicking Peddie asked stupid little rules for years and you will fill gratification for killing off pieces shipped! If you're driving down the road or whatever and accidentally kill someone, and you feel, grief, sorrow, regret and sadness. If you're paid assassin, You feel the whole spectrum of emotions from sad to happy. Like I said, it just depends on the situation.

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By: Andre Lewis

I will never admit that I have killed someone, but I will give you a short true account of what it is like. It is quite an experience, a memory that you will never be able to erase no matter how hard you try. You can suppress the memory, but it will always be right on the edge of your thoughts ready to spill out. The experience is mind blowing. It could be good or bad depending on what type of mood you are in. It could be as easy as blinking your eyes, or as hard as winning 1 million dollars. Depending on the person, once you do it for the first time it becomes an ordinary thing. You have the power to take someone\\\\\\\'s life, you have the power to decide if a person lives or dies. It is an experience you would only know if you killed someone. It is like an adrenaline rush from a drug that is pure and uncut. And the most exciting thing about the experience, is watching the person\\\\\\\'s eyes cloud and the life leave their body. But once it\\\\\\\'s over in the rush is gone and you think about it and ask yourself, Was it worth it or not, but for those who like the rush. They will probably kill again.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

You ask what it\'s like to kill another person. It\'s nothing to brag about, nor gratifying, unless you\'re just a cold-blooded person or some type of serial killer. It takes an emotional toll. Because not only did you destroy another person\'s life, but his families as well. Don\'t listen to the hype on T.V. , in the movies, video games and books. Different people react to it differently after many years. It really makes you think that it\'s really not all that. You aren\'t one of those people, one hears about on the news all the time are you? Who are planning to go out with a bang. Washington has prisons for that! you be good! I\'m glad this site fascinates you, as you fascinate me to. I always had a thing for redheads. Then again, I\'ve had a thing for women in general,( smile )is that bad? Don\'t be shy about writing in with more questions you might not like what you hear from me. But you get the real from me. After so many years your outlook changes a lot of things

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By: Gregory Gant

Dear Antoria, hi you divorced redhead, you. You see the site fascinates you huh? I really hope murder doesn\'t. Antoria, I\'ve never murdered anyone myself shot a few yes, but no one died. But upon receiving a letter. I asked around and this is what I come up with. Some say the rush was like no high they ever had. Some are sorry that it happened and still have nightmares from the some say they didn\'t fill anything. I hope I didn\'t disappoint you. Please keep the questions coming in,

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I would know what it\'s like to kill another person because I\'ve never killed anyone hell. I don\'t even like kill a bug, much less a person. I believe it takes a coldhearted person to kill another person, unless someone kills to protect themselves. And that\'s a different story altogether.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Antoria, truthfully, and sadly Antoria, Most of us kill without ever feeling any type of emotion. I guess is the reason why one may had to kill. No one should ever think about how feel to take another\'s life. The thought alone is enough to tell you how you feel and if that\'s not powerful enough on to the thought of killing yourself. Not so cool. Antoria, I have answered question to the best of my ability, hopefully I have simmered down your darkness.

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By: Timothy Baker

Dear bloody Mary, I was in a situation where I thought I was about to get hurt really bad,. And I stabbed the guy a few times.. He lost the kidney and some of his stomach. But I never killed anyone. But this is close, and I never felt anything but anger and fear. And when it was over. It was just a memory that I have. Killing someone is not something I want to do or think about, but just for you. I\'ve asked the opinion of three convicted murderers and one guard who was a Marine sniper in the first Iraq war. The three murders all say it doesn\'t feel like anything. At the time adrenaline is pumping, anger and fear and hate his running through their veins. A once it\'s over their only worried was getting caught. One guy said he waited and worried for three years and once they caught him. He was relieved, he said it was like a weight being lifted off his chest. A Marine sniper says he drinks a half a bottle of whiskey so that when he goes to sleep he doesn\'t see the faces of the men he had killed. I would say how it feels to kill someone depends on the situation in your psyche, and who you are, some people feel nothing. Some can\'t deal with it, and some deal with it like any other action they may regret, forget it.

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My boyfriend of 10 months just got out of prison, he was down for 6 years. Anyway, he shows no emotion and being a women, I show plenty of it and I expect at least a little out of him. How can I tell if he cares about me? He says he loves me and buys me material things but when he messes up he says he's sorry and buys me something, its really nice of him but he shows me nothing of meaning to me. How do I deal with him?

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By: Timothy Baker

Dear hugs and kisses, I'd better say,my answer may be biased :) since your boyfriends and ex-convict. I feel obligated to help him out! His lack of showing a motion could be from his childhood. A lot of people who grow up in a taped the people they are raised by or were abused. It could be a number of reasons, and in prison for six years didn't help none sense and here it is always best not to show emotion except anger : ) he may be showing emotion, and you just haven't recognized that it is what it is. 10 months is a rather short time to learn someone's ways, and habits. All people are different in Maine not be able to show the kind of emotion that you want, but that does not mean he does not care. So it comes down to, do you. care enough to find out if he cares! How much of your life, are you willing to give up? You don\'t say how old you are. But listen, don\'t think about changing him because you may not be able to do that, get to know him, his habits, his ways, and in time if he cares. You\'ll find the ways that he shows it? For now, just except him for who he is, if he means that much to you.

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By: Andre Lewis

To the female in Seattle Being that I have been in and out of prison and have been in relationships, I can relate to your boyfriend, and also, how you feel. One thing you must understand prison stagnates a person. Prison robs you of the true experience of life and also robs you of your emotions. It is not that your boyfriend doesn't care about you, he may still be in that institutionalized state of mind. And it\'s hard for him to come out of it. In prison, depending on the prison, you can\'t show any emotions. Guys will take you as weak, which will cause you a lot of problems. Six years in prison does a lot to an individual. Some people don\'t have anyone they can sit down and express themselves to. So they bought all those emotions up sometimes makes a person a motionless. In prison, you have no one to show real love to. For example, our way of showing respect and love to a close friend or homeboy in prison is giving them something this materialistic. Which in your case he\\\\\\\'s giving you things to show you he cares what you need to do is find a time when your boyfriend seems to be at peace. I think a good time would be after a good night of sex. Start off by asking him how he really feels about you. You take the first step and open up them know you appreciate the material things he buys you is not all about what he can do for you but them know you\\\\\\\'re worried about his emotional state, and you want to talk about it. Don\\\\\\\'t press him. Let them open up at his own pace. Let them know you rather have his love and to be more emotional. Instead of him getting new material things. Over time if he doesn\\\\\\\'t change. It might be best to move on. Because his caged emotions could have an effect on your emotions which could leave you in a state of despair.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

Dear, I live in Seattle. Well, lady. Men are wired differently than women; therefore, we express ourselves in different ways. Technically, were all different and unique individuals. Sure, we all share some of the same traits, habits, mannerisms, etc. but in the end we're all different individuals, so we express ourselves differently. Since your boyfriend was in prison, I can understand why he doesn\'t show much emotion -- prison makes you jaded, because you\'re under siege by idiots. You can\'t expect your boyfriend to show emotion; that means you\'re trying to change him. When you\'re expecting him to do something. Honestly, we can\'t change other people. They change on their own. Sure, we can give advice or open their eyes to a different point of view, but we can\'t change them. If that cat says he loves you and buys you material things, why can\'t you be happy with that? That\'s a lot more than a lot a men will give you. What is \" meaning \"to you? When your boyfriend fucks up, you said, he says he\'s sorry and buys you something, but that he doesn\'t show you anything of \"meaning\". What would be meaningful to you? Have you tried setting him down, looking him in the eye, and telling him what is meaningful to you? It sounds like you\'ll have a lack of communication. If you respected him, you wouldn\'t be trying to change him, and, if he respected you he would try to accommodate you. A relationship is about compromise. Each person has to give 100%. Is he loyal? Is he responsible? Why is so focused on one aspect of his character . If showing no emotion is his worst flaw, believe me, with other men, you could do a lot worse!

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

it's funny you should ask that question because I went through something similar myself recently, she felt that I wasn't showing enough emotion and caring towards her. That doesn't mean he doesn't care or doesn't love you. It's just people have different ways of showing caring and love. First there should be a trust and understanding between the both of you. Prison does desensitize a person somewhat after so many years having to put up a different face, Not looking soft. It\'s going to take a bit, as he readjusts to society,. As he gets more comfortable he’ll begin to open up more. I know one time after doing four and half years I was afraid just to walk down the street. I have seen some guys get disappointed as well, having invested their hearts to a relationship and not have it worked out. Maybe he\'s afraid to really show commitment, no matter the lack of a motion he may show ,underneath there is feelings. After all, we are all humans, buying you gifts is his way of saying he loves you. Because if he didn\'t care, he wouldn\'t even do that, much less say sorry. At least he\'s trying so he should get an “a” for effort. As to how to deal with him, you need to be patient, let him open up gradually. You don\'t want to force him, as he\'s dealt with correction officers trying to control him, and that\'s the last thing he needs. Sit down with him and have a long talk and let him know how you feel. It could be he doesn\'t realize he\'s doing something that hurts you. You do have to communicate though to get both your feelings out there. Take what he\'s doing as trivial as it may seem to you as a sign he does care.

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By: Gregory Gant

Dear I live in Seattle, that's not uncommon for a man to be out of touch with his emotions. Prison life do that to you. Only the strong survive in here and showing your emotions is showing a sign of weakness. I can see that you care a lot for your boyfriend. Don't give up on him. He'll come around

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Boy friend has been imprisoned for six years, how do you tell if he really loves you? First of all in prison are feelings are looked at by other inmates as a weakness. So we learned to guard our feelings from others Feelings touching and talking openly is something a convict has to relearn so the point being. How much do you yourself love this guy? If you deem him to be worth it, then you must be very caring. If he truly loves you, he will be willing to learn to live in the outside world where the rules are not the same as it was on the inside. Patience being the key word. If you love someone, you must have the patience of Job. (in the bible). But on the other hand if the dude is dodging you out, leave his punk ass and start a new. I wish things work out for you both. keep me posted.

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First off money can't or shouldn't be able to buy love, and you need to tell your boyfriend this. Maybe he is confused as to what love is. When someone is locked up usually all emotions are put on lock down. Explain to him how you are feeling being honest is the best way to handle the situations. Then see what his reaction is. After that, he still doesn't get it and maybe you need to cut things. Sometimes, when he set something free, that's when they'll get their shit together, and that they'll come back. If not, then you know it wasn't really meant to be.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Emotionless in Seattle, your boyfriend may be emotionally drained from his prison experience cos the psychological and emotional factor of a prison stint is often overlooked. However, bear with him, especially if the showing you that he care about you. And life we may get shown one thing, when what\'s being said is totally contrary. So if your boyfriend show that he love you, doesn\'t that mean more than words? Deal with him by being a strong woman; the woman he needs and wants understand him and do everything you can to keep him out of prison and safe.

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I want to learn about how prisons are rehabilitating inmates to hopefully not become repeat offenders and adapt to life after prison (in cases where one is being released). I wanted to know how you feel the "system" is doing on such matters, whether it's great, ok, nonexistent, or anything in between. I really appreciate your feedback and would love to talk more with you, as this is something I hope to do research on and hopefully one day improve upon. Thank you!

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By: Andre Lewis

Adriana, I wish it was more people like you, who would like to help improve the prison situation and rehabilitation methods for prisoners. It is sad to say that you are one of the few who is interested and want to help. I have been coming to prison long enough to have witnessed the change within the system. At one point in time, prisons were the interested in the rehabilitation of an inmate. There was a time when prisoners had different self-help programs, school programs, outreach programs, etc. all of that is changed. Now, the only thing we have is a few schooling programs. The prison system in the United States have become a multimillion dollar industry! To put it more simply, modern-day slavery, where money used to be put into the rehabilitation programs for inmates and prisons and those reentering society. It is now being used to build more prisons. In the last five years, North Carolina has built for new prisons for close custody inmates. They're spent uncountable money to push for harsher sentencing guidelines to make sentences longer has the system no longer an inmate stays in prison, the more money they make a habit in our building. More industries within the prisons that makes certain items and work inmates for long hours with little or no pay a job in society that would pay at least minimum wage an inmate works a job for eight to 10 hours, five days a week for $.40 to a dollar a day, while the prison system makes hundreds of thousands, maybe millions every year. In North Carolina and a few other states if an inmate gets a write up for disciplinary action. The state takes $10 from this inmate's account. So if an inmate receives three write ups, and his family sends $30 the state takes all of the money. They use the money for office parties and the states needs, instead of investing the money on programs. They cut the existing programs and use the money to fix prisons to make them better.

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

Where to begin, that is a loaded question, California Department of Corrections and rehabilitation. The latter word was added in 2005 if this emphasizes the changing attitudes in Sacramento . It has come along way since I first came to the system in August 1991. Before all education vocation opportunities were only available to lower security yards. (Level 4 180 designs) were basically warehousing institutions. That was considered the worst and more dangerous prisoners who they couldn't just place at S.H.U. programs. Because regardless of the situation, though one can better themselves by one's own ends by setting aside time in ones day to study certain subjects of interest, instead of watching TV. I think the first thing one must do, is to not go live back in area one left. If one wants to succeed one and find an unfamiliar area, where it will take a while to adjust able to concentrate on things one needs to do. I have a brother who was on parole for three years. When he first got out he did have to get his hommie days out of his system. I would like to think my letters giving him advice also helped. One does need a support network, who doesn\'t allow you to fall into old habits. But there is a program, one can join to help better one self. But when all is said and done, he has to want to succeed. One doesn\'t just turn on and off old habits it does take time. One does need to create opportunities for people incarcerated since those same people will be getting out into society. And you don\'t want them angry at society who they feel rejected them.

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By: Gregory Gant

Dear Adriana, In cases where one is being released from prison. It's not much that the system is doing for anyone. That is one of our biggest reasons we have repeated offenders. They give us vocational training. But what good is it when they open up the gate and you don't have a dollar or a place to lay your head. Go look for a job. Okay, I can understand that coming from someone with a home and a bank account. But someone coming home from prison with nothing but a dream, and nothing to eat, have no choice but to get back to what he know best from the life of crime. I really appreciate you writting in your concern and hope that you can improve upon them. You sound like a very interesting person, I can\\\'t wait to talk more with you about your questions and concerns.

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Adriana In California prisons there is no such thing as rehabilitating. Its where they warehouse us and that's that. Now not to say they don\'t have programs to better oneself. But you must do that on your own. Most of the trade classes are outdated, and only so many people can fit in each class. In California we have self-help groups, and I myself learn a lot about why I did the crime in the first place. I am now doing a self-help group called life without crime. What a lot of people don't understand his crime is for most of us a way of life. I am trying to break that chain. The system is broken, but one should not lose hope, for if one works hard, learn new ways to live, it can work. I look forward to your question. No one is a lost cause. We are dealing with human beings. I shall close on that note.

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Adriana, you want to know about rehabilitating inmates in prison? Adriana, no prison in America is a place about rehabilitation. It is those living in the prison who must rehabilitate themselves. What would rehabilitation matter if you are burdened with the sentence either letters or numbers beyond the average human lifespan? To answer this question yes, everything concerning us matters. Life is a journey. It is my belief that all things happen for a reason. You may perceive this is an obvious statement, considering the law of cause and effect. But if you look carefully and analyze our past and present experiences. You may see a more significant reason other than just the law of cause and effect I'm talking about a more significant reason governs the law of cause and I'm convinced that our walk through life on Earth, coincides spiritual journey for the tangible things of this world are insufficient in Philly. That common void in the human race. We are restrained by mental and spiritual chains and confinement in walls that are within walls is my evidence of hell hell on her as many call it even friends. We thought were friends status each day, the low self-esteem of many among us is lower than in shallow as viewed by eyes of surrender dreams for those who have many are just that dreams prison can fill a prisoner's life. Feelings of despair hopelessness and loneliness and often one's will to live diminish his utterly breaking one's spirit. I believe the overall purpose of prisons is to reduce inmates to mindless creatures whose behavior can be predicted and controlled absolutely. There is no rehabilitation in prison rehabilitation has to come from within oneself. .

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Adriana, the current system is failing society as a whole. The only people that are satisfied with the status quo are those who prosper off a lack of rehabilitation. Check out the book "The perpetual prison," Joel Drye. However, we as men and women must be honest with ourselves and deal with the demons that ails us before we blame the system. Adriana. I have been in prison for 16 years and I can truthfully say that regardless of how many problems I can point out, rehabilitation must start with self. So I believe, the first step will be promoting awareness so society can understand why America has the largest prison population in the world. Here\'s a few more books to check out: Prison Profiteers – Paul writes, and Tara Hernal; Prison Nation the warehousing of America's poor- Tara Herixgland ,Paul Wright; The ceiling of America- Daniel Burton; Criminal Injustice confronting the prison crisis-Eliha Rosenblatt; And Crime and Punishment in America-Elliott Currie, just to name a few. All in all, this system sucks! I would enjoy the talk more with you on this matter, cos it does require our immediate attention. Crime punishment and rehabilitation affects everybody.

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By: Timothy Baker

Dear Doctor, There are two main correctional philosophies practice. Number one is punishment. That's where the prison system is ran in a way that punishes the offender and number two rehabilitation, where the system tries to rehabilitate the offender. Right now in American prisons, 90% of it is punishment.I have a book college textbook called corrections in America .this is what was being taught to people and criminal justice classes. It gives data on what works and what doesn't in every aspect of prison life and beyond release. And Texas anyway, doesn't follow even 20% of it. Sure, they give classes that have no real value. For example by first time in prison, I took a six-month plumbing trade and got her certificate to be a plumber\'s helper but when I got out no plumbing company would hire me because they mostly work in people\'s homes and their insurance wouldn\'t cover the ex-convict worker. In my opinion, it\'s almost impossible to rehabilitate offenders in the system as it is ran today. Think of prison is a sink, and the water flowing into the sink as offenders. before you can fix it. You got to shut off the water is the sink is overflowing. So you want to help shut the water off work with the kids in the ghettos, the abuse, the neglected, the runaways, the drug addicts, these lost and confused kids are the ones who will fill our prisons tomorrow. Shut the water off and you will fix the problem. Our culture is all fucked up. So I don\'t envy the person who takes on the job. I could go on and on, but this tells how I feel if you need to know more, drop me a line.

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Are there Gangs In Prision? Is it better to Join a gang for protection or go at it alone

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By: Timothy Baker

Texas has so many gangs it's not funny. They lock up all the leaders and most of the big gangs in segregation. Unless you're on medium custody or close custody. You don't really have to do anything. But on medium custody and close custody. You may not join a gang, but she will be part of a group. Prison is really racial blacks, whites and Mexicans! They all stick together, if the race riot breaks out, you better be with your race or hide in the cell. Texas is getting better only because they are restricting our movement, segregation. You are in your cell 23 hours a day close custody you are an in your cell 22 hours a day. Medium custody, you are in your cell 20 hours a day. Only on medium custody, do you get to go around work school recreation watch TV etc. if you can make it on your own. It's better to do your own time.

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Do people still get raped in Prison?

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By: Faustino Gomez H000433

I guess you could say it depends on what state you end up in Here in Californians it\'sreally no longer acceptable behavior amongst inmates. Especially in level 4 prisons, Californias prison system is a complicated system of level 1, level 2, and level 3 institutions. The worst the crime the longer the sentance. depending on the crime and term the higher the security you will end up in. I can honestly say that all the time of been in custody, I\'ve never been an institution where that has happened. I\'ve heard of it happening of course depending on what you term as Ray. To me it\'s when you force someone against their will. I have spent time in California youth Authority. When I was younger, it happen there, but people seem to get their perception of how prison is from the movies who glorify the stereotypes or exploit the bad aspects of certain situations. When the reality inside is much different. People fall victim to do their mannerisms, because by nature there will always be predators and prey on the weak. So that can also be considered a form of rape. It doesn\'t always have to entail a sexual thing, but flat-out gang attacks to rape someone does not occur anymore. Those days are from a bygone era. The way institutions are built nowadays, they have almost made it impossible. You are in constant visual observation. that speaking of level 4, of course. The ones and twos are dorms of situations and may be different. They also have a different custody of yards, since it needs protective custody and general population yards. The first two have different standards of conduct. So I couldn\'t speak about that, other than you\'d more likely find these types of people there. Inmates\' conduct in general population is more civilized now. It\'s more unlikely than likely that it would happenon now.

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Yes they do every day! Sex is the number 2 thought of a inmate after safty. There is a term used in prisons called turned out. If in fact a man or a woman is raped does not make them gay. Its what they do after the rape. If you are a pure men you will stay a pure man. If on the other hand your weak then you will be turned out. There are many ways to become a victom of rape. Rape by force or rape by drugs. So in prison you have to always stay on watch. If your prey, the dogs will be able to smell your fear. If someone touches you in the wrong way, hit him or her hard. Rather get your ass kicked than be prey.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Yes. As barbaric as it sounds prison rape is down. Sure you still have sex predators sniffing out the weak but A.H.B. (asshole bandits) are looked at as the lowest form of convict and so often estrainged. Its not like how Oz or Prison Break depicts it. Majority of those in prison aren’t into Man to Man sex acts. And those who are whether by choce or by force are the minority and they are kept out of the daily activities.

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By: Timothy Baker

Yes you can walk a man up, but you can\'t stop his sex drive without some kind of medicine. That is, as long as there are prisons people will be raped. Most of the rapes are not beat down forced rapes. New people, especially young ones are scared. They have heard so many rumors, heard so many horror stories that by the time they get to a cell, they are ready to drop their pants so they won\'t get hurt. When all they had to do is show some backbone and stand up for themselves. And they would be okay for a gay man. They really have no choice. The only way they won\'t get raped or forced into a relationship is to find a man to look out for them.

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My son is 39 years old who has been living at home since collage. He played football as an offensive line man at central Washington university. After his football career he has hardly done anything. He has gained a large amount of weight .. He works at a local tavern and sleeps all day. I love him very much but last week I walked in on him and caught him wearing one of my dresses .What should I do.

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By: Timothy Baker

You could always call in Sally! LAMO. This is a college kid. There\'s not much you can do if it is what he wants to do. The first thing is to find out how deep this is, If it\'s something new, discuss his feelings. Find out why he did this, showing him it\'s something not normal or whatever your opinion about it is. Don\'t embarrass him or make him feel bad. People, close up when that happens. As long as he\'s willing to discuss it you have a chance of helping. But this is something old and may be harder because he\'s been hiding it for a while. You still should try to talk to him about this. If need be get him into a counseling session with the psych doctor. Don\'t yell scream or talk bad to them, be supportive of them but also let them know this isn\'t something the college man does. You have to let them work it out in himself, but always let them know you love him and are disappointed.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

As for the 65-year old mother of four, with the 39-year old son who lives at home, it sounds like you’re more worried about him wearing your dress than living at home. At this point, you should be more worried about him living at home. If he pays bills, does chores around the house, and helps you any way he can, then I have no problem with that. If he doesn’t help you out in those ways, then you need to kick his big ass out of the house and make him find his own place. Tough love. You’re too old to be babysitting and taking care of a grown-assed man, unless he’s handicapped. To me, it sounds like he’s just a lazy, fat bastard. You need to grow a pair and throw his ass out of the house. At your age, you need all the peace and rest you can get. My grandmother is in the same situation with my younger cousin Jason. He’s a grown-assed man of 30, and won’t help Mama at all. She’s afraid to kick him out thinking he won’t love her anymore. I think that you’re like that, too. Your son might get upset for a bit, but he won’ stop loving you. Just sit down with him and explain why you need to be alone, if that’s what you really want. He’ll understand. He may not like it, but he’ll understand. As for your son wearing a dress, if it’s your first time catching him at it, then I wouldn’t be too worried about it. He may have just been experimenting-to see what it was like to wear a dress. If you catch him doing it again, just ask him what the hell does he think he’s doing. Ask him if he’s trying to come out of the closet (is he gay/ homosexual?) or does he have a fetish for wearing woman’s dresses. You never know unless you ask; or, as I like to say, “A man never knows, unless he tests himself.” If his wearing dresses offends you so much (another good reason to boot him out of the house), just ask him to please not do that around you. Be open with how you feel. He will respect you more. In other words, don’t be scared, to let him know how you feel about his actions.

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Not to worry! You now have a son and daughter rolled into one. :) Its an old saying I like to live by. Don''t kick my dog and I wont kick your cat. For each his own. God did not say we had to follow our leaders. No way. We must live our own way. So let your son be who he is and belive me there is a lot of gay guys on the football teams. The part about him still living with you concerns ma a lot. Kick his lazy ass to the curb. It will then be sink or swim. Mind you he is still your child , dress or no dress. Help him come to terms with who he is in his heart.

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First off, I hope the two of you, you and your son, wear the same size! And Mom I hate to break this to ya, but your son is probably a gay cross-dresser. And if I had to bet, this is not the first time he’s dressed in women’s clothes. Have you thought that maybe he meant for you to catch him in your dress? I believe this was the only way he knew how to tell you about the real him. Gay and lesbian children don’t always know how to tell there parents that they are gay. Most times the parents find out about their childs lifestyle by accident, or what I call “Accidently on purpose.” It’s important that once you’ve find out about the lifestyle of your child (in this case your son) is that you still love him, and you’re going to support him. This doesn’t always happen, and the child will either live in “The Closet” or cut off all contact with disapproving Mother, Father, or other family members. If you ask your son I bet he will tell you that he experience and see the world differently. Boy George once said “America has always loved a good Drag Queen.” Yes, Gays have often served as priests (A very healthy percentage of the clergy of organized churches is gay). As shamans, as advisors, as medicine people in our tribes. The gay child who does not look around does not survive. From childhood many of us who are gay or a lesbian are forced to deal with our situations, and to face them alone. Our lives are violent-that is, we are all too often on the receiving end of the most violent culture ever seen on the face of the earth. The people we love and we’re worried about seem to connect the violence with gay people, and not-God forbid-themselves. It becomes the old “Blame the victim” game. Some believe we are all “Born Gay”, others think we “Choose to be gay.” Either way its not an easy “lifestyle”, and support from Mom, Dad, or other family members doesn’t make it easier, but it does make it bearable!

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For two years I have been unemployed by choice just laying at my moms house doing nothing. My Mother is fed. up with my act and has given me 6 months to vacant the house; that was 4½ months ago. Yesterday I found a job nothing heavy a job nonetheless. Now the real issue: My mother friend whose 38 and fine has given me the keys to her house with strings. What should I do?

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By: Gregory Gant

First of all it’s hard to even put you in the category of being a man. A man would not still be at home free loading off of his mom. And what make the situation even worse is you’re going to say you done it by choice, And on top of all that you say she Fed-up with your act. Well if I was your mother you would have been fed up with your own act. Because your ass would have been acting in a homeless shelter. Secondly why would you even consider wrecking your mother’s friends life? And wrecking their friendship. What you think you a pimp or something. Get you a job and your own place. A man provide, love, nurture, and protect. That’s what you should do. Then you can say that you are a black Man. Come on bra, man up. Now good luck on your journey of becoming a man.

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By: Andre Lewis

Response to the 21 year old unemployed blackman. First off, let me say if I was your mother, I would have kicked your lazy ass out the house a long time ago! Ain’t no way in the hell I’m gonna let a grown man or woman lay around my house & free load while I bust my ass to pay bills & such. Something must be wrong with your mother for letting you stay & lay around for that long..Now, you have a 38 year old woman who wants you to be with her with strings. It’s alright for an older woman to be with a man of age & visa versa; but something is very wrong with this woman if she wants a lazy ass brother like you! She ain’t got her priorities together. For starters, before you start worrying about being with & living with another woman, you need to get yourself together. A woman is only gonna be with a man for so long if she see he ain’t gonna work no more & she might not be as nice as your mother. You might end up homeless. So before you go getting all deep in a relationship &moving in with another woman. Work, save your money & get your own place so you’ll have something to fall back on. Stand up & be a man. Mama ain’t gonna be around forever to take care of your lazy ass. And make sure you pay your mother back for all your freeloading!!!

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I send my son money every month to buy extra food and supplies. Lately he keeps asking me for more money. Before he went to prison he was using drugs Could he be using drugs inside prison?

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You can not tell at all. Here is where trust comes in. Now there are some signs that may or maynot mean hes using if he wants you to put cash on another convicts books. But as I said before you can not know for sure. If you cut him off you may be putting him in danger. Ask him straight out "are you using drugs again?" The thing is trust. At anyrate you don't want to leave him high and dry. You are his life line.

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

Hate to be the bad guy here, but Ma’am it’s a large probability that he is. Drug use is common in prison and aplenty. Factor these few things. $100 on commissary a month, books, magazines, and some institutions, clothes, CD’s and video games. If your son isn’t able to receive these luxeries or if his cell is not looking like a mini-supermarket then you might have to take a harder look at your boy cause drugs might not be the problem he might just be getting extorted. Ma’am my suggestion would be that you have a heart 2 heart with your son to get a better understanding of his stay in prison.

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Who should I cast my vote for President and Why?

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

That depends on who you are and where you plan on being in 4 years. If you plan on being part of the Military and fighting in Exotic Countries I’d say Senator John McCain. Still a dishwasher with 25% of your salary going to a phantom Social Security and Medicade program John McCain. Plans to marry a multi-millionary John McCain. A member of NRA (National Rifle Association) John McCain. *Now if Senator Hilary Clinton wins the Democratic Nomination I unwilling say Senator Clinton, but at least that will give you four years to figure it all out. *Now if Senator Barack Obama wins the Democratic Nomination I’d say for him: he gives you your best chance of getting ahead because his ideas are Practical, refreshing and more focused of building for tomorrow. Add that along with his solid track record and you have a President that will at least implement a few of his campaign promised. Plus for a 26 y.o. making less than $35k he (Senator Obama) give you a ray of hope. (Check his under 40 radar) Question #3 From a 65 y.o. mother of 4 My son is 39 y.o. who has been living at home since college. He played football as a offensive lineman at Central Washington University. After his football career he has hardly done anything: he has gained weight. He works at a local tavern and sleeps all day. I love him very much, but last week I walked in on him and caught him wearing one of my dresses. What should I do? Answer: Ma’am at this stage to not much you can do except hide your good dresses before he squeeze his big self into them and destroy those as well. If you can move to Florida and model your dresses for a 55 y.o. retiree. Anything else will just add stress to your nights and shorten your days. Love is Love but for crying out loud he’s 39! *Note: Senator Clinton and Obama are fighting tooth and nail for that Democratic Nomination. I placed this in the mail before the Ohio, and Texas primary so I am not prov to the results. McCain basically have the Republican Nomination.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

As for the 26 year old dishwasher who wants to know who to vote for president and why: If you’re asking that question to the general public, then you don’t need to vote; because, you would get hundreds of different reasons for voting for each candidate. All politicians are liars-they always tell you they’ll do one thing; but, once they get in office, they’ll do something else for their own agenda. Besides, in the end, it don’t matter who you vote for, because the electoral college elects who the next president and vice-president will be, and they have already been elected; it just hasn’t went public yet, because they’re just going through the motions..

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My first thought is Who could be the best president and my vote goes to Hillary Cliton. Why? The world is not yet ready for the USA to have a black man run it. Don't get me wrong, Obama is good, but I still like the lady and at the end of the day all smart money goes to Cliton, misspelled names Ok.

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I ‘m from a “Red State” who supports the Republican Party, and would probably crock before they voted for a woman or a black man, whom are both Democratics. But let me tell you if prisoners could vote, not only would I vote for a Democratic, but I’d also vote for a woman! If you are a woman and don’t support Hillary Clinton, then you are wrong! We’ve seen for the last 8 years how a Republican has ran this country, and we’ve seen how many lives our Republicans have cost us. How many Sons, Daughters, Husbands, and Wives have died unnecessary?! We know Hillary knows how to run this country because she ran this country when Bill was President. Don’t be a fool Bill Clinton, did not run this country! Everybody knows behind every man is a good Woman! Bill Clinton was know for the “Come Back Kid” For winning the Democratic Nomination against long odds. Sixteen years later, Hillary has claimed that title. Do we really want another Republican in the White House? My answer, Hell No! Why vote Democrat? The reasons are many, but for starters-how about Freedom. Freedom of and freedom from religion, freedom to make our own choices, freedom to pursue life, liberty and happiness as we see fit. But since money is the only thing Republicans respond to, how about this: The greatest properity in this nation’s history was under Bill Clinton’s watch (remember what I said about Hillary when Bill was president?) And the greatest national debt under George W. Bush’s. Democrats get it, and guess what, Republicans don’t! Who do you want answering the red phone in the white house at 3am? Me? I want Hillary Clinton! Remember the Democrats helps the poor, and the Republicans help themselves.

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My 15 year old daughter is dating a 19 y.o. man what should I do?

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By: Andre Lewis

Join GA (Grandmothers Association) because at 35 you’ll be one of the youngest and hottest members which the others will envy, but wouldn’t want to be since most of the parenting will fall on your shoulders. Or you can speak with your daughter about the backlash of dating a 19 y.o. such as youthfulness, education, his/ her sincerity, job opportunities, career etc, but becareful not to push her farther into his arms cause at 15 she’s easily alienated and if she’s determined to continue dating him there’s always birth control and prayer. Oh I forgot Grandparents Day is celebrated the Sunday after Labor Day.

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By: Christopher Lee Price

As for the 35-year old Latina single mom: If your 15-year old daughter is dating a 19-year old man, it all depends on what kind of guy he is. I am 35-years old, too; but, when I was 19-years old, I have also been in the above situation with a 14-or 15-year old girl. Well technically, I was a senior in high school, and I never asked those girls how old they were, but I knew that they were in 9th-or 10th grade. Me personally, I mostly wanted to get laid, but I wanted to keep them around, so I tried to be as respectful as I could toward them. At that time, I didn’t want to have children with them, so I tried to be as careful as possible, but that’s just me. Like I said, it really depends on who the 19 year old man is. Is he a thug? A church goer? A respectful type individual toward you and your daughter? First, you should have as many conversations as you can with him, to feel him out and learn what kind of man he is. Also, speak with your daughter about the man. Be open and supportive with her. Make sure you converse with her about birth control, condoms, etc. To help protect her from STD’s , AIDS, etc. Make sure she understands all of the risks, especially in the event that her man is a thug, because he’ll just want to get laid and not care. Even though kids at 15 are much smarter than we were at 15, because of technology, you still need to teach your daughter about sex and its risks. In the heat of passion, we hardly ever think about the consequences; but, if you’ll keep having “casual” conversations with your daughter about sex and its risks, you’ll have a better chance of getting through to her. Before she has sex, hopefully she’ll think twice about it. Make sure you stay calm and rational. If you forbid her and scream and yell, that will only push her further into his arms. If your daughter’s man is a scumbag that has no respect for her, then you’re treading on dangerous ground; but, it’s a deadly world out there. You should consider tracking devices from spy outlets, etc. In your own right, you will have to become a super-spy. If you snoop and track your daughter and you find out something twisted, never let her know you know; that will only push a wedge between you two. If you snoop, never get caught at it. You will have to be cunning. Even though you may find out things about them that you don’t like, don’t throw it in her face (remember the wedge), but at least you will know that they can’t be trusted, and you can render certain restrictions and keep a closer eye on her. To give a better option, I would need all the details about your 15-year old daughter and the 19-year old man. There is a great deal missing from this situation. Without all of the evidence, nobody can give a true opinion. Like I said, first off, it all depends on what kind of guy the 19-year old man is. If you want a follow up, please contact me.

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If my 15year old daughter wanted to date a 19yearold man I would befriend him and she would back off. Mind you , you have to be careful with your daughter, if you loose their friend ship she will not ask for your help but if you befriend then you remain in control. That's not to say you give him your blessing but from the inside you have more control. Or just buy him off(smile). Once again what ever you do keep your friendship in contact with your daughter. Some say you can't be friends with your daughter that's not true. Who do you think has a better way with their kids, the one who s also their friend. You call your husband or wife your best friend why no your kids also.

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Okay, First off I’m from the South where country folk raise ole shot guns. So if my daughter (and yes I have one) came home with a 19 year old, and she was just 15, Ole boy would leave with an ass full of buck-shot! Then my 15 year old would be locked in a closet and be escorted everywhere she went! Until she turned 18! On the real, if a 19 y.o. Man is dating a 15 y.o. Girl, then something is very wrong with that picture! In the southern state I live in it’s a crime for a 19 y.o. to date a 15 y.o.! The 19 y.o. would end up locked-up (and I’d make sure he was) and then when he is released he’ll have to register as a sex offender, for the rest of his life. Men need to leave little girls alone period!! At 15 years old a young girls mind is still developing and they can not comprehend at the mental level of a 19 year old. You need to take the time to talk with your daughter, because knowledge is a crucial and invigorating force. If you just tell your daughter that the 19 y.o. is “too old” for her, and forbade her to see him, this is only going to increase the allure. Your daughter will figure sex is a given since he is older, and has had older girlfriends. Plus she’s learning from her, friends, and the movies, and the music videos, and everyone is “Doing it” anyway. What young girls don’t understand is that what you do with your bodies often ends up binding your heart. What they don’t realize “Doing It” means that they’ve boarded a one-way express train for adulthood, which is on a track lined with signs reading “No returning back” Sexual abuse….Do you know what sexual abuse is? Sexual abuse is any contact or interaction (visual, verbal, or psychological) between a child/ adolescent and an adult when the child/ adolescent is being used for any sexual stimulation! Sexual abuse is committed by a person under the age of 18 when that person is older than the victim. All sexual interaction is damaging and soul-distorting. 74% of the least-severely abused victims report severe damage later in life. Sexual abuse doesn’t devastate only a victim’s internal world. Whatever damage is done internally will eventually affect the external, observable life. We must teach our adolescents the importance of their role in the future. Every girl and woman wants: Self-determination, autonomy, with in reason, life without undue fear, liberty without causing harm to others, and the ability to pursue one’s happiness. Girls need to be taught the importance of cultural history, including the history of the women’s movement, and let them know it’s a life movement that they can and should become a part of. A relationship with anyone is a critical shaper of a girl’s image of who she can become for the good or bad. Parents are primary role models for their daughters. Wouldn’t you agree we need to invest time and energy into reestablishing basic values?!

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By: Rockwell Jones 3rd

My answer to the question of “My 15 year old daughter wanting to date a 19 year old?” Unless he’s the Heir to Bill Gates Fortune, Prince Sultan or agree to a permanent chaperon the answer is No! That 4 year age difference is equivalent to dog years and that’s his plans for a 15 year old. Pun Intended!